This is a solo toy for me, too, since my husband does not like using it. He said he doesn't like the feel of rubbing against the silicone because it is "like screwing plastic." I also wish I could feel him rubbing against the G-spot. Sure, the vibrations are there, but I prefer rubbing to vibrations. I also find it painful for him to penetrate me while wearing it, and he is not large. It takes a while just to get everything "situated" so that it doesn't hurt me (another reason he doesn't like using it--the length of time it takes just to get going).
However, I like using it with dildos because I prefer to sit and grind when using it. I very, very rarely use it though. The dildo with which I like it best is the plush, bendable Vibratex Silky.