A male reader wrote into EMandLO.com recently to ask us what women think about circumcision (he is uncut). Specifically, he wanted to know if there is a difference between what people are willing to say publicly, and what they actually believe privately, in the bedroom. In other words, are our ethical and erotic preferences in mind?
What Do Women (And Men) Really Think About Circumcision? - from Em and Lo
07/21/2010
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Well, I can say that I haven't ever been with someone who is intact, but I wouldn't be turned off by it. I just have never had the opportunity to be with someone who wasn't circumcised.
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
A male reader wrote into EMandLO.com recently to ask us what women think about circumcision (he is uncut). Specifically, he wanted to know if there is a difference between what people are willing to say publicly, and what they actually believe
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A male reader wrote into EMandLO.com recently to ask us what women think about circumcision (he is uncut). Specifically, he wanted to know if there is a difference between what people are willing to say publicly, and what they actually believe privately, in the bedroom. In other words, are our ethical and erotic preferences in mind?
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I actually am absolutely against circumcision and both of my sons we left intact. My husband was circumcised, but he wishes that he hadn't been. We've taken steps to attempt to restretch his foreskin, it's worked a bit, his skin is a little bit looser now, but it'll never be the same as it would have been if it had been left intact in the first place.
07/21/2010
I think it's a rather unnecessary practice. My family is uncut, my bf is uncut, and I have a few friends who are uncut. To me being cut just seems... weird now, lol. If I ever have a son I for sure will make sure he doesn't get cut, no matter what doctors say. Unless it's a threat to his very life, why fix what isn't broken?
07/21/2010
I have absolutely no preference on whether the men I'm with are cut or not. I would not want to have my child circumcised only because I think it's kind of unfair to remove a part of his body that he might want back later on. I've heard that cut penises are easier to keep clean, etc. but maybe the little extra work would be ok? I wouldn't feel right making that choice for my child unless there was a firm and serious medical reason to.
07/21/2010
I prefer intact. The foreskin is a functional part of male anatomy, and I feel very strongly that genital mutilation is wrong.
07/21/2010
I prefer cut, my hubby is cut and my son was cut, I just think it looks cleaner, and they say that the pediatric board is now recommending it due to cleanliness. But this is JMO!
07/21/2010
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Actually it's the other way around. They USED to because they thought it was cleaner. This is being changed and many pediatricians are not recommending it and the AAP is no longer saying that it should be done routinely since there is nothing that shows that it is any cleaner.
Originally posted by
SexyySarah
I prefer cut, my hubby is cut and my son was cut, I just think it looks cleaner, and they say that the pediatric board is now recommending it due to cleanliness. But this is JMO!
07/21/2010
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Don't worry, it's no extra work at all. You don't do anything with it. An intact penis gets treated the same way a finger does when they're babies. As they get older and the foreskin naturally separates from the gland then they will learn to pull it back and rinse with water, takes a few seconds in the shower, that's really all there is to it
Originally posted by
Tori Rebel
I have absolutely no preference on whether the men I'm with are cut or not. I would not want to have my child circumcised only because I think it's kind of unfair to remove a part of his body that he might want back later on. I've heard
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I have absolutely no preference on whether the men I'm with are cut or not. I would not want to have my child circumcised only because I think it's kind of unfair to remove a part of his body that he might want back later on. I've heard that cut penises are easier to keep clean, etc. but maybe the little extra work would be ok? I wouldn't feel right making that choice for my child unless there was a firm and serious medical reason to.
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07/21/2010
Cut,I've never been with uncut and never want to be. I hate to say it, but they really give me the willies looking at it with the floppy sleeve skin looking thing on the end.
07/21/2010
I've been with both and have absolutely no preference either way when it comes to sex. In my mind I think that circumcision is barbaric though, and I never even considered letting them do it to our son.
He's an adult now, and because of this post I got curious and asked him if it ever bothered him that we didn't let them do it. He said no, and there's no way he'd have his future sons cut either.
Alan mentioned that he wished his mother *hadn't* had him cut, because he's curious as to how much more sensitive he might have been if allowed to stay natural.
He's an adult now, and because of this post I got curious and asked him if it ever bothered him that we didn't let them do it. He said no, and there's no way he'd have his future sons cut either.
Alan mentioned that he wished his mother *hadn't* had him cut, because he's curious as to how much more sensitive he might have been if allowed to stay natural.
07/21/2010
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Thanks! Good to know, just in case I end up with a baby boy down the line.
Originally posted by
Alicia
Don't worry, it's no extra work at all. You don't do anything with it. An intact penis gets treated the same way a finger does when they're babies. As they get older and the foreskin naturally separates from the gland then they
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Don't worry, it's no extra work at all. You don't do anything with it. An intact penis gets treated the same way a finger does when they're babies. As they get older and the foreskin naturally separates from the gland then they will learn to pull it back and rinse with water, takes a few seconds in the shower, that's really all there is to it
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07/21/2010
I have been with cut and uncut men, and slightly prefer uncut simply because it makes handjobs much easier (no lube necessary!). During sex there is no difference, and I don't care about the appearance - they look virtually the same when erect anyways.
I won't get any possible future sons circumcised, because there isn't really a reason to. In fact, I have a problem with forcing what I view as cosmetic surgery on a baby that can't consent. If he wants to get cut later that's fine - and much easier than foreskin restoration if he wishes he wasn't.
I won't get any possible future sons circumcised, because there isn't really a reason to. In fact, I have a problem with forcing what I view as cosmetic surgery on a baby that can't consent. If he wants to get cut later that's fine - and much easier than foreskin restoration if he wishes he wasn't.
07/21/2010
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I actually have a baby boy on the way and going to have him circumcised. I just always knew that it would be easier on them in the long run (being easier to clean) And I don’t know of anyone who hasn't been circumcised. Just seems like it's the right and better thing to do.
Originally posted by
Alicia
Don't worry, it's no extra work at all. You don't do anything with it. An intact penis gets treated the same way a finger does when they're babies. As they get older and the foreskin naturally separates from the gland then they
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Don't worry, it's no extra work at all. You don't do anything with it. An intact penis gets treated the same way a finger does when they're babies. As they get older and the foreskin naturally separates from the gland then they will learn to pull it back and rinse with water, takes a few seconds in the shower, that's really all there is to it
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07/21/2010
I would also like to point out that sometimes when getting cut, there are complications that don't show until puberty hits. This can really mess with the psyche of some males. It's talked about in another forum, here, where this guy has been trying his hardest to repair what has been damaged: link
So far he's not having much luck, and the repair surgery was even botched and mad things worse.
So far he's not having much luck, and the repair surgery was even botched and mad things worse.
07/21/2010
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It honestly isn't any extra work than it is for a woman to wash her labia. If you haven't already I'd look into researching it. It's of course a personal choice, but if you're worried about it being easier or cleaner..it's a myth that it's harder to do or that it's cleaner. Also, these day it's not the norm..it's actually about 50/50 and the trend is leaning towards more being intact lately.
Originally posted by
*Ashley*
I actually have a baby boy on the way and going to have him circumcised. I just always knew that it would be easier on them in the long run (being easier to clean) And I don’t know of anyone who hasn't been circumcised. Just seems like it's
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I actually have a baby boy on the way and going to have him circumcised. I just always knew that it would be easier on them in the long run (being easier to clean) And I don’t know of anyone who hasn't been circumcised. Just seems like it's the right and better thing to do.
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Also, I don't know about "right" or "better" since sexually speaking there is a lot of added sensation when they're left intact since the foreskin is filled with nerve ends.
07/21/2010
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My ex-husband was actually cut incorrectly as a baby and although it wasn't a severe case, there were definitely some skin growth and pull issues because of it. I saw a case very similar, just more extreme than my ex's on Dr. 90210 and it required pretty invasive surgery to repair. Did not look like fun!
Originally posted by
Envy
I would also like to point out that sometimes when getting cut, there are complications that don't show until puberty hits. This can really mess with the psyche of some males. It's talked about in another forum, here, where this guy has been
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I would also like to point out that sometimes when getting cut, there are complications that don't show until puberty hits. This can really mess with the psyche of some males. It's talked about in another forum, here, where this guy has been trying his hardest to repair what has been damaged: link
So far he's not having much luck, and the repair surgery was even botched and mad things worse. less
So far he's not having much luck, and the repair surgery was even botched and mad things worse. less
07/21/2010
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It's not. i heard one case of a man who had it done so wrong they had to cut the penis off entirely and 'sculpted' girl parts and the parents raised him like a girl. He found out later in life he was a boy and it devastated him, he tried to get a reconstructed penis and everything. In the end he ended up committing suicide.
Originally posted by
Tori Rebel
My ex-husband was actually cut incorrectly as a baby and although it wasn't a severe case, there were definitely some skin growth and pull issues because of it. I saw a case very similar, just more extreme than my ex's on Dr. 90210 and it
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My ex-husband was actually cut incorrectly as a baby and although it wasn't a severe case, there were definitely some skin growth and pull issues because of it. I saw a case very similar, just more extreme than my ex's on Dr. 90210 and it required pretty invasive surgery to repair. Did not look like fun!
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07/21/2010
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I guess I'll have to do more research.
Originally posted by
Alicia
It honestly isn't any extra work than it is for a woman to wash her labia. If you haven't already I'd look into researching it. It's of course a personal choice, but if you're worried about it being easier or cleaner..it's a
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It honestly isn't any extra work than it is for a woman to wash her labia. If you haven't already I'd look into researching it. It's of course a personal choice, but if you're worried about it being easier or cleaner..it's a myth that it's harder to do or that it's cleaner. Also, these day it's not the norm..it's actually about 50/50 and the trend is leaning towards more being intact lately.
Also, I don't know about "right" or "better" since sexually speaking there is a lot of added sensation when they're left intact since the foreskin is filled with nerve ends. less
Also, I don't know about "right" or "better" since sexually speaking there is a lot of added sensation when they're left intact since the foreskin is filled with nerve ends. less
I know my partner is clipped but not all the way. It's like they cut 50% of it, leaving some behind. He says he feels lucky. Not wanting all the extra but not wanting it all cut off either..
07/21/2010
Only one person I had been with had foreskin. Personally I prefer cut. It feels better, doesn't get in the way, and it doesn't smell since you don't have to be particularly careful of how you clean it.
07/21/2010
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I remember that...really sad.
Originally posted by
Envy
It's not. i heard one case of a man who had it done so wrong they had to cut the penis off entirely and 'sculpted' girl parts and the parents raised him like a girl. He found out later in life he was a boy and it devastated him, he tried
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It's not. i heard one case of a man who had it done so wrong they had to cut the penis off entirely and 'sculpted' girl parts and the parents raised him like a girl. He found out later in life he was a boy and it devastated him, he tried to get a reconstructed penis and everything. In the end he ended up committing suicide.
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07/21/2010
I am against circumcision, because there can be very bad consequence to removing the foreskin. It isn't always a perfect job, and I know some men who actually feel pain during intercourse as a result of that.
I do not have any preference between cut or uncut. It's different yes, but not by that much. I've had more spontaneous morning sex with boyfriends who were cut, since they didn't feel anxious that they may need a little wash.
However, I really have fun giving a blow job to a man who is uncut. It's a little extra that you can play with that really blows his mind away, and that you can't do with a man who is circumcized. The reactions I get are worth it.
I love morning sex though... but blow jobs are so much fun when they are uncut. It's a tough choice, but it's really not based on looks. I like how a penis looks, whether it is cut or not.
I do not have any preference between cut or uncut. It's different yes, but not by that much. I've had more spontaneous morning sex with boyfriends who were cut, since they didn't feel anxious that they may need a little wash.
However, I really have fun giving a blow job to a man who is uncut. It's a little extra that you can play with that really blows his mind away, and that you can't do with a man who is circumcized. The reactions I get are worth it.
I love morning sex though... but blow jobs are so much fun when they are uncut. It's a tough choice, but it's really not based on looks. I like how a penis looks, whether it is cut or not.
07/21/2010
I am against circumcision, but have no sexual preference. I think they both look fine. My husband is cut, but he doesn't like the look of uncut either.
07/21/2010
I am cut, and have always wished they'd left it alone. I have a son and refused to have him circumsized. Later in life if he wants to do have it done due to religious or health reasons, it will up to him. I feel that I have a complex about it, and am kind of resentful of it. What is it 33% of the nerve endings gone???
07/21/2010
I say keep it. If there's a problem later you can always take it off, but until there's a problem leave it where it is.
07/21/2010
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heheheh "willies"
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
Cut,I've never been with uncut and never want to be. I hate to say it, but they really give me the willies looking at it with the floppy sleeve skin looking thing on the end.
I'm cut and if/when I have a son, I wouldn't get him cut. If he wants to, I'll let it be his choice later, but I wouldn't force it on him for aesthetics.
07/21/2010
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This is exactly how my husband is. He really resents that it was done because once it's done it can't be changed. Where as, like you're saying, if you don't have it done and the child grows up and want it done then they can make that decision. But with it being so many nerve endings (I think you're about right in percentage) I wouldn't think many men would. I doubt either of my boys will end up wanting it done later in life, they're only 4 and 5 and already are in love with their penises lol
Originally posted by
trios
I am cut, and have always wished they'd left it alone. I have a son and refused to have him circumsized. Later in life if he wants to do have it done due to religious or health reasons, it will up to him. I feel that I have a complex about it,
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I am cut, and have always wished they'd left it alone. I have a son and refused to have him circumsized. Later in life if he wants to do have it done due to religious or health reasons, it will up to him. I feel that I have a complex about it, and am kind of resentful of it. What is it 33% of the nerve endings gone???
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07/21/2010
My husband is uncut and I like it just fine. I wonder if that somehow plays into the fact that he lasts so long. But he's the only one I've ever slept with that is uncut. I do prefer it that way, but I don't really mind them cut either. I do wish there was a nice big dildo that was more like him though.
07/21/2010
I'm also against circumcision and any male child I have will be left intact. Though female-genital-mutalat ion is definitely worse and much more painful, especially later when sex is attempted, I think circumcision of the foreskin is the exact same thing. A baby hasn't the ability to have a say in the matter and it's his body and he should get to choose. Besides, as someone has already said here, why try to fix what isn't broken?
And Alicia is right. The medical community has found that it's actually no more sanitary to cut it off. How about we as a society just insist our men wash themselves more?
And it's horrifying to hear about stories where circumcision goes wrong!
And Alicia is right. The medical community has found that it's actually no more sanitary to cut it off. How about we as a society just insist our men wash themselves more?
And it's horrifying to hear about stories where circumcision goes wrong!
07/21/2010
Growing up, my brothers, friends and I were all circumcised. According to each of the women I've dated, they prefer it. I do know a couple guys who aren't, and they tell me that while most women are accepting, they prefer their men circumcised.
I don't see it as mutilation, and I've certainly never felt deprived of anything. Actually, I've perfectly happy for the way I am. I've read plenty of studies on the subject. And the majority conclude that circumcision neither adds to, nor takes away from the sexual experience, and I really don't think it's worth judging anyone for.
I don't see it as mutilation, and I've certainly never felt deprived of anything. Actually, I've perfectly happy for the way I am. I've read plenty of studies on the subject. And the majority conclude that circumcision neither adds to, nor takes away from the sexual experience, and I really don't think it's worth judging anyone for.
07/30/2010
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Quite honestly, I find uncircumcised penises to be...sloppy. It just seems unhygienic to me and my OCD takes a turn for the worse even considering all the things that could be trapped in their making their way into my vagina.
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
A male reader wrote into EMandLO.com recently to ask us what women think about circumcision (he is uncut). Specifically, he wanted to know if there is a difference between what people are willing to say publicly, and what they actually believe
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A male reader wrote into EMandLO.com recently to ask us what women think about circumcision (he is uncut). Specifically, he wanted to know if there is a difference between what people are willing to say publicly, and what they actually believe privately, in the bedroom. In other words, are our ethical and erotic preferences in mind?
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