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Dragon
I've been thinking about the content of some of the other threads. It seems to me that some people think that there are a lot of women that can't or never learn to pleasure themselves before they purchase a toy.
Maybe I'm old
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I've been thinking about the content of some of the other threads. It seems to me that some people think that there are a lot of women that can't or never learn to pleasure themselves before they purchase a toy.
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I think that learning about your own body first and it's pleasures is far more important. Once you have that foundational knowledge you can communicate it to a partner and ENHANCE it with a toy.
To me, the biggest toy is my mind. I'm just not in a sexual mood no matter what when I'm stressed.
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I agree, Dragon, for most women, learning how your body responds sexually should probably predate starting in with sex toys. Kid eat their food with their fingers before they use utensils, don't they? Kind of the same idea. You play with your food, feel the texture, learn what you like and don't like, before you go to tools. But, you can still fall back on your hands when it feels appropriate.
There are some women who have masturbated and had partnered sex for years and can't seem to find their orgasm. I think if they have investigated all the psychological shit that was thrust upon them as kids,
and disregard most of the Guilt factor with sex, and still can't find their Orgasms, then, of course, trying some toys, even at a younger age, to be able to orgasm is certainly acceptable.
Every person's body is different, and I do agree with you, but each woman needs to make her own choice. Manual masturbation is a great skill, one should keep in good working order throughout one's life, if possible, and should at least be given a good try (IMO over a period of months, if "not working" right away) before silicone and plastic are entered into the equation.
But, if a woman simply can't make it happen, then, of course, By Any Means Necessary.