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Does your body get used to the vibrations?

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Contributor: meitman meitman
My wife has a vibrator that used to get her off every time. She probably only uses it on average about once a week. Now the vibrator rarely gets her off anymore. She's had it for probably a few years now, but probably within the last year it hasn't been doing it for her anymore.

Does your body get used to the vibrations after a while to where you need something stronger eventually?
11/22/2012
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Contributor: Ayumi Ayumi
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Originally posted by meitman
My wife has a vibrator that used to get her off every time. She probably only uses it on average about once a week. Now the vibrator rarely gets her off anymore. She's had it for probably a few years now, but probably within the last year it ... more
Well, I feel as though this can depend on a number of things.
1. She may need more stimulation. Probably needs a stronger toy now...some people do say they get used to the vibrations.

However, there are other things I would be concerned about too.

2. Are there any major stressors right now? Anything changed recently? I ask this mostly because I feel like I always have that one trusty vibrator that works and does the job no matter how long it has been. My body is never really a different one unless something is going on. I find that when I am stressed out, my toy that always works just doesn't do it for me. If I am feeling down, it just seems to take a lot more work to be stimulated. If I haven't been well, I also have this problem. (I think that other people might be able to speak to this). It would be worth investigating as well as well as investing in a stronger toy to try claim 1 out.

3. Lastly, any changes in diet?

(I'm a psychology major and have worked in a hospital, hence my particular questions)
11/22/2012
Contributor: Girly Juice Girly Juice
Has she taken an extended break from using the toy (like more than a month)? This can bring sensitivity back.
11/23/2012
Contributor: meitman meitman
Thanks for the help Ayumi and Girly Juice! She hasn't taken any extended breaks. Never thought about that actually.

Both of our diets have changed for the healthier, but she started having problems back before we changed our diet so I wouldn't think that's it. I believe it first started happening when she was pregnant with our last kid (he's a year old now) and has been an ongoing issue since. It's possible she's stressed, but she doesn't have any problems getting off with the things I do for her. She just seems to have problems with the vibrator.

I am planning on getting her a stronger vibrator soon so maybe that will help.
11/23/2012
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
I have not had it happen personally, but then again I don't use the strongest of vibes. Sometimes I simply can't get off on my own no matter what I do, and that's okay too. It eventually comes back.

It never hurts to get a new one though!!
11/23/2012
Contributor: NorthBayLady NorthBayLady
I would try a couple days away from the vibrator, then try again. The sensation might come back
11/24/2012
Contributor: Ayumi Ayumi
I think it is important to not ignore what you have both naturally noticed, which is when the problem started to occur.

If taking a break doesn't work, I am not sure if your wife gave a vaginal birth or had a C-section, but “The result of vaginal birth is an increase in blood supply to the area. This can result in women becoming more orgasmic after vaginal birth. This effect may be reduced if the pelvic floor is weak, however a women’s health physiotherapist can teach women how to correctly exercise these muscles to improve strength."

So essentially the natural stretching can make your wife more orgasmic, but it might imply one of two things: increased blood flow might mean she is more sensitive. It seems intuitive then that her toy should work, however maybe the vibrations are too strong and sensitivity shuts down and it just isn't comfortable for her. The other suggestion here is that she can do some kegel exercises or other things to help with any weakness if there is any and you might find a difference. Or, the type of stimulation she needs has shifted and you might have to explore new toys.

What kind of vibrator does she use?
11/24/2012
Contributor: meitman meitman
Thanks for commenting jr2012, NorthBayLady, and Ayumi!

She has the Bendi dual teaser, but she doesn't use it every day. She only uses it when we have sex so we're talking about one to two times a week at most.

I'm planning on getting her the Jopen Vanity Vr7 which is supposed to be more powerful and has a non-animal clitoral attachment which may work better for her.
11/25/2012
Contributor: Ayumi Ayumi
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Originally posted by meitman
Thanks for commenting jr2012, NorthBayLady, and Ayumi!

She has the Bendi dual teaser, but she doesn't use it every day. She only uses it when we have sex so we're talking about one to two times a week at most.

I'm planning ... more
Well, it is so refreshing to hear someone so interested in their spouses well being. I wish you both luck in figuring out what works.
11/25/2012
Contributor: meitman meitman
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Originally posted by Ayumi
Well, it is so refreshing to hear someone so interested in their spouses well being. I wish you both luck in figuring out what works.
Thanks!
11/25/2012
Contributor: levellc09 levellc09
never had this happen personally but my partner gets used to vibs after using them constantly. If she waits a few weeks without using them she gets it all back!
11/25/2012
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
Sometimes it's not a matter of more power, but switching to a different pitch of vibration.
11/25/2012
Contributor: levellc09 levellc09
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
Sometimes it's not a matter of more power, but switching to a different pitch of vibration.
never thought of that!
11/25/2012
Contributor: meitman meitman
Thanks for the info levellc09 and ToyGeek!
11/26/2012