Dirty old man (or woman)

Contributor: Checkmate Checkmate
When reading discussions on any of EFs forums, or when reading reviews of any toys, what are your thoughts when you realize that the individual is 60 plus years old? I will admit I have a somewhat double standard when it comes to sexual activities amoung older individuals. While I belong to that age bracket, I tend to think that my wife and I are healthy, sexual, attractive individuals. However when I read of someone elses sexual activites at that age, I tend to think of my parents, or grandparents,,,not a pretty picture!!

What are your thoughts?
05/22/2011
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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I lost a lot of fans as a writer when I mentioned a 70-year-old character being sexually active. They just couldn't wrap their heads around the fact that a sex drive existed in someone who wasn't their definition of attractive. I get the same reaction when people realize I have a sex drive and am active simply because I am fat.

Sex isn't only for the young, slender, and attractive. If there is anything I can actually blame porn on, it's the double-standard being ingrained in the consciousness concerning who is worthy of being sexually active ... which excludes anyone over forty, anyone over 130 pounds, and anyone who doesn't look like a Hollywood type.
05/22/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I lost a lot of fans as a writer when I mentioned a 70-year-old character being sexually active. They just couldn't wrap their heads around the fact that a sex drive existed in someone who wasn't their definition of attractive. I get the same ... more
I love to see porn with older individuals, with a few lines in their face, a few extra pounds on their bodies. Barely twenty something actresses and actors rarely do anything for me. Of the porn I have seen (and I watch a lot of porn), the older (over 35 crowd) actors and actresses seem to truly enjoy the act and they seem to fake it less.

I take the opinions and advice of those older than I, more to heart than I do those younger than I. They have been around longer, and most times (if they are on this site) have had more experience than I.

My parents (my father really), grandparents and other family members consider talking about sex to be dirty or something you just don't do unless you have been drinking. I consider them ignorant to the reality that sex is healthy and good for you. So, I rarely think of them, in any means, when I see someone's age in regards to toy reviews or advice.

I can only hope that my husband and I are as sexually active, in our 70's, as we are in our late 30's and 40's!

More power to all those that already are!
05/22/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I'm fifty two and in many ways I don't feel like I've changed that much from twenty two. My breadth and depth of experience is substantially greater and perhaps I'm more tolerant of views that differ from my own but other than that... I'm the same guy I was thirty years ago.
To give and receive pleasure with one's partner is one of this short life's greatest pleasures. Please don't waste time contemplating what "other people" think.
05/22/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
I like the fact that 60+ people still enjoy sex! Lordy mercy, I certainly hope that when I hit that age I still enjoy sex!
Both of my parents are still quite good looking people despite their ages and hint that they still have a very good sex life.

It's funny- I used to drop by sometimes unannounced which I admit is rude.The last time I pulled that stunt, My mom met me at the door and said "Don't you think you ought to at least give us some notice" I said Why? What else have you all got going on? She said (with a negligee on no less! and with a smile on her pretty face) Have you never heard of viagra? Needless to say--I always called before dropping by after that!
Then a few years later on--- to my surprise good ole mom told me dad had had his lunch on the kitchen counter! And No food was involved! She giggled like a school girl! My jaw dropped open-- but I was glad that she was so happy!

My grandparents on both sides (I believe) stopped having sex after having all their kids, but I could be wrong- they may not have wanted to speak of it since in their day people just didn't speak as openly about it as they do now. The only thing 1 of my grandmothers ever confided in me about sex is that she had only experienced 1 man- my grandfather.

I have no such double standards at all about seniors having sex. In fact I think it keeps them young at heart and in body. It's most certainly good excercise for them also.

I'm with Redboxbaby--- More power to them!
05/22/2011
Contributor: sexygoddess sexygoddess
Doesn't bother me one bit. Everyone wants in on a little fun/action.
05/22/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
I hope to still be into the things I am now, when I get to that age.
05/23/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I like to hear that older people enjoy sex, it gives me hope for my future. In some ways, I hope to be better!
I was brought up with the idea that a woman's peak sexuality is at 28, since I am now 28, I don't believe it.
05/23/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
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Originally posted by Checkmate
When reading discussions on any of EFs forums, or when reading reviews of any toys, what are your thoughts when you realize that the individual is 60 plus years old? I will admit I have a somewhat double standard when it comes to sexual activities ... more
As someone who turns 50 this fall, I saw more power to them. Hope I am doing the same at 60 and 70....
05/23/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by RonLee
I'm fifty two and in many ways I don't feel like I've changed that much from twenty two. My breadth and depth of experience is substantially greater and perhaps I'm more tolerant of views that differ from my own but other than ... more
I agree. I'm 48 but I never felt my actual age, always much younger as if I was still in my early 30s.
05/23/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I think it's awesome. Sex should be enjoyed by people who are safe and mature about the situation regardless of age. I hope I can be that active when I am in my 80s and 90s. I often joke with my bf that I want to be the crazy old lady who has sex with the pool boy and will probably be pinching butts of young orderlies at the nursing home when I get old and senile!
05/23/2011
Contributor: CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
Why should someone give up on sex and other ways of self fulfillment with age. I pray that I make it to be a dirty old man. God knows the kind of reviews I would right at that age.
05/23/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
yeah, makes me hopeful for when Im old.
05/23/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Rossie
I agree. I'm 48 but I never felt my actual age, always much younger as if I was still in my early 30s.
You go girl!
05/23/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
It doesn't bother me at all, I hope that I will still be that sexually active when I'm older.
05/23/2011
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by Checkmate
When reading discussions on any of EFs forums, or when reading reviews of any toys, what are your thoughts when you realize that the individual is 60 plus years old? I will admit I have a somewhat double standard when it comes to sexual activities ... more
I think what attracts us changes as we grow older. If I look back at my childhood and teenage years, I would consider someone in their 30s as "old" and would be attracted to people my age. Now, they only appear as kids to me, and there's not even a tiny glimpse of remaining attraction (thank god). They were cute, but that's all.

I can only think that my tastes will evolve as my own body changes, but until then, while I am not turned on by the idea of doing it with someone 70 year old (I'm 28), I do not think it is disgusting to hear about their sexuality. I'm confident I'll be fine with it when my age would be right.
05/26/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Uh, who cares? I guess I don't necessarily notice how old people are or care if they're 60.
05/26/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Doesn't bother me at all! LOL. Now, on dating websites, it would bother me a bit if they actually went and messaged me something foul, I've gotten dirty messages from older men that I really didn't appreciate. But on here, it's really not a big deal at all.
07/18/2011
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
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Originally posted by Checkmate
When reading discussions on any of EFs forums, or when reading reviews of any toys, what are your thoughts when you realize that the individual is 60 plus years old? I will admit I have a somewhat double standard when it comes to sexual activities ... more
I've never really noticed the ages I guess. Doesn't really bother me though. I hope I'll be active as the years pass!
07/18/2011
Contributor: beemonkey beemonkey
I don't care... i use to date 80 y o man
08/08/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
It is nice to see them still enjoying themselves
08/08/2011
Contributor: sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
I can see why that would put some people off, since we are raised in a society that ingrains in us the core thoughts that sexually active people are supposed to be attractive, young, etc. (maybe this is also a part of our evolution- the whole Social Darwinism bit, or maybe it's just Darwinism. Or both. A healthy mix of both.)
but you've got to think, it's the same thing with "morbidly obese" people- when you read about someone using a really hot looking toy and then find out that they're "obese," part of you may or may not get turned off (or on, ya know)
but anyways, POWER TO YA if you're "old!!" seriously. enjoy life. and orgasms are a huge part of that.
11/06/2011