I am 28 and my boyfriend is 52. We have been together now for almost 2 years. This type of relationship, being with someone much older, is a first for me as well as for him and we are so happy with the way things have turned out so far. Experimentation has often come up in our conversations of a sexual nature and even though we have experience a few firsts together we are interested in trying more. Anal, toys, mild bondage, use of food and sex games, all have been things that we've experienced as our "firsts" together as a couple. I've never tried anything that "dirty" before and we really enjoyed it!! Anyways, my question is what are some other ways we can experiment with eachother and create more "firsts" together? Keeping his age in mind and that he is not as healthy as he was at age 20, what are some safe fun ways we can experiment more with eachother? We've discussed threesomes, but I don't think we are at that point just yet.
Experimenting with my much older boyfriend....
02/15/2013
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I hate to say it - but your fried is likely just on the precipice of some challenging new realities. ED and the need for a longer refractory period between encounters started to invade my world by about 55.
This doesn't have to be an issue. Viagra/Cialis work pretty well and my wife who is 11 years younger than me is very understanding. It takes a lot more direct stimulation to bring me to orgasm than it use to.
If you're up to these challenging realities - which are not going away - while you will remain at your peak for the next 20+ years - than go for it. But I would suggest some real soul searching on your part.
This doesn't have to be an issue. Viagra/Cialis work pretty well and my wife who is 11 years younger than me is very understanding. It takes a lot more direct stimulation to bring me to orgasm than it use to.
If you're up to these challenging realities - which are not going away - while you will remain at your peak for the next 20+ years - than go for it. But I would suggest some real soul searching on your part.
02/16/2013
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Gunsmoke, That didn't at all answer my question!!!!
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
I hate to say it - but your fried is likely just on the precipice of some challenging new realities. ED and the need for a longer refractory period between encounters started to invade my world by about 55.
This doesn't have to be an ... more
This doesn't have to be an ... more
I hate to say it - but your fried is likely just on the precipice of some challenging new realities. ED and the need for a longer refractory period between encounters started to invade my world by about 55.
This doesn't have to be an issue. Viagra/Cialis work pretty well and my wife who is 11 years younger than me is very understanding. It takes a lot more direct stimulation to bring me to orgasm than it use to.
If you're up to these challenging realities - which are not going away - while you will remain at your peak for the next 20+ years - than go for it. But I would suggest some real soul searching on your part. less
This doesn't have to be an issue. Viagra/Cialis work pretty well and my wife who is 11 years younger than me is very understanding. It takes a lot more direct stimulation to bring me to orgasm than it use to.
If you're up to these challenging realities - which are not going away - while you will remain at your peak for the next 20+ years - than go for it. But I would suggest some real soul searching on your part. less
I don't get why people always try to make me rethink my relationship with my older boyfriend. I HATE IT!!!! It's my life not yours so why worry about it so much!! We are very happy together and our sex life is AMAZING!!! Don't you think I've already thought about these things when we were still very new??? I know what I am doing and I am the happiestest I've ever been in my entire life being with him, they just don't make men like him anymore. Sex or no sex, I'd be willing to stick it out just to be with him without a doubt. Our love for eachother is better than just being able to have sex!!!!
02/16/2013
I think with Gunsmoke, he was just telling you his personal experience being a older man and giving you a little bit of an idea on what to expect. I actually appreciate his honestly in his post.
Have you tried using the massage candles? It's not a super crazy thing to do, but the idea of 'hot' wax being poured onto the body is pretty intense. Not knowing what you've done or haven't done makes it harder to give you some creative ideas. It sounds like you both have a good idea on what will work for you and what won't, I would stick with what you're doing! Try role playing, perhaps. That might be something that you both could get into and enjoy!
As long as you have patience when things don't go exactly as planned, I don't see there being a problem with you two being in a relationship together. I'm happy that you've found someone that you're happy with! That's so important!
Have you tried using the massage candles? It's not a super crazy thing to do, but the idea of 'hot' wax being poured onto the body is pretty intense. Not knowing what you've done or haven't done makes it harder to give you some creative ideas. It sounds like you both have a good idea on what will work for you and what won't, I would stick with what you're doing! Try role playing, perhaps. That might be something that you both could get into and enjoy!
As long as you have patience when things don't go exactly as planned, I don't see there being a problem with you two being in a relationship together. I'm happy that you've found someone that you're happy with! That's so important!
02/16/2013
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I agree with PoP. Gunsmoke was just trying to give you insight...No need to blow up on him. He wasn't even questioning/judging/wa nting to make you "rethink" your relationship with him and I don't see why you got so offended except for maybe you wanted to say that always and have been saying it forever and felt the weird need to say it on Eden though NO ONE was questioning your relationship. Gunsmoke IS right, though. You are at the high of your sexual peak and really should be prepared for when he may or may not have the energy for experimenting.
Originally posted by
cjvr
Gunsmoke, That didn't at all answer my question!!!!
I don't get why people always try to make me rethink my relationship with my older boyfriend. I HATE IT!!!! It's my life not yours so why worry about it so much!! We are very ... more
I don't get why people always try to make me rethink my relationship with my older boyfriend. I HATE IT!!!! It's my life not yours so why worry about it so much!! We are very ... more
Gunsmoke, That didn't at all answer my question!!!!
I don't get why people always try to make me rethink my relationship with my older boyfriend. I HATE IT!!!! It's my life not yours so why worry about it so much!! We are very happy together and our sex life is AMAZING!!! Don't you think I've already thought about these things when we were still very new??? I know what I am doing and I am the happiestest I've ever been in my entire life being with him, they just don't make men like him anymore. Sex or no sex, I'd be willing to stick it out just to be with him without a doubt. Our love for eachother is better than just being able to have sex!!!! less
I don't get why people always try to make me rethink my relationship with my older boyfriend. I HATE IT!!!! It's my life not yours so why worry about it so much!! We are very happy together and our sex life is AMAZING!!! Don't you think I've already thought about these things when we were still very new??? I know what I am doing and I am the happiestest I've ever been in my entire life being with him, they just don't make men like him anymore. Sex or no sex, I'd be willing to stick it out just to be with him without a doubt. Our love for eachother is better than just being able to have sex!!!! less
Now, that being said! Roleplaying is the best way to experiment for me. I have found many new things I like doing/get interested in. Watching porn always bring up more ideas. You guys seem to have it mostly covered, though. I say just try to enjoy sex with him. Having "firsts" together isn't really that important with him if it's like you said (sex or no sex, you'll stick it out with him).
02/16/2013
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I'm sorry I blew up. I guess I was quick to defend myself because I've had so much "advice" thrown at me about our age difference that it is driving me mad. I hear it from friends, family, even strangers believe it or not. I've had 2 people come up to me while shopping in the mall who said that they saw us together holding hands and whatever and that what I'm doing is sick and need some serious help. Another offered her opinion about us and askedhow doI plan to have any children with someone his age? Who the hell said I even wanted any children?
Originally posted by
Bleu
I agree with PoP. Gunsmoke was just trying to give you insight...No need to blow up on him. He wasn't even questioning/judging/wa nting to make you "rethink" your relationship with him and I don't see why you got so offended except
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I agree with PoP. Gunsmoke was just trying to give you insight...No need to blow up on him. He wasn't even questioning/judging/wa nting to make you "rethink" your relationship with him and I don't see why you got so offended except for maybe you wanted to say that always and have been saying it forever and felt the weird need to say it on Eden though NO ONE was questioning your relationship. Gunsmoke IS right, though. You are at the high of your sexual peak and really should be prepared for when he may or may not have the energy for experimenting.
Now, that being said! Roleplaying is the best way to experiment for me. I have found many new things I like doing/get interested in. Watching porn always bring up more ideas. You guys seem to have it mostly covered, though. I say just try to enjoy sex with him. Having "firsts" together isn't really that important with him if it's like you said (sex or no sex, you'll stick it out with him). less
Now, that being said! Roleplaying is the best way to experiment for me. I have found many new things I like doing/get interested in. Watching porn always bring up more ideas. You guys seem to have it mostly covered, though. I say just try to enjoy sex with him. Having "firsts" together isn't really that important with him if it's like you said (sex or no sex, you'll stick it out with him). less
Anyways,I am sorry Gunsmoke.
02/16/2013
Please do not rethink your relationship. I have been/and going what your thinking. my hubs and I r 20 years apart and I couldn't be happier. I had all the experience coming in (even though I am the younger one) we are trying everything and he is open to it. it also takes time to bring in new idea. make sure u r comfortable and new things will come with time. I am into bdsm and now we are a sub/dom couple its awesome
02/19/2013
There are so many things you two can do together! I am 26 years older than my fiance and we have been together for just over two years like you. Although I am not as limber or have as much stamina as I did when I was her age, that does not stop us from experimenting with so many new things for both or one of us. Whatever you two are interested in should guide what you try. If you are asking about sexual things have you considered:
joining a local kink community to explore your light bondage/kinky side, have sex in a public or semi-public place, bring in a third, had a discussion about your likes/dislikes/soft limits/hard limits when it comes to sexual activities, role play, take pictures or video yourselves...?
Just because there is an age difference, does not mean you must act like an old married couple like Edith and Archie Bunker (ask him or Google it). I feel younger than I have the past 20 years. If he feels young, which is very likely since he is in a relationship with you, communicate to find those common interests and you just may find some new amazing things to experience together.
Good luck!
joining a local kink community to explore your light bondage/kinky side, have sex in a public or semi-public place, bring in a third, had a discussion about your likes/dislikes/soft limits/hard limits when it comes to sexual activities, role play, take pictures or video yourselves...?
Just because there is an age difference, does not mean you must act like an old married couple like Edith and Archie Bunker (ask him or Google it). I feel younger than I have the past 20 years. If he feels young, which is very likely since he is in a relationship with you, communicate to find those common interests and you just may find some new amazing things to experience together.
Good luck!
02/27/2013
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