I'm 20, my boyfriend is 26, and when I was 18 and he was 24 people didn't like it very much. Now, not one even bats an eye at our age difference. The older I get, the less people care. Have you found this to be true as well? Or do people just care less now because I have a ring on my finger?
Does Age Difference Matter Less After Your 20s?
06/19/2012
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No. People never cared when I dated older at a young age.
Originally posted by
mjtheprincess
I'm 20, my boyfriend is 26, and when I was 18 and he was 24 people didn't like it very much. Now, not one even bats an eye at our age difference. The older I get, the less people care. Have you found this to be true as well? Or do people just
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I'm 20, my boyfriend is 26, and when I was 18 and he was 24 people didn't like it very much. Now, not one even bats an eye at our age difference. The older I get, the less people care. Have you found this to be true as well? Or do people just care less now because I have a ring on my finger?
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06/20/2012
I have seen this be true in cases like yours. It's most likely because you've matured since 18 and no one can even see the age difference, plus now everyone knows you as together.
People's opinions on my age difference will never change because most don't understand it. Being with a man who is old enough to be my father causes people to make all kinds of comments. Usually they think I am his daughter, unless our children our with us. I really don't care what people say. We laugh it off. We learned to do that a long time ago.
People's opinions on my age difference will never change because most don't understand it. Being with a man who is old enough to be my father causes people to make all kinds of comments. Usually they think I am his daughter, unless our children our with us. I really don't care what people say. We laugh it off. We learned to do that a long time ago.
06/20/2012
Yep, because you're treated as an adult, so age differences are more academic, instead of major maturity differences
06/20/2012
It definitely matters less as you get older, both for you and everyone else. I married my ex when I was 23 and he was 32, and people were squiffy about the age difference. When I was with former-Master (me 34 and him 46), nobody batted an eye.
Beck is definitely right about the maturing process from teens to twenties being a big reason for the awkwardness ... people really do change a LOT during that time period as they transition from dependent child into a self-reliant adult. Once you've established adulthood, then there's little difference of what six years looks like. Only in a drastic age differences (like Beck had mentioned) would the sniping happen, and only from puerile types which should be ignored anyway.
Beck is definitely right about the maturing process from teens to twenties being a big reason for the awkwardness ... people really do change a LOT during that time period as they transition from dependent child into a self-reliant adult. Once you've established adulthood, then there's little difference of what six years looks like. Only in a drastic age differences (like Beck had mentioned) would the sniping happen, and only from puerile types which should be ignored anyway.
06/20/2012
In my situation...I could not imagine dating my fiance when we were any younger. We started dating when I was 24 and he was 19. No one ever said anything negative about our age difference...though people do poke fun at us, but in a fun way (ya know, cougar, cradle robber, etc). However, if I think about it...I was in college when he was in junior high lol I think once both people in the relationship hit college age, the age difference doesn't matter as much. It is important to be on the same maturity level/playing field. It caused a few "problems" when he was under 21, but I wouldn't change a thing!! We are now 28 and 23 and soooo in love!
06/21/2012
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