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Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
My sister, out of the blue today, IMed me. Which is only weird because we're one of those families that rarely talk to each other. For some bizarre reason, I started rambling to her about the review I was working on. And she blurted out, "I need a sex toy!"

We got to chatting and come to find out my 20-something sister, newly single with one child, has never owned a sex toy. Doesn't know the first thing about them.

So help me make her first toy purchase not suck as much as mine did. She's on a budget and has absolutely no clue what she's looking for or what she'll like. Just that she wants it to vibrate. Suggestions, please?
01/13/2010
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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01/13/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
My sister, out of the blue today, IMed me. Which is only weird because we're one of those families that rarely talk to each other. For some bizarre reason, I started rambling to her about the review I was working on. And she blurted out, ... more
I actually suggest her trying 2 things - a dildo and a clit vibe. Just so she can get the hang of different types of stimulation.

Maybe the Ella paired with the High Intensity bullet? Or maybe the Turbo glider?
01/13/2010
Contributor: J's Alley J's Alley
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
My sister, out of the blue today, IMed me. Which is only weird because we're one of those families that rarely talk to each other. For some bizarre reason, I started rambling to her about the review I was working on. And she blurted out, ... more
I totally love the Petite Couture line by Cal Exotics. They are soft and you can feel the vibrations. Plus they aren't as pricey as some others (on sale right now).

She can also look at Fun Factory, the Evolved Bottle Rockets, or maybe a bullet.
01/13/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
My sister, out of the blue today, IMed me. Which is only weird because we're one of those families that rarely talk to each other. For some bizarre reason, I started rambling to her about the review I was working on. And she blurted out, ... more
As always Victoria is on target - but I would add that it's hard to go wrong with a rabbit vibe like the Decadent Indulgence (DI) for dual stimulation link - there's a gazilion to choose from - but I will say that after trying dozens the original DI is still my wife's favorite.
01/13/2010
Contributor: Twitch Twitch
double bullet?
01/13/2010
Contributor: AwakeningTara AwakeningTara
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
My sister, out of the blue today, IMed me. Which is only weird because we're one of those families that rarely talk to each other. For some bizarre reason, I started rambling to her about the review I was working on. And she blurted out, ... more
Hey, I just wrote a post about this yesterday. I'm not trying to shamelessly plug my blog, but I have some basic helpful hints for newbies. (link) I am also in agreement with Victoria. You have to figure out which gives you the most satisfaction, a clit vibe or a dildo. Tell her good luck and have fun!
01/13/2010
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
She just said to me, "I don't want one of those butt things. I'm not ready for that. I think I want one of those rabbit things but I don't know."

A woman after my own heart.

She's gonna kill me if she sees this. I just gave her a link to Eden. Lol.
01/13/2010
Contributor: Kaijah Kaijah
I agree with getting a dildo and a separate clit vibe. I think having the two separate parts guarantees she can get the kind of stimulation she likes rather than hoping a dual stimulator like a rabbit fits her anatomy just so.

I'd go for the Tantus Acute (anything from Tantus, really) or Lelo Ella, and a Speeding Bullet or Xtreme Pack.
01/13/2010
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
If you're looking to keep it under $20 and give her options, the My Mini-Miracle has a wide range of speeds, is waterproof, and runs on AA's, which are easy to find. Don't bother with the attachments, but the toy itself is good. Aside from the "CalExotics" label, it's pretty discrete, too. Put a sticker or something over that, and it's a travel massager.
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The Pocket Exotic glow double bullet is a very inexpensive old standby. I've had mine for 2 years, use it on a regular basis, and it's still going strong. This thing will not die. The downside is that while it's not loud, it's not silent either (hear it across the room, but not through a door); it's also not waterproof. However, for figuring out if she likes bullets, it's a good solid choice.
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The Mini Bullet and Controller is a single micro bullet. It's only a 3 of 5 for power, but it's dead quiet and waterproof.
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I second the Tantus Acute. It's a great starter dildo, and it will last forever with a little care.
01/13/2010
Contributor: Miss Jane Miss Jane
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
She just said to me, "I don't want one of those butt things. I'm not ready for that. I think I want one of those rabbit things but I don't know."

A woman after my own heart.

She's gonna kill me if she sees ... more
Just let her loose in the review section ;p
01/13/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by Miss Jane
Just let her loose in the review section ;p
Gary! Laurel! Watch out! Rayne let her sister loose in the reviews!
01/13/2010
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by Victoria
Gary! Laurel! Watch out! Rayne let her sister loose in the reviews!
Lol. I dunno about all that. I'm just glad she's not afraid of sex toys. Reviewing be a little over the top.

Though, you know, wouldn't that be fun?

Anyway! These are all great suggestions. Thanks so much!

I'm not sure she can afford two toys right now. I'm considering buying her first toy(s) for her with my next gift card so she can start with something nicer than what I'm seeing in her price range. But that's going to depend on whether or not M's heart is set on the Liberator stuff I said I was saving up for. Lol.
01/14/2010
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Lol. I dunno about all that. I'm just glad she's not afraid of sex toys. Reviewing be a little over the top.

Though, you know, wouldn't that be fun?

Anyway! These are all great suggestions. Thanks so much! ... more
Might! Reviewing MIGHT be a little over the top. Sheesh.
01/14/2010
Contributor: sbremer sbremer
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
My sister, out of the blue today, IMed me. Which is only weird because we're one of those families that rarely talk to each other. For some bizarre reason, I started rambling to her about the review I was working on. And she blurted out, ... more
I love the waterproof travel kit. It was the first toy I ever bought, and it's still my favorite. It can be used with or without vibration, and has three different attachments.
01/23/2010
Contributor: Sexthusiast Sexthusiast
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
My sister, out of the blue today, IMed me. Which is only weird because we're one of those families that rarely talk to each other. For some bizarre reason, I started rambling to her about the review I was working on. And she blurted out, ... more
I'm fond on this one...

My first was two different Doc Johnsons that I overworked and killed the motors on, so I upgraded to the Lucid Dream collection and I've had it for years, it's good for g and clitoral orgasms!
01/24/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by J's Alley
I totally love the Petite Couture line by Cal Exotics. They are soft and you can feel the vibrations. Plus they aren't as pricey as some others (on sale right now).

She can also look at Fun Factory, the Evolved Bottle Rockets, or maybe a bullet.
I second this. They've got several vibration levels along with that soft silicone J's Alley mentioned, and I find that the Silhouette works wonders as both a clit vibe and an internal.
01/24/2010
Contributor: Pandahb Pandahb
Your sister has probably heard great reviews of the rabbit and if she is ready for a rabbit, I say get a hoppin on that!

However I know that when I first got a sex toy I was extremely curious about all the different types and I really enjoyed looking at all of them and reading what different ones did.

I would also consider finding something semi more discrete considering you mentioned she has a child. Children are pretty sneaky about looking for things to do when bored and you never know if they will open the night stand drawer!

I wish your sister the best of luck!
02/16/2010