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Contributor: Fun2 Fun2
I was curious if ladies buy their own lingerie mostly, or if they receive it as a gift from their significant other.

Normally I don't buy it for my wife and I am wondering if I should
02/17/2013
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Contributor: js250 js250
No, but he does help pick it out...I am very picky!!!
02/17/2013
Contributor: Rory Rory
He buys about 85% of my lingerie. He's better at picking what looks good on me then I am!
02/17/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
He doesn't buy lingerie for me. I know what works for my body, he doesn't and would probably get me the wrong thing!
02/17/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
No but he's happy to express his feelings for my EF purchases
02/17/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Yes
02/17/2013
Contributor: Teaser Teaser
I buy much of my wife's Lingerie including underwear. I also have bought about 95% of all of our toys. I will give them (Lingerie/toys) to her for gifts for occasions, or just because. We just recently went on a cruise and I "sneaked" three sexy bras, a pair of sexy undies, a top and a long dress into my suitcase, and laid them all out on the bed when she finally stepped into the bathroom to shower.
02/17/2013
Contributor: Teaser Teaser
Oh and PS;
Yes, you should buy that stuff for her!
02/17/2013
Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
(Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Fun2
I was curious if ladies buy their own lingerie mostly, or if they receive it as a gift from their significant other.

Normally I don't buy it for my wife and I am wondering if I should
My boyfriend doesn't buy me lingerie, but we're both either in school or just finishing school. I know that he would if I asked, but even if I were the type to ask, I'd rather that he spent his money on important things. I do know that I'd be hella excited if he did just show up with lingerie, though, so if you've got a bit of money to spend on your wife, lingerie is probably a good way to go.
02/17/2013
Contributor: palindromic palindromic
I don't really do the lingerie thing - I have underwear, some of which is prettier than the rest. I'd be worried about sizing and fit if someone else bought it for me.
02/17/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
I buy most of it. she helps pick out alot of it though.
02/17/2013
Contributor: Cindi025 Cindi025
Nope, I'm not that lucky!
02/17/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by Fun2
I was curious if ladies buy their own lingerie mostly, or if they receive it as a gift from their significant other.

Normally I don't buy it for my wife and I am wondering if I should
hubby buys me some
02/17/2013
Contributor: The Vixen The Vixen
Nope, he gives me Victoria Secret gift cards but he's never picked anything out. I'm pretty picky and I know what looks good on me. I'll show him something before I buy it and see if he likes it, but it's left up to me. We're not really that big into lingerie anyways.
02/18/2013
Contributor: pokefan15 pokefan15
I buy 90% of my wife's lingerie
02/18/2013
Contributor: Fun2 Fun2
Quote:
Originally posted by Teaser
Oh and PS;
Yes, you should buy that stuff for her!
I guess I can do that
02/19/2013
Contributor: Firemenlafd2 Firemenlafd2
Quote:
Originally posted by Fun2
I was curious if ladies buy their own lingerie mostly, or if they receive it as a gift from their significant other.

Normally I don't buy it for my wife and I am wondering if I should
I buy somewhat stuff but mainly for special occasions the rest she does
02/19/2013
Contributor: Fun2 Fun2
I'm always afraid ill make her mad (grab the wrong size or something stupid like that)
02/19/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by Fun2
I'm always afraid ill make her mad (grab the wrong size or something stupid like that)
I've just started buying lingerie for my wife and so far, she's pretty happy about it.

She didn't get mad, although she did get a little bummed when I picked the wrong size the first time. It's helpful if you know her measurements. You can also check the sizes of the lingerie she already has. Unfortunately, my wife didn't want to discuss her measurements and she's a compulsive label-remover, so checking out her closet and undies drawer didn't help me.

I hope it won't be trial and error for you as it is for me - because it can be a bit of a minefield! Too small and she's bummed out; too big and she's a little insulted! But in the end, for us at least, it's a net positive. Good luck!
02/20/2013
Contributor: Fun2 Fun2
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
I've just started buying lingerie for my wife and so far, she's pretty happy about it.

She didn't get mad, although she did get a little bummed when I picked the wrong size the first time. It's helpful if you know her ... more
Ah, you understand my worries!! I am going to hope for the best. It's been a while since my last failure
02/21/2013
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
Once in a blue moon my husband will buy me some. However, it is so hard with sizes...he has gotten them too small before which killed my excitement and he felt bad (also waste of money when they don't fit it they cant be returned). So, I typically stick to doing the buying but he enjoys the surprise when I get new ones
02/21/2013
Contributor: Fun2 Fun2
Quote:
Originally posted by woodsdragon
Once in a blue moon my husband will buy me some. However, it is so hard with sizes...he has gotten them too small before which killed my excitement and he felt bad (also waste of money when they don't fit it they cant be returned). So, I ... more
How often do you surprise him if you don't mind me asking?
02/23/2013
Contributor: Mitzuki Mitzuki
I definitely buy my own for sizing purposes, but he puts in his input on what he'd like to see on me!
02/23/2013
Contributor: Lolette Lolette
Of course he does -- it only makes sense, since it's him I'm wearing it for !
02/24/2013
Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
No, I'm too picky. He does have input though.
02/24/2013
Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
(Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
I've just started buying lingerie for my wife and so far, she's pretty happy about it.

She didn't get mad, although she did get a little bummed when I picked the wrong size the first time. It's helpful if you know her ... more
I don't think that I could ever get mad at someone who got me the wrong size in something, especially something as finnicky as lingerie. I mean, every manufacturer does things differently, so half the time I can't even tell what size I'm supposed to be until I try it on. Sizing is one of the least precise "standards" that I can think of, and I hope that everyone in my life who would ever have cause to buy me lingerie knows that I would feel that my intelligence were insulted if they thought that I would react like that. I feel like that comes off as very insulting to your wife, which I absolutely don't mean it to be - I'm just at a complete loss as to how a woman could expect a man to have not only a perfect understanding of how women's sizing works but also account for the slight variations between the fits of different fabrics and styles.
02/24/2013
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I buy my own.
02/25/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
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Originally posted by surreptitious
I don't think that I could ever get mad at someone who got me the wrong size in something, especially something as finnicky as lingerie. I mean, every manufacturer does things differently, so half the time I can't even tell what size I'm ... more
Well, she was just bummed, not mad at me. I think her reaction had more to do with the fact that she liked the piece, thought it was super sexy - but it was just too small for her. That provoked the almost-inevitable (and completely false) "I'm so fat" instant reaction so many women have in situations like that.

And I think the fact that it was a gift made it worse for her than if she'd bought it for herself, because she seemed apologetic about it, as if she'd let me down or something (again, nothing could have been further from the truth, but that's how she felt).

Overall, she's very supportive of my desire to buy her stuff!
02/25/2013
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
No, he doesn't buy me lingerie. He does offer his suggestions, though, which I take into account when I buy myself lingerie.
02/25/2013
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
Well, she was just bummed, not mad at me. I think her reaction had more to do with the fact that she liked the piece, thought it was super sexy - but it was just too small for her. That provoked the almost-inevitable (and completely false) ... more
I can kind of relate to her feeling like she let you down after the lingerie didn't fit. I know when my partner buys me a gift that doesn't work for me, I always feel like I let him down a bit because I know that he wanted it to work...
02/25/2013