Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with?
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with?
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/17/2012
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I have ADHD and it really doesn't effect anything really.
11/17/2012
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I have ADHD so I know what it's like, etc.
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/17/2012
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ADHD
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/17/2012
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my son in law has it and hes so high functioning id rather sita nd deal withs oemone with it the adhd
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/17/2012
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ADHD
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/17/2012
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My fiance has Aspergers
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/17/2012
ADHD
11/18/2012
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I score 42 on the aspie test... I prefer my own peeps. ADHD folks make me nervous to and they hurt my feelings too often.
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/18/2012
I am said to show signs of both...so...
But my girlfriend loves me anyway, so it is all good. :3
But my girlfriend loves me anyway, so it is all good. :3
11/18/2012
ADHD
11/18/2012
I have ADD and it affects my memory and attention span. I'd imagine being with someone else with it would result in some weird conversations, but I think I could deal with that.
11/18/2012
ADHD
11/18/2012
I think if you love them enough it won't matter =) But, I have ADHD, and I am not that difficult to deal with, so I think I would lean that way!
11/18/2012
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ADHD
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/18/2012
ADHD
11/18/2012
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ADHD
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/18/2012
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I didn't vote because it is hard for me to choose a disability without having a person behind it. My son is 7 and he is autistic as well as ADD, ODD and OCD. Of course I love him, but it is very difficult sometimes to 'deal' with. If I didn't know him and he wasn't my son, before I had him, I would have probably said I wouldn't be able to handle it. But it is totally different now.
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/18/2012
ADHD
11/18/2012
Out of the two, ADHD. Can I ask why you're asking this question?
11/18/2012
My fiance has ADHD and I have Aspergers (technically PDD-NOS, same thing though). I've had other friends in the past with ADHD and we got along well. I feel that we had things beneath the surface in common.
By the way, that's a huge generalization at any rate because every single person is different.
By the way, that's a huge generalization at any rate because every single person is different.
11/18/2012
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I dated someone with ADHD, and also someone with Aspergers.
Originally posted by
PropertyOfPotter
Out of the two, ADHD. Can I ask why you're asking this question?
11/19/2012
"Deal with?" =/
11/19/2012
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Agreed. That phrasing is problematic. Especially considering how many people on the forums have these conditions
Originally posted by
GONE!
"Deal with?" =/
11/22/2012
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Yup.
Originally posted by
Danneh
Agreed. That phrasing is problematic. Especially considering how many people on the forums have these conditions
11/22/2012
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AdHd for sure
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
11/22/2012
ADHD by far.
12/12/2012
I have aspergers, and i really hate meeting other people with it, because i find it so hard to understand them.... i know it sounds weird, but its so difficult for me. I'd prefer ADHD in an other half
01/02/2013
I have family who fall on various parts of the autism spectrum, so I like to think I would be able to deal with an Aspie.
01/02/2013
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my previous significant other was both. my wife now is just the ADHD. definitely prefer just that. I call myself the ADD whisperer.
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
01/12/2013
I don't think that it would really make a difference. Any new partner you have is going to have their own quirks. It doesn't matter if they're bipolar, ADHD, dyslexic or what.
Every single person is difficult to deal with in some ways and easy in other ways. I like to think that I hit the jack-pot with my fiance, because all in all, he's an easy going guy and for the 5 years we've been together we've gotten along fabulously. But even he has his faults, and I know I have mine.
Every single person is difficult to deal with in some ways and easy in other ways. I like to think that I hit the jack-pot with my fiance, because all in all, he's an easy going guy and for the 5 years we've been together we've gotten along fabulously. But even he has his faults, and I know I have mine.
01/19/2013
i hate these type of questions because this is a disability forum where i expect to read things or find information about having sex with disabilities not "would you rather." I think polls like this add to the stigma that comes with having these types of disabilities and it's kind of gross. Like Septimus said, every person has their quirks, wether they have a mental or physical handicap.
01/21/2013
Either. Neither will stop me from being me.
01/21/2013
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I know several people with ADHD and it really does not affect much in their lives.
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
01/21/2013
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Either one.
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
01/21/2013
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Agreed.
Originally posted by
bratcat
i hate these type of questions because this is a disability forum where i expect to read things or find information about having sex with disabilities not "would you rather." I think polls like this add to the stigma that comes with
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i hate these type of questions because this is a disability forum where i expect to read things or find information about having sex with disabilities not "would you rather." I think polls like this add to the stigma that comes with having these types of disabilities and it's kind of gross. Like Septimus said, every person has their quirks, wether they have a mental or physical handicap.
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01/22/2013
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adhd...
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
02/01/2013
This question is horribly phrased, but I'm going to ignore the problematic phrasing to share my experiences as I have ADHD. I find it difficult to interact with other ADHDers, especially without any form of meds. Trains of thought constantly crash, conversations fail to go anywhere, and plans are inconsistent. I have a close friend with Aspergers, and we seem to compliment one another well.
02/01/2013
I'm sick of seeing the phrase "deal with" on these types of posts. People are not labels. I cannot stand these; love relationships shouldn't be treated like this.
02/10/2013
ADHD
02/25/2013
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I've met some really brilliant and interesting people on the autism spectrum.
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
02/25/2013
ADHD seems a lot easier to medicate/handle.
03/16/2013
I strongly suspect my first bf had Aspergers. He was socially awkward to the extreme and had some intellectual deficits. I have no experience with ADHD but at least it can be medicated, where as far as I know there's no treatment for Aspergers.
04/02/2013
ADHD would be more controllable I think
04/02/2013
The phrasing "deal with" seems problematic to me.
04/02/2013
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ADHD, because medication can help with that disorder
Originally posted by
RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
05/05/2013
I find this post problematic and ableist, so I'm not voting.
You don't "deal" with people. People with autism and people with ADHD are individuals, the way their symptoms express will be individual, you love them as people, not their disorders.
I definitely wouldn't want to date anyone who would want to "deal" with me rather than love me for who I am.
You don't "deal" with people. People with autism and people with ADHD are individuals, the way their symptoms express will be individual, you love them as people, not their disorders.
I definitely wouldn't want to date anyone who would want to "deal" with me rather than love me for who I am.
02/09/2014
lol I would say either or. I myself am an Aspie so there is that little part of me that whispers "Say Aspie you fool."
02/10/2014
I can't deal with my nephew (ADHD) but can easily tolerate my coworkers (many with mild Aspergers. go go scientists!)
07/20/2014
i have both and my panther has adhd and id rather deal wit him then me lol
07/20/2014
i didn't bother voting because it doesn't matter. why are you treating it as something to be dealt with?
02/02/2017
KittenGoddessSparlkes02
I personally have ADHD and so do many members of my family. And isn;t something you 'deal with' which in all reality I feel is a harsh term to use. I have hard times in my life because of having ADHD and all the health problems I have and so does my husband. But I try to live a normal life as best I can.
And I would love my husband even if it wasn't born a preemie like I was and had CP and other health problems...and I know he feels the same way about me. And our two wonderful amazing children...
And I would love my husband even if it wasn't born a preemie like I was and had CP and other health problems...and I know he feels the same way about me. And our two wonderful amazing children...
03/15/2017
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Being happy and enjoying life is the secret to life. Irregardless who one is, where from, etc etc.
Originally posted by
KittenGoddessSparlkes02
I personally have ADHD and so do many members of my family. And isn;t something you 'deal with' which in all reality I feel is a harsh term to use. I have hard times in my life because of having ADHD and all the health problems I have and so
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I personally have ADHD and so do many members of my family. And isn;t something you 'deal with' which in all reality I feel is a harsh term to use. I have hard times in my life because of having ADHD and all the health problems I have and so does my husband. But I try to live a normal life as best I can.
And I would love my husband even if it wasn't born a preemie like I was and had CP and other health problems...and I know he feels the same way about me. And our two wonderful amazing children... less
And I would love my husband even if it wasn't born a preemie like I was and had CP and other health problems...and I know he feels the same way about me. And our two wonderful amazing children... less
03/15/2017
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Ditto.
Originally posted by
OH&W, Lovebears
Being happy and enjoying life is the secret to life. Irregardless who one is, where from, etc etc.
03/18/2017
I guess someone must have voted recently to get this thread back up into the recent list, and wow. I am so glad to see I am not the only one who was outraged by the wording of this question.
So, I have Aspergers (although that isn't where my own list of health problems end). And my SO has ADHD. Of course at times I do personally feel like he's just settling and choosing to put up with my "quirks" and deal with me, but this is a very negative mindset to have that typically comes when I'm stressed/depressed and he assures me that it is not the case. He doesn't "deal with" me, just like I don't "deal with" him. I love him more than anything else in the world.
So, I have Aspergers (although that isn't where my own list of health problems end). And my SO has ADHD. Of course at times I do personally feel like he's just settling and choosing to put up with my "quirks" and deal with me, but this is a very negative mindset to have that typically comes when I'm stressed/depressed and he assures me that it is not the case. He doesn't "deal with" me, just like I don't "deal with" him. I love him more than anything else in the world.
09/28/2017
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