yep. Also, maybe try to find a way to include him in some of your play and make it fun for him too!!

Probably like everyone else noted, insecurity. I love watching my wife use toys. She knows herself best, and watching her is the biggest turn on. If she stopped wanting sex, but used her toys when she was alone, I'd become concerned, but just wanting to use toys and masturbate shouldn't have to be a secret.

My husband was the same way. I introducted toys when we were dating for 3 years. (We've been together since high school). I basically figured, well, if I buy a toy for the both of us, maybe he'll like it. I bought a vibrator that could be used for perineum massage (right underneath the scrotum, near the anus) and I gave him his first "private massage". After that I slowly brought more home, and after a while he didn't care.

He told me he was honestly scared that the toys would replace him and sex would be less enjoyable. You have to let him know that's not true. hiding your toys is not a good thing to do hun. That's basically lying That will make him more mad. Try getting him to use them with you.

lmao! me too!