This is so embarrassing. I am very new to sex toys in general. My husband and I have tried vibrates but I honestly don't like them very much. We use a ring that helps keep things going once he's done if u know what I mean and I love it very much. He's not very big to start off with so it helps in that way to. We recently got a pocket vagina because he asked for it for me to use on him. So I did. I was very upset when I was done because he was done in like 15 seconds and was extremely vocal during the process unlike when we are being together. I asked if it felt better then me and he aid no just different. So a while later I did it again for him. Again same response. I honestly feel like something is wrong with me that I don't give him that response. Please be very honest with me about what yall think. I have had many many children. I kegel and try to keep things in good shape if u know what I mean. But maybe it's just not. I mean I can live with it if that's the answer. They make a surgery to fix it. I've checked. I'll do it if it helps us! I just don't want to be sitting here not pleasing him and him afraid to tell me! So please if anyone can explain if his response to the thing is normal or do I just need to get some help for my self down there. I would really appreciate any advice! Ty!
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Can a pocket vagina be better then the real thing?
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06/09/2014
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Do they actual work to make your kegel muscles stronger? And are they uncomfortable?
Best way use vaginal exerciser?
Best way use vaginal exerciser? Can it be used like a dildo, and can it be used lying down?
Vaginal Ball Adivse Needed
I have several sets for me, but I use them for strengthening because of a prolapsed uterus, so I know what works well for me. But, my mom wants a set...
What would you do if you found a "realistic vagina" in your male s/o's drawer?
What would you do if you found a realistic vagina in your male s/o's drawer?
Favorite word for "Vagina"
Ok, everyones got a nick name so lets here it! LOL. What is your favorite word for it?
Vagina Beads
Do they actual work to make your kegel muscles stronger? And are they uncomfortable?
06/09/2014
Honestly it's probably because if feels different but not necessarily better. New sensations tend to get strong reactions for people. Please do not get surgery because you think it will make anything more pleasurable for him. In my experience the the only thing that really matters is communication. He probably doesn't even know you are this concerned about it. Talk to him.
06/09/2014
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I agree with KinkyCouple. It is likely because it is new and different. No one can control how their body will respond to a stimulus. Unless he is completely unable to climax or you have some other medical reason, I would not even remotely consider surgery. If he is able to climax with you, he has no problem with how you feel.
Originally posted by
mdc
This is so embarrassing. I am very new to sex toys in general. My husband and I have tried vibrates but I honestly don't like them very much. We use a ring that helps keep things going once he's done if u know what I mean and I love it
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This is so embarrassing. I am very new to sex toys in general. My husband and I have tried vibrates but I honestly don't like them very much. We use a ring that helps keep things going once he's done if u know what I mean and I love it very much. He's not very big to start off with so it helps in that way to. We recently got a pocket vagina because he asked for it for me to use on him. So I did. I was very upset when I was done because he was done in like 15 seconds and was extremely vocal during the process unlike when we are being together. I asked if it felt better then me and he aid no just different. So a while later I did it again for him. Again same response. I honestly feel like something is wrong with me that I don't give him that response. Please be very honest with me about what yall think. I have had many many children. I kegel and try to keep things in good shape if u know what I mean. But maybe it's just not. I mean I can live with it if that's the answer. They make a surgery to fix it. I've checked. I'll do it if it helps us! I just don't want to be sitting here not pleasing him and him afraid to tell me! So please if anyone can explain if his response to the thing is normal or do I just need to get some help for my self down there. I would really appreciate any advice! Ty!
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From what you wrote, he is not choosing this toy over sex with you. He is not using it alone. It sounds like he is someone who cares about you and wants to share this experience with you in addition to making love to you. When you love someone, that is what makes all experiences much more pleasurable. Perhaps it is not just the toy, it is the fact that you (the woman he loves) is using it on him. I would take it as a compliment, not an insult. You mention that he is not large, but you don't see him rushing out to surgery or getting all insecure about using a ring as an aid.
06/10/2014
I echo what has been said. It was exciting because it was new and different. I'd be encouraged that he felt comfortable with you to let go and enjoy it.
06/10/2014
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Your fine! Don't worry. between the lube and the sleeve, it over stimulates him and he cums fast. No biggie. When he's with you, he's concentrating on you and that slows him down. Same in my situation. I can cum fast when I'm over stimulated, but making love doesn't over stimulate because I'm concentrating on other things. With no distractions and nothing to hold him back (ie, pleasing you) he lets it go.
Originally posted by
mdc
This is so embarrassing. I am very new to sex toys in general. My husband and I have tried vibrates but I honestly don't like them very much. We use a ring that helps keep things going once he's done if u know what I mean and I love it
...
more
This is so embarrassing. I am very new to sex toys in general. My husband and I have tried vibrates but I honestly don't like them very much. We use a ring that helps keep things going once he's done if u know what I mean and I love it very much. He's not very big to start off with so it helps in that way to. We recently got a pocket vagina because he asked for it for me to use on him. So I did. I was very upset when I was done because he was done in like 15 seconds and was extremely vocal during the process unlike when we are being together. I asked if it felt better then me and he aid no just different. So a while later I did it again for him. Again same response. I honestly feel like something is wrong with me that I don't give him that response. Please be very honest with me about what yall think. I have had many many children. I kegel and try to keep things in good shape if u know what I mean. But maybe it's just not. I mean I can live with it if that's the answer. They make a surgery to fix it. I've checked. I'll do it if it helps us! I just don't want to be sitting here not pleasing him and him afraid to tell me! So please if anyone can explain if his response to the thing is normal or do I just need to get some help for my self down there. I would really appreciate any advice! Ty!
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At least that's my experience.
07/03/2014
Yeah totally no worries. A masturbator will NEVER replace the real thing! If he were to masturbate using his hand with a very tight grip in his penis for a long period of time, he might get used to that, therefore making it harder to cum with you. But if its a sex toy, its not going to be that tight around him. Even if the toy is abnormally tight, the sensations will be different. Most importantly, sex involves being with another person, which is irreplaceable. The human vagina is made in such a perfect way, made FOR the penis. It fits just right (most of the time), and NOTHING beats natural female lubricant. The ridges in the vagina combined with the natural lubricant create such a unique sensation unlike any sex toy. Plus, sex toys dont even keep themselves warm and cozy like a mother keeping it's nest warm! Women have the complete package: hair, boobs, butt, real skin, warmth, heart. No sex toy can come close (physically).
Emotionally is a whole different story. If for whatever reason your SO becomes afraid of you or afraid to express himself around you, it's possible he would prefer to masturbate alone. But if thats the case, its not the toy's fault, but rather his heart that needs love and care.
Anyways, could go on and on...
Forgot to mention: only do surgery as a last resort! I'm the same way with my girlfriend: when she masturbates me with a toy or her hand, I am much more vocal than when we have sex (with a condom). It really is a different sensation. Even though I'm more vocal, the sensation is just more intense with a toy somehow. Its an unnatural intense feeling though, where it feels really good, but its just not as satisfying as the real thing. Its a horrible feeling to feel like your SO chooses something else over you, i know that feeling very well . And you are allowed to feel the way you feel. Dont suppress the way you feel towards this (im assuming you already talked to your SO). Sex, to me, is such a more wholesome experience. My girlfriend has asked me to be more vocal during sex, so i did haha. Its not hard to to! But if left on my own, with the real vagina, I automatically wont make as much noise with it for some reason.
Mind if i ask if you use a condom every time you have sex? That would make a huge difference. If hes using a condom with you, but no condom with a toy, of course the toy is going to be more stimulation for him. Anyways...
Emotionally is a whole different story. If for whatever reason your SO becomes afraid of you or afraid to express himself around you, it's possible he would prefer to masturbate alone. But if thats the case, its not the toy's fault, but rather his heart that needs love and care.
Anyways, could go on and on...
Forgot to mention: only do surgery as a last resort! I'm the same way with my girlfriend: when she masturbates me with a toy or her hand, I am much more vocal than when we have sex (with a condom). It really is a different sensation. Even though I'm more vocal, the sensation is just more intense with a toy somehow. Its an unnatural intense feeling though, where it feels really good, but its just not as satisfying as the real thing. Its a horrible feeling to feel like your SO chooses something else over you, i know that feeling very well . And you are allowed to feel the way you feel. Dont suppress the way you feel towards this (im assuming you already talked to your SO). Sex, to me, is such a more wholesome experience. My girlfriend has asked me to be more vocal during sex, so i did haha. Its not hard to to! But if left on my own, with the real vagina, I automatically wont make as much noise with it for some reason.
Mind if i ask if you use a condom every time you have sex? That would make a huge difference. If hes using a condom with you, but no condom with a toy, of course the toy is going to be more stimulation for him. Anyways...
07/09/2014
Well, pocket vaginas never nag.
07/09/2014
They feel great, just in a different way. Better feeling? Yes, sometimes. But obviously they lack the "complete" experience.
09/12/2014
just like vibrators feel different from the real thing, pocket vaginas feel different from the real thing. if someone thinks that the real thing should have the same sensations as a toy, they are setting themselves up for serious disappointments among other things. toys were never intended to emulate the real thing. the real thing & toys bring their own unique experiences to sexual pleasure.
09/12/2014
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Okay, Mr. Bignuf here. Don't feel worried about it. He probably was being honest when he said it "just feels different". Of course, most of these toys for men are going to be tighter then a normal woman, even one who has not had children. They are made that way. It is one of the reasons men enjoy anal with their partners. A mans penis responds to pressure and friction, both of which are higher in a toy or anus then a vagina. However, there is a huge amount of pleasure gained from having a real live partner that no toy can ever replace and doing activities, like vaginal sex, which pleases your female partner are very satisfying since you can bring pleasure to them and sense in so many ways. In short, you don't need to be "fixing" anything "down there", unless you are so loose that intercourse no longer has enough friction to bring you pleasure. Just enjoy those moments you spend with your hubby and his toys, and let yourself relax and enjoy the times he is spending pleasuring your vagina. Honestly, you are probably both just fine, and the stress is emotional worry, not physical anatomy.
Originally posted by
mdc
This is so embarrassing. I am very new to sex toys in general. My husband and I have tried vibrates but I honestly don't like them very much. We use a ring that helps keep things going once he's done if u know what I mean and I love it
...
more
This is so embarrassing. I am very new to sex toys in general. My husband and I have tried vibrates but I honestly don't like them very much. We use a ring that helps keep things going once he's done if u know what I mean and I love it very much. He's not very big to start off with so it helps in that way to. We recently got a pocket vagina because he asked for it for me to use on him. So I did. I was very upset when I was done because he was done in like 15 seconds and was extremely vocal during the process unlike when we are being together. I asked if it felt better then me and he aid no just different. So a while later I did it again for him. Again same response. I honestly feel like something is wrong with me that I don't give him that response. Please be very honest with me about what yall think. I have had many many children. I kegel and try to keep things in good shape if u know what I mean. But maybe it's just not. I mean I can live with it if that's the answer. They make a surgery to fix it. I've checked. I'll do it if it helps us! I just don't want to be sitting here not pleasing him and him afraid to tell me! So please if anyone can explain if his response to the thing is normal or do I just need to get some help for my self down there. I would really appreciate any advice! Ty!
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09/13/2014
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Well said.
Originally posted by
toysforall
They feel great, just in a different way. Better feeling? Yes, sometimes. But obviously they lack the "complete" experience.
09/13/2014
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