My wife and I have been playing with toys ever since the beginning of our relationship nine years ago. In the beginning they were cheap vibrators. Then over the years we have graduated on to bigger and more expensive toys. My wife loves her Adam Pleasure skin dildo, and I absolutely love watching her and helping her play with that dildo, then I love to make love to her afterwords. I love the feeling of her after she has had a nice orgasm on that toy. So I thought I would buy the Jeff Stryker dildo. I got it in and it seems to be a little bit bigger than one step up. How do I introduce something like this into our relationship. I don't want to freak her out. I just want to see her have fun with it.
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How do you introduce a much bigger dildo into your sex life with your wife.
01/24/2011
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Show it to her. Let her adjust to the idea and answer any concerns she may have and tell her when she is ready all she has to do is bring it into play. Reassure her that you aren't pressuring her and that it was larger than you thought but the idea still excites you. When she tells you to stop - stop. Penetration with a toy of that size is a completely different experience and it's not something that can be rushed or forced. And don't forget the lube!
01/24/2011
You could bring it up and say that you meant to get just a step, but when it arrived it was bigger than you expected. She will probably understand. Gauge her reaction and go from there.
01/24/2011
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This is pretty much exactly what I was going to say.
Originally posted by
PussyGalore
Show it to her. Let her adjust to the idea and answer any concerns she may have and tell her when she is ready all she has to do is bring it into play. Reassure her that you aren't pressuring her and that it was larger than you thought but the
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Show it to her. Let her adjust to the idea and answer any concerns she may have and tell her when she is ready all she has to do is bring it into play. Reassure her that you aren't pressuring her and that it was larger than you thought but the idea still excites you. When she tells you to stop - stop. Penetration with a toy of that size is a completely different experience and it's not something that can be rushed or forced. And don't forget the lube!
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Definitely make sure that she knows there's no pressure coming from your end, but also share with her why you thought it would be a good choice.
01/24/2011
Leave it in your fridge. That's what I do when I bring home the bacon.
01/24/2011
Talk with her about it and take it slow. The more excited she knows you are about it, the more excited she will be about it. The less pressure there is, the easier it will be for her.
01/24/2011
Tell her the truth - you got this, you didn't think it would be that much bigger, but it was. Leave it up to her to bring the toy into play.
01/24/2011
Thanks everybody for giving me tips on what to do with it. Though I liked the fridge comment, I have the feeling it would end up with me being beat by that weapon of mass destruction.
01/25/2011
Talk about it and go from there. If she's not ready, there's always the future.
01/25/2011
Definitely work up to it with some smaller warm up dildos if you go for it. Also I'd recommend (HIGHLY) when you go to play with it (IT being the big dildo!) to have her use her favorite vibe on her clit while you try out bigger stuff. If I have my Hitachi, I'll let my guy put crazy large items in me. He has a big thing for using sizable toys on me. The vagina is an amazingly elastic thing, and filling toys can be insanely pleasurable. Be careful too, it's easy to make a size queen, and big dildos are expensive!
As far as broaching the subject, I'd heartily second what everyone else has said.
Good luck!
As far as broaching the subject, I'd heartily second what everyone else has said.
Good luck!
01/26/2011
Just show it to her. Who knows, she may see it and be dying to give a try.
01/26/2011
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I did the same thing. I used to use the Cyberskin Dildo with her, which is fine with her. Then I got the Lonestar and Johnny Vix. We tried them once and they are too big for her. Now they are sitting in my closet because she refuses to include them during our play. I figure it's her body, she can choose what she wants in it, and I won't press the issue. There will be a limit to what she can take, and you gotta respect her wishes...
Originally posted by
CPTInsanity
My wife and I have been playing with toys ever since the beginning of our relationship nine years ago. In the beginning they were cheap vibrators. Then over the years we have graduated on to bigger and more expensive toys. My wife loves her Adam
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My wife and I have been playing with toys ever since the beginning of our relationship nine years ago. In the beginning they were cheap vibrators. Then over the years we have graduated on to bigger and more expensive toys. My wife loves her Adam Pleasure skin dildo, and I absolutely love watching her and helping her play with that dildo, then I love to make love to her afterwords. I love the feeling of her after she has had a nice orgasm on that toy. So I thought I would buy the Jeff Stryker dildo. I got it in and it seems to be a little bit bigger than one step up. How do I introduce something like this into our relationship. I don't want to freak her out. I just want to see her have fun with it.
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I say try it out and make it fun, but know that it may be too big for her and don't force it.
01/28/2011
flwalt
For me anyway I like the surprise factor (My GF totally trusts me) I LOVE to watch her expressions when gently discovering there is something new in play.
With that said, its a slow but fun process for me.. Usually a lot of massage and kissing eventually oral and a good quality vibe working everywhere BUT her clit for a little bit. Eventually while lightly hitting the clit (shes really worked up now) I'll introduce the head of the new toy..(I have the Stryker as well)
So hot to watch her excitement build as she works her self on the new cock.
I let her dictate the pace..there have been times where she'd only get the first 1/4 of the big Stryker in before eventually exploding .. others she'll push until he slides home.
Either way, she's a hot satisfied mess when shes done.. Lol..
With that said, its a slow but fun process for me.. Usually a lot of massage and kissing eventually oral and a good quality vibe working everywhere BUT her clit for a little bit. Eventually while lightly hitting the clit (shes really worked up now) I'll introduce the head of the new toy..(I have the Stryker as well)
So hot to watch her excitement build as she works her self on the new cock.
I let her dictate the pace..there have been times where she'd only get the first 1/4 of the big Stryker in before eventually exploding .. others she'll push until he slides home.
Either way, she's a hot satisfied mess when shes done.. Lol..
01/28/2011
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flwalt, I hope what you just described to me is the way that it ends up working out for this toy session. I've been hoping to use it this weekend, but I'm not totally sure that the timing is very good. But I definitely will use it next week and I would love to see my wife explode on her new cock wether it is only a quarter of the way home, or all the way in. Thanks for the post.
Originally posted by
flwalt
For me anyway I like the surprise factor (My GF totally trusts me) I LOVE to watch her expressions when gently discovering there is something new in play.
With that said, its a slow but fun process for me.. Usually a lot of massage and kissing ... more
With that said, its a slow but fun process for me.. Usually a lot of massage and kissing ... more
For me anyway I like the surprise factor (My GF totally trusts me) I LOVE to watch her expressions when gently discovering there is something new in play.
With that said, its a slow but fun process for me.. Usually a lot of massage and kissing eventually oral and a good quality vibe working everywhere BUT her clit for a little bit. Eventually while lightly hitting the clit (shes really worked up now) I'll introduce the head of the new toy..(I have the Stryker as well)
So hot to watch her excitement build as she works her self on the new cock.
I let her dictate the pace..there have been times where she'd only get the first 1/4 of the big Stryker in before eventually exploding .. others she'll push until he slides home.
Either way, she's a hot satisfied mess when shes done.. Lol.. less
With that said, its a slow but fun process for me.. Usually a lot of massage and kissing eventually oral and a good quality vibe working everywhere BUT her clit for a little bit. Eventually while lightly hitting the clit (shes really worked up now) I'll introduce the head of the new toy..(I have the Stryker as well)
So hot to watch her excitement build as she works her self on the new cock.
I let her dictate the pace..there have been times where she'd only get the first 1/4 of the big Stryker in before eventually exploding .. others she'll push until he slides home.
Either way, she's a hot satisfied mess when shes done.. Lol.. less
01/28/2011
flwalt
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Good luck man..
Originally posted by
CPTInsanity
flwalt, I hope what you just described to me is the way that it ends up working out for this toy session. I've been hoping to use it this weekend, but I'm not totally sure that the timing is very good. But I definitely will use it next
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flwalt, I hope what you just described to me is the way that it ends up working out for this toy session. I've been hoping to use it this weekend, but I'm not totally sure that the timing is very good. But I definitely will use it next week and I would love to see my wife explode on her new cock wether it is only a quarter of the way home, or all the way in. Thanks for the post.
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Yeah timing for a special event can sometimes be tricky and frustrating. With kids about I have to plan things out. Usually I try to get everything setup underneath my pillow with out being detected..Lol. (Or if you have more time, I think wrapping the new addition in a heating pad for a while really adds to it.)
Hope it works out however you envision it.. Nothing hotter than seeing a erotic plan actually come together!
01/28/2011
I am really considering giving this toy a try now
02/08/2011
new2ef
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Please let me know what works out for you. I have an Outlaw in my gun safe still gift wrapped, I just don't know how to give it to her without scaring her off. We'll see on Valentine's Day..
Originally posted by
CPTInsanity
My wife and I have been playing with toys ever since the beginning of our relationship nine years ago. In the beginning they were cheap vibrators. Then over the years we have graduated on to bigger and more expensive toys. My wife loves her Adam
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more
My wife and I have been playing with toys ever since the beginning of our relationship nine years ago. In the beginning they were cheap vibrators. Then over the years we have graduated on to bigger and more expensive toys. My wife loves her Adam Pleasure skin dildo, and I absolutely love watching her and helping her play with that dildo, then I love to make love to her afterwords. I love the feeling of her after she has had a nice orgasm on that toy. So I thought I would buy the Jeff Stryker dildo. I got it in and it seems to be a little bit bigger than one step up. How do I introduce something like this into our relationship. I don't want to freak her out. I just want to see her have fun with it.
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02/09/2011
Its been two weeks and I still haven't used it. My wife got the flu, and then I got it as soon as she got well. So I will probably be able to let you know something by Valentines day.
02/09/2011
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It is a good looking dildo. If I had a vagina thats what I would want to play with. I just can't wait to finally use the thing.
Originally posted by
SexSay
I am really considering giving this toy a try now
02/09/2011
This lady would be very impressed if hubby brought something new to play with!
02/09/2011
flwalt
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definitely hope it works out for ya ! looking forward to the report back..
Originally posted by
newlady
This lady would be very impressed if hubby brought something new to play with!
02/11/2011
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Thanks.
Originally posted by
flwalt
definitely hope it works out for ya ! looking forward to the report back..
It's not like I haven't been dropping (not very) subtle hints!
02/11/2011
On Saturday I brought this guy out. She didn't mind giving it a try, but when we lubed it up really good and tried it, it hurt her. So she told me to take it out. It didn't go so well, but I will put it away, and maybe one day she will want to use it again. I'm not going to pressure her on this one too much.
02/14/2011
flwalt
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I totally know where you're coming from..I've had a similar experience with the stryker. thats why I mentionedon several occasions it never gained full entry.. lol.
Originally posted by
CPTInsanity
On Saturday I brought this guy out. She didn't mind giving it a try, but when we lubed it up really good and tried it, it hurt her. So she told me to take it out. It didn't go so well, but I will put it away, and maybe one day she will
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On Saturday I brought this guy out. She didn't mind giving it a try, but when we lubed it up really good and tried it, it hurt her. So she told me to take it out. It didn't go so well, but I will put it away, and maybe one day she will want to use it again. I'm not going to pressure her on this one too much.
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she definitely had to be fully ready for it.
your dilemma is exactly whyI continued shopping.
although I prefer of the texture of Ur 3, the Vixskin Outlaw certainly was a respectable replacement.
02/14/2011
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I think that she will kill me if I bring to many home in the near future. We have quite the collection already, and I think I will just have to make do with what we have. But its always fun to bring something new to play with. It normally works out pretty well, but you have to fail sometimes I guess.
Originally posted by
flwalt
I totally know where you're coming from..I've had a similar experience with the stryker. thats why I mentionedon several occasions it never gained full entry.. lol.
she definitely had to be fully ready for it.
your dilemma is exactly ... more
she definitely had to be fully ready for it.
your dilemma is exactly ... more
I totally know where you're coming from..I've had a similar experience with the stryker. thats why I mentionedon several occasions it never gained full entry.. lol.
she definitely had to be fully ready for it.
your dilemma is exactly whyI continued shopping.
although I prefer of the texture of Ur 3, the Vixskin Outlaw certainly was a respectable replacement. less
she definitely had to be fully ready for it.
your dilemma is exactly whyI continued shopping.
although I prefer of the texture of Ur 3, the Vixskin Outlaw certainly was a respectable replacement. less
02/23/2011
ben805
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My wife loves the Adam Pleasure skin size so I thought she may want to try something bigger so I bought the Doc Johnson's Kong, needless to say she found it way too big to be pleasurable, she only tried it twice and it has been sitting in the ziplock bag ever since. I think most women do not enjoy having a gigantic object hitting their cervix, my wife told me the kong did not give her any pleasure at all, it just stretch and filled the heck out of her vagina. She has no problem taking the Cyberskin Beer Can cock (6 1/2" long and 2.5" diameter) due to much softer material. She also like the Vixskin maverick I bought her recently, it's thicker than the Adam Pleasureskin, about the same insertable length, but squishier and more flexible.
Originally posted by
CPTInsanity
I think that she will kill me if I bring to many home in the near future. We have quite the collection already, and I think I will just have to make do with what we have. But its always fun to bring something new to play with. It normally works
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I think that she will kill me if I bring to many home in the near future. We have quite the collection already, and I think I will just have to make do with what we have. But its always fun to bring something new to play with. It normally works out pretty well, but you have to fail sometimes I guess.
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02/26/2011
we checked out the toys in out local store and discussed it first.
02/26/2011
I couldn't get my wife to go into a sex toy shop if my life depended on it. Actually she has gone into two of them, and they were both extremely female friendly. They were more about lingerie and books than anything, but they had a nice atmospere. She was ok with it because all the workers looked like they could have been a librarian at the local public school. But we don't live in a city that has one of those places.
02/28/2011
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Just take it slow
Originally posted by
CPTInsanity
My wife and I have been playing with toys ever since the beginning of our relationship nine years ago. In the beginning they were cheap vibrators. Then over the years we have graduated on to bigger and more expensive toys. My wife loves her Adam
...
more
My wife and I have been playing with toys ever since the beginning of our relationship nine years ago. In the beginning they were cheap vibrators. Then over the years we have graduated on to bigger and more expensive toys. My wife loves her Adam Pleasure skin dildo, and I absolutely love watching her and helping her play with that dildo, then I love to make love to her afterwords. I love the feeling of her after she has had a nice orgasm on that toy. So I thought I would buy the Jeff Stryker dildo. I got it in and it seems to be a little bit bigger than one step up. How do I introduce something like this into our relationship. I don't want to freak her out. I just want to see her have fun with it.
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