The New Intimacy

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Contributor: heymofohey heymofohey
I have been married for 10 years, I have a 4 year old and I"m only 30 years old! I'm always trying to come up with ways to keep things fresh so I have been told to wear lingerie under my clothes during the day to keep me feeling sexy, Send him sexy messages, giving massages etc which isn't bad advice but I like toys and he will try them but he thinks that if we keep using them that I won't like having sex without them them. Any advice???
04/17/2013
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Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
(EdenFantasys)
My first piece of advice: get him on board, too! You didn't say whether or not he's doing his part to keep your relationship fresh and interesting.

My husband and I have been together for nearly 13 years, and we have a 6 year old and an 8 year old... so believe me, I share your "pain" in terms of keeping things from getting stale.

Do date nights. Plan for kinky sex. Surprise him in the shower. Leave love notes around the house. I know these things sound awfully cliche, but they can work!
04/17/2013
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
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Originally posted by heymofohey
I have been married for 10 years, I have a 4 year old and I"m only 30 years old! I'm always trying to come up with ways to keep things fresh so I have been told to wear lingerie under my clothes during the day to keep me feeling sexy, Send ... more
Date nights are very important to keep things fresh and interesting. I always try to get away for a night or two with my Master too. I love to send Him sexy messages or texts. Wearing lingerie is always fun too. or buying some new toys.
04/17/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
I'm very interested in this too and am looking for suggestions. After 26 years there's just no surprises anymore. I also agree with Jenn, he needs to be on board as much as you are.
04/17/2013
Contributor: heymofohey heymofohey
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Originally posted by heymofohey
I have been married for 10 years, I have a 4 year old and I"m only 30 years old! I'm always trying to come up with ways to keep things fresh so I have been told to wear lingerie under my clothes during the day to keep me feeling sexy, Send ... more
Thank you! Going to plan a date night for sure!
04/17/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
go out of your comfort zone and be adventrous
04/17/2013
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Date nights are great! You do both have to be on board, and then it becomes a little friendly competition to see what each of you can come up with
04/17/2013
Contributor: angel42539 angel42539
Try new things
05/10/2013
Contributor: rockme69 rockme69
Quote:
Originally posted by heymofohey
I have been married for 10 years, I have a 4 year old and I"m only 30 years old! I'm always trying to come up with ways to keep things fresh so I have been told to wear lingerie under my clothes during the day to keep me feeling sexy, Send ... more
Well I am a big fan of toys myself! They def keep things interesting. If he is thinking that.. try to do without the toys every so often so he isn't feeling insecure or discouraged. The toys might be intimidating him some.
05/16/2013