Hubby and I have the New Comers kit harness and dildo set. You can check out my review on it if you like, but the short version is that we really enjoy pegging--just not with this dildo, which is too short for us in most positions.

We have put it off a while, but we're now discussing getting another dildo for the harness we have, or even a new set entirely. Hubby likes the safety of silicone but would be open to glass as well. I have searched the site a ton and end up with more options than viable answers.

What, IYHO, is the best dildo or dildo and harness for the money, and why? What would you recommend to a friend?

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For a harness, i would absolutely recommend the RodeoH harnesses. You're unlikely to find a truly nice harness in a "set" but Eden does give discounts on most harnesses and flared dildos when purchased as a set. The option is on most harness pages to add a dildo for a discount. The RodeoH's are super comfortable and easy to wash. They're fast and easy to put on and my Mistress and i both think they look really sexy. They have a girly version with lace, which i have and i adore it. All of the RodeoH's are ostensibly machine washable and the regular ones seem to do just fine with a gentle cycle wash and line dry. The lace one doesn't hold up to machine washing however, so after destroying one that way and having to return it for a replacement, i hand wash mine.
For a dildo, i really think you can't go wrong with just about any of Tantus' flared base dildos. My personal favorite is the Mark 02 dual density, but of course it will depend greatly on what shapes and designs you prefer. What size and shape do you prefer? Realistic styling or non-realistic? Do you prefer smooth or texture? Do you like a pronounced head? Would you like a curve or angle or more of a straight forward design? What about color? Mark is slightly curved, realistic styling with veins and pronounced head, but does come in a jet black color which disguises some of the realism a bit, about 6 1/2" long and 1 1/2" diameter. At that size, we have little trouble with positioning but at times it's just a tiny big too long for me. i'm unsure what size you've been working with since i'm not familiar with the kit you referenced so i can't make much of a specific recommendation for an upgrade. Tantus has a huge line of dildos so you're sure to find something that will please you both, all of which are very high quality silicone. You might also look at the Vixen dildos which tend to be pricier but are very high quality.
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We're also new comers to pegging - and I've also watched a fair amount of pegging-porn.

What we've decided is that a dildo that is over 7" is necessary because of positional issues. It's not that I want one that deep (I'm the receiver) - it's that it's easier for my wife if she doesn't have to be too close to me.

I just ordered the Fetish Fantasy Elite 9 dildo. I'm not sure if it will be too large in diameter. This one is 8" long and only 1.5" dia link

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