Within my circle of friends, a mom was against their son getting circumcised because of the (low) risks. Dad won the battle stating she doesn't know what it's like, so she really didn't have a say. Both of their sons have been cut. Any interesting stories you would like to share?
Parents, who decided if your son would or would not be circumcised?
12/05/2011
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It isn't religious, but I remember when my brother got circumsized it was basically just "the thing to do". It's important for his health so my parents did it. Everyone in our family is circumsized also.
12/05/2011
I voted for my little brother. As far as I know he is uncircumcised. I don't remember my parents having a discussion but I do recall my mom talking to one of my uncle's about it. He seemed to be worried that the foreskin would be this big trap for dirt and lint that would cause frequent bacterial infections while my mom was talking about how it was an unnecessary surgery and an antiquated practice. My brother was however born in the hospital and not at home like he was supposed to so I don't know if my Dad talked her into it or not.
12/05/2011
I was single when I had our son so the decision was mine, but there was NO WAY I was letting anyone put my baby through a surgery just for cosmetic purposes.
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12/05/2011
I voted for people I know. They didn't seem to be aware it was an option.
It kind of makes me angry. I have four sisters and 6 nephews. All of my nephews were circumcised. The doctor came in and said we're taking your boy to get cut and they shrugged and said "Okay".
And then I hear people talking about doing it because a foreskin is ugly. Just because you the parent I don't think you have the right to choose because you think it aesthetically displeasing.
Once it's gone you can't get it back. I'd leave it and let them decide when they are old enough.
It kind of makes me angry. I have four sisters and 6 nephews. All of my nephews were circumcised. The doctor came in and said we're taking your boy to get cut and they shrugged and said "Okay".
And then I hear people talking about doing it because a foreskin is ugly. Just because you the parent I don't think you have the right to choose because you think it aesthetically displeasing.
Once it's gone you can't get it back. I'd leave it and let them decide when they are old enough.
12/09/2011
Both of our boys were circumcised they were born with hypospadias and the foreskin was needed for repair so we didn't have a choice. If we had had one we both would have made the choice not one or the other.
12/09/2011
I ensured that my son remained intact.
12/09/2011
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That's terrible that it wasn't discussed that it's an option!! Geez! They are medical professionals for goodness sake!!
Originally posted by
GoneBabyGone
I voted for people I know. They didn't seem to be aware it was an option.
It kind of makes me angry. I have four sisters and 6 nephews. All of my nephews were circumcised. The doctor came in and said we're taking your boy to get cut ... more
It kind of makes me angry. I have four sisters and 6 nephews. All of my nephews were circumcised. The doctor came in and said we're taking your boy to get cut ... more
I voted for people I know. They didn't seem to be aware it was an option.
It kind of makes me angry. I have four sisters and 6 nephews. All of my nephews were circumcised. The doctor came in and said we're taking your boy to get cut and they shrugged and said "Okay".
And then I hear people talking about doing it because a foreskin is ugly. Just because you the parent I don't think you have the right to choose because you think it aesthetically displeasing.
Once it's gone you can't get it back. I'd leave it and let them decide when they are old enough. less
It kind of makes me angry. I have four sisters and 6 nephews. All of my nephews were circumcised. The doctor came in and said we're taking your boy to get cut and they shrugged and said "Okay".
And then I hear people talking about doing it because a foreskin is ugly. Just because you the parent I don't think you have the right to choose because you think it aesthetically displeasing.
Once it's gone you can't get it back. I'd leave it and let them decide when they are old enough. less
12/11/2011
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I'm so sorry to hear that.
Originally posted by
ss143
Both of our boys were circumcised they were born with hypospadias and the foreskin was needed for repair so we didn't have a choice. If we had had one we both would have made the choice not one or the other.
12/11/2011
My dad, father in law, and husband all acted horrified at the thought of not circumcising my son. I probably would have decided not to do it if I had to make the final call, but it seemed important to them so I yielded to the men to make the decision. They all come from different geographic places and religious backgrounds, so I figured that there must be something to their choice.
12/19/2011
Like father, like son; (I'm the son; I got sliced!!!)
12/19/2011
I have no kids, but I and my guy would not agree for circumcision. I know my brother got cut and it was definitely my mother who insisted on it because that's what her dad told her to do... Go figure. My sister also kept her son intact, even though my mother tried to influence that decision. One of our reasons is related to my brother's experience with it.
He believes that this decision ruined his sex life as the skin supposedly pulls painfully during penetration or during an erection - it's been a while since my brother told me about this, and I can't remember exactly which.
He'd never tell our parents so that they would not feel bad about this, but his experience really made me think again about that practice, and I believe it should only be performed if there was an actual medical risk and it should not be done for esthetics or because people are afraid it would be dirty. For what it's worth, I think a penis looks great with or without the foreskin, and that it's as clean as the owner's hygienic habits (not just about having a foreskin or not).
Maybe the risks are low, yes, but if the child is part of the unlucky few, he's not going to be happy you made that decision for him. It's his penis.
(My intention here is just giving my opinion and inform people about the risks in order to bring up some questioning, but not at all to judge.)
He believes that this decision ruined his sex life as the skin supposedly pulls painfully during penetration or during an erection - it's been a while since my brother told me about this, and I can't remember exactly which.
He'd never tell our parents so that they would not feel bad about this, but his experience really made me think again about that practice, and I believe it should only be performed if there was an actual medical risk and it should not be done for esthetics or because people are afraid it would be dirty. For what it's worth, I think a penis looks great with or without the foreskin, and that it's as clean as the owner's hygienic habits (not just about having a foreskin or not).
Maybe the risks are low, yes, but if the child is part of the unlucky few, he's not going to be happy you made that decision for him. It's his penis.
(My intention here is just giving my opinion and inform people about the risks in order to bring up some questioning, but not at all to judge.)
12/19/2011
Mutual decision for us.
12/20/2011
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Thanks for sharing your family experiences, for lack of a better word. It's risks just like this that made my female friend reference in my original post say she didn't want their sons cut.
Originally posted by
Kynky Kytty
I have no kids, but I and my guy would not agree for circumcision. I know my brother got cut and it was definitely my mother who insisted on it because that's what her dad told her to do... Go figure. My sister also kept her son intact, even
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I have no kids, but I and my guy would not agree for circumcision. I know my brother got cut and it was definitely my mother who insisted on it because that's what her dad told her to do... Go figure. My sister also kept her son intact, even though my mother tried to influence that decision. One of our reasons is related to my brother's experience with it.
He believes that this decision ruined his sex life as the skin supposedly pulls painfully during penetration or during an erection - it's been a while since my brother told me about this, and I can't remember exactly which.
He'd never tell our parents so that they would not feel bad about this, but his experience really made me think again about that practice, and I believe it should only be performed if there was an actual medical risk and it should not be done for esthetics or because people are afraid it would be dirty. For what it's worth, I think a penis looks great with or without the foreskin, and that it's as clean as the owner's hygienic habits (not just about having a foreskin or not).
Maybe the risks are low, yes, but if the child is part of the unlucky few, he's not going to be happy you made that decision for him. It's his penis.
(My intention here is just giving my opinion and inform people about the risks in order to bring up some questioning, but not at all to judge.) less
He believes that this decision ruined his sex life as the skin supposedly pulls painfully during penetration or during an erection - it's been a while since my brother told me about this, and I can't remember exactly which.
He'd never tell our parents so that they would not feel bad about this, but his experience really made me think again about that practice, and I believe it should only be performed if there was an actual medical risk and it should not be done for esthetics or because people are afraid it would be dirty. For what it's worth, I think a penis looks great with or without the foreskin, and that it's as clean as the owner's hygienic habits (not just about having a foreskin or not).
Maybe the risks are low, yes, but if the child is part of the unlucky few, he's not going to be happy you made that decision for him. It's his penis.
(My intention here is just giving my opinion and inform people about the risks in order to bring up some questioning, but not at all to judge.) less
I fully believe that it has to be a well thought-out decision.
12/23/2011
i don't have children yet, but my girlfriend and i already decided to not have any circumcisions if we have male children. it was mutual.
03/19/2012
I feel like both parents need to agree.
04/10/2012
Mutual decision.
04/10/2012
Mutual, I cannot imagine not having it done. Potty training would be odd, why does mine look so different from daddies? etc etc
04/10/2012
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its one of those "automatic" things with us. we never really discussed pros or cons.
Originally posted by
BuckeyeGal04
Within my circle of friends, a mom was against their son getting circumcised because of the (low) risks. Dad won the battle stating she doesn't know what it's like, so she really didn't have a say. Both of their sons have been cut. Any
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Within my circle of friends, a mom was against their son getting circumcised because of the (low) risks. Dad won the battle stating she doesn't know what it's like, so she really didn't have a say. Both of their sons have been cut. Any interesting stories you would like to share?
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04/11/2012
It was dads decision all the way. I believe it was a cultural thing.
04/12/2012
I don't have kids.
05/21/2012
We do not currently have children, but we have discussed this issue. Our mutual decision is no circumcision, unless dictated by medical emergency of some kind.
05/21/2012
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