Sexy Spades Butt Plug by Doc Johnson

Contributor: chelleb1974 chelleb1974
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Was wondering if I could get people's opinions on this product. I am thinking of purchasing the medium one, and wondering how well it stays in for extended wear (like, out of the house). Thank you all!
07/04/2009
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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by chelleb1974
Was wondering if I could get people's opinions on this product. I am thinking of purchasing the medium one, and wondering how well it stays in for extended wear (like, out of the house). Thank you all!
I have the large, and it stays in very well. The neck is long, and there's plenty of difference between the body diameter and the neck diameter.

If you're going to be sitting for a long time the base might get a bit uncomfortable, though, especially if you fail to "spread your cheeks" before sitting down.
07/05/2009
Contributor: chelleb1974 chelleb1974
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Originally posted by ScottA
I have the large, and it stays in very well. The neck is long, and there's plenty of difference between the body diameter and the neck diameter.

If you're going to be sitting for a long time the base might get a bit uncomfortable, ... more
Thank you so much for your response. That was the basically the answer/opinion I was hoping for!
07/05/2009
Contributor: Kerin De Francis Kerin De Francis
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Originally posted by ScottA
I have the large, and it stays in very well. The neck is long, and there's plenty of difference between the body diameter and the neck diameter.

If you're going to be sitting for a long time the base might get a bit uncomfortable, ... more
thanks for the positive feedback!
I think they are pretty, too!
08/11/2009
Contributor: Alt Alt
They feel great.
The medium takes a little warming up to, but eventually you can get it in.

The large is HUGE and will hurt trying to get it in, but eventually you should be able to if you push enough.
08/12/2009
Contributor: Alt Alt
BTW, this topic probably should have been placed in Anal Toys section instead.
08/12/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Alt
They feel great.
The medium takes a little warming up to, but eventually you can get it in.

The large is HUGE and will hurt trying to get it in, but eventually you should be able to if you push enough.
Any pain is a signal to stop and relax, and if you can't relax enough to have no pain you should stop.

It takes a while, but I can get the Sexy Spades Large and the A-Bomb in without pain. There's definitely a sensation of tightness and stretching, but no pain. Pain is bad.
08/12/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by chelleb1974
Was wondering if I could get people's opinions on this product. I am thinking of purchasing the medium one, and wondering how well it stays in for extended wear (like, out of the house). Thank you all!
I have the small (which isn't all that small), and I really like it. It's not my favorite for wearing out due to the base size and shape, but it does stay in well.
08/12/2009
Contributor: Alt Alt
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Originally posted by ScottA
Any pain is a signal to stop and relax, and if you can't relax enough to have no pain you should stop.

It takes a while, but I can get the Sexy Spades Large and the A-Bomb in without pain. There's definitely a sensation of tightness ... more
It is mainly just the sphincter, that feels the pain, when putting the large one in.
Once it is in the rectum it feels wonderful, but I think it harder for me because I have a small hemroid on the inner sphincter.
Hell I can insert the njoy 2.0 plug in the shower without any lube, without experiencing any pain at all (and even without warming up) but it appears that anything over 2 inches starts to cause some unpleasant feelings in the sphincter.

There is no way I would get the A-bomb in though, because it is silicone. Any large objects that go into my ass must be smooth and frictionless or it wont work, haha.
08/12/2009
Contributor: Red Red
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Originally posted by ScottA
Any pain is a signal to stop and relax, and if you can't relax enough to have no pain you should stop.

It takes a while, but I can get the Sexy Spades Large and the A-Bomb in without pain. There's definitely a sensation of tightness ... more
One hundred percent agreed and repeated because its so damned important!

"Any pain is a signal to stop and relax, and if you can't relax enough to have no pain you should stop."

So very important. The point of any of this is to enjoy yourself, not to go through some sort of ordeal!
08/12/2009
Contributor: Red Red
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Originally posted by chelleb1974
Was wondering if I could get people's opinions on this product. I am thinking of purchasing the medium one, and wondering how well it stays in for extended wear (like, out of the house). Thank you all!
While I don't have a sexy spades, I have had a few glass plugs in my time. One thing I do notice with glass and water based lube is that with extended wear, it almost feels like the plug gets "stuck". I would liken this "stuck" to the way a magnet on the fridge that is left for a long time takes a bit more effort to remove than one you've just placed.

I like using greasy lubes - shea or cocoa butter based, but silicone will also be a better choice then water based.

Just some food for thought!
08/12/2009
Contributor: Alt Alt
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Originally posted by Red
One hundred percent agreed and repeated because its so damned important!

"Any pain is a signal to stop and relax, and if you can't relax enough to have no pain you should stop."

So very important. The point of any of this ... more
And yes I do enjoy the feeling of larger plugs, but only after getting the largest part past the inner sphincter.

The outer sphincter can open up just fine (Especially since it is controlled by the SNS - Somatic Nervous System, which is under voluntary control), but its the inner one (controlled by the ANS - Autonomic Nervous System, for involuntary control) that hurts with anything greater than 2 inches (even after lots of warmup)
After it is past the inner sphincter into the rectum, it feels great, and removal isn't a problem as long as the neck doesn't get too narrow (so the sphincter remains stretched)


Anyway; I have also noticed that sticking occurrence went doing extended wear with plugs. (Such as keeping one in when sleeping) Most likely it is from the rectum absorbing it. The rectum and column does slowly generate a little bit of a lube itself, but it isn't really enough to keep things slippery enough to have the plug turn freely after not touching it a while
08/13/2009
Contributor: Alt Alt
Not column -- colon! ...Arg, no post editing
08/13/2009
Contributor: Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
I have the sexy spades medium and it definitely takes some effort for me to get it in. Lots of relaxation as ScottA said. As for long term wear, it is not the best thing around for that because the material is unforgiving and the base is not shaped to fit well between the cheeks, but the base isn't huge, so it really isn't too bad. The 2.0 plug that Alt was talking about would probably be better for long term wear, but that does cost a lot more.
08/13/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
The colon and rectum have the specific task of removing water from whatever is in them, so most if not all water-based lubes don't stand a chance. Oil or silicone are good with hard toys, and water-based lubes that contain glycerin are a bit better used anally (the glycerin attracts and holds on to water and counteracts (somewhat) the rectum's ability to grab the water).
08/13/2009
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
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Originally posted by chelleb1974
Thank you so much for your response. That was the basically the answer/opinion I was hoping for!
I am thinking of getting this one. Thanks for letting us know.
04/28/2011
Contributor: Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
Thank you for all the nice feedback, i will most certainly try this product.
05/04/2011
Contributor: Rare Randy Rascal Rare Randy Rascal
I enjoy the Njoy 2.0 and Eleven butt, I've desired a plug that could be stimulating while sitting. All this great info convinced me to try this in a medium...for now.
08/22/2011
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Looks yummy
10/02/2011
Contributor: Porygorish Porygorish
Very eductional post!
08/17/2012
Contributor: Porygorish Porygorish
Educational*! I would kind of want to go for big one now.. haha
08/17/2012
Contributor: Kellyloggs Kellyloggs
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Originally posted by chelleb1974
Was wondering if I could get people's opinions on this product. I am thinking of purchasing the medium one, and wondering how well it stays in for extended wear (like, out of the house). Thank you all!
I've had the Sexy Spades Medium plug for months & I find it rather comfortable for extended wear. It's definitely not for beginners. But I've worn it for hours without discomfort. It's one of my favorite plugs.
08/20/2012
Contributor: Alex Time Alex Time
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Originally posted by chelleb1974
Was wondering if I could get people's opinions on this product. I am thinking of purchasing the medium one, and wondering how well it stays in for extended wear (like, out of the house). Thank you all!
I got the large and I must tell you I am scared. I am more intrigued by this and it's already on the wishlist. And for the price, I really have no regrets! I have an njoy 2.0 and it's a great piece of metal... wear it for a long while before it get's uncomfortable. I remember someone saying that it's more like a 1.75" cause of the elliptical shape but that doesn't effect long term wear.

Anyway, I don't see this as being too uncomfortable except for the round base. I imagine that would get on my nerves. Did you every try this toy out?
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