My partner and I have been together for 3.5 years. We're both 20 (well, I will be this month) and I'm having trouble getting him to shower.
He grew up in a normal home that taught him about hygiene. Ever since he got an xbox Christmas of 2011 he's decreased the frequency of his showers over time. It's bad enough that him playing has lessened our sex life but now he's hardly showering. He doesn't brush his teeth daily, (he's a smoker...) and just today I was wondering the last time he showered when I realized it was Easter morning. He tried telling me 3 days ago but even if that were true, that's pretty bad too. Of course shaving his face or body is even less frequent. He also works a labor job outside so he sweats a lot.
I'm concerned and quite honestly pretty turned off. I work a desk job and shower frequently. I'm pretty upset and I have no idea what to do about it. I tried talking to him and it just felt so weird, because he's an adult. To top it off, he's uncircumcised which I have always loved but he's DEFINITELY not getting clean, so it makes it a little gross.
Now I don't really think it has to do with him not wanting me, because he still looks at me in that special way, tells me I'm sexy all the time, kisses all over me, gets very turned on when watching me play, and also gets turned on when we're just TALKING about being intimate together.
When I asked him why he just said it feels like a waste of time. Granted I have said this myself multiple times when I was grumbling and getting in the shower but I still do it because it's necessary and I love being clean. He said he'd handle it himself but I'm just reaching my breaking point with this situation. I noticed how dirty his side of the bed was yesterday and was surprised once I really looked at it. I love him, don't get me wrong. I don't mean to sound harsh. I'm just embarrassed for him, for myself, and everything else.
I don't even know if anyone can help me, I just needed to vent.
He grew up in a normal home that taught him about hygiene. Ever since he got an xbox Christmas of 2011 he's decreased the frequency of his showers over time. It's bad enough that him playing has lessened our sex life but now he's hardly showering. He doesn't brush his teeth daily, (he's a smoker...) and just today I was wondering the last time he showered when I realized it was Easter morning. He tried telling me 3 days ago but even if that were true, that's pretty bad too. Of course shaving his face or body is even less frequent. He also works a labor job outside so he sweats a lot.
I'm concerned and quite honestly pretty turned off. I work a desk job and shower frequently. I'm pretty upset and I have no idea what to do about it. I tried talking to him and it just felt so weird, because he's an adult. To top it off, he's uncircumcised which I have always loved but he's DEFINITELY not getting clean, so it makes it a little gross.
Now I don't really think it has to do with him not wanting me, because he still looks at me in that special way, tells me I'm sexy all the time, kisses all over me, gets very turned on when watching me play, and also gets turned on when we're just TALKING about being intimate together.
When I asked him why he just said it feels like a waste of time. Granted I have said this myself multiple times when I was grumbling and getting in the shower but I still do it because it's necessary and I love being clean. He said he'd handle it himself but I'm just reaching my breaking point with this situation. I noticed how dirty his side of the bed was yesterday and was surprised once I really looked at it. I love him, don't get me wrong. I don't mean to sound harsh. I'm just embarrassed for him, for myself, and everything else.
I don't even know if anyone can help me, I just needed to vent.