Double-Ended Dildos - compare and contrast.

Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I've been thinking for a while about the "new" double-ended dildos (Fun Factory Share series, Tantus Feeldoe series, and Vixen Nexus series (listed in alphabetical order by manufacturer). It's difficult to get a head-to-head comparison, in fact the best one I've seen is probably Eden's video blog on them, but even that didn't really say enough for me. Since these are all pretty pricy, it's likely very few people have a sample of each, but I'd like to have some discussion on what we do know all in one place.

This is what I've heard so far:
The Nexus came first, followed by the Feeldoe and lastly the Share.
The Nexus line differs from the others by not being designed as a "strapless strap-on", so you do need a harness to use it.
The Feeldoe has the stiffest silicone, so there's more of a possibility that users may find it uncomfortable in certain positions - but it would be the easiest to insert.
The Share is the softest and you may have problems using it anally.

Some may be true, some may not, but it was hard to find things out because there's very little directly addressing these dildos (the Feeldoe seems to have the most information, followed by the Share and finally the Nexus). The Eden reviews help, but that's still not head-to-head. I'm hoping that this thread can turn into a head-to-head from many people.

My experience so far is only with the Nexus Maximus, and I'll write a bit on that in a separate post (I'm trying to separate the idea from my experiences). As a male, I'm personally interested in pegging, but I'd love for this discussion to address all uses so it can be broadly applicable.
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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01/30/2009
Contributor: Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
I have the Feeldoe slim, and I have been thinking about getting the Fun Factory Share. I agree that the Nexus would seem the least likely to stay in the wearer without a harness. My partner finds that she still prefers the harness for added control when using the Feeldoe. Maybe with the Share it would be less that way. Then again, the shear size and weight of the Share might make it difficult to keep in place as well.
I guess we could always try the "pegged cowboy" or "reverse pegged cowboy" positions and see if it worked any better without a harness.
I didn't realize that the Nexus was the first one around of that type.
Hopefully you'll get some more responses so that the discussion will provide the information you are looking for.
01/30/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Jimbo Jones
I have the Feeldoe slim, and I have been thinking about getting the Fun Factory Share. I agree that the Nexus would seem the least likely to stay in the wearer without a harness. My partner finds that she still prefers the harness for added control ... more
I'm not positive about the timeline (the only firm data I could get was the patent date for the Feeldoe), but that seems to be the rough timeline. The Feeldoe and Nexus seem to have come out rather close to each other.

My goal here is to hopefully put together an impromptu "community guide" to the three products - they're all very useful but also expensive, so I imagine there are a number of people wondering about them.

I got the idea when I was writing a review for the Nexus Maximus (which I do really like) and I was trying to answer the question "how does this compare with the other options out there" without going broke - and it was hard!
01/30/2009
Contributor: Fred Petrenko Fred Petrenko
@ScottA. Thank you for the post. How do you think we can organize such collective/ collaborative reviews beside the forum? Let's say here is the situation like you just described: several more or less similar products and we would like to produce comparative opinions about all of them.

There are people who tried at least one toy from the list, perhaps only a few who tried couple of toys from the list, even less who had more than 3 from the list, and most likely no one who had tried all of the products. We need to combine our knowledge and experience to come up with collective comparative review of all the products from the list.

How can we do this more effectively than exchanging ideas on the forum? I've been thinking about this for awhile as a possible direction to expand the review program. However, I don't have the workable idea yet. Anyone who would like to continue this conversation, please email me to fred@webmerchantsinc.c om or we can do it on the forum, different thread though pls. Thank you again and sorry for the intrusion.
01/30/2009
Contributor: Nashville Nashville
Quote:
Originally posted by Fred Petrenko
@ScottA. Thank you for the post. How do you think we can organize such collective/ collaborative reviews beside the forum? Let's say here is the situation like you just described: several more or less similar products and we would like to produce ... more
One possibility is taking a knowledgeable reviewer who has had good experiences with double dildos and have them review a sum of them. Let them test drive them all at the same time.

Side to side comparisons, how they work, what features are the best, what dildo lacks what. You may want to include different reviewers- one that has a female partner and one that has a male partner because there are a lot of factors to consider when choosing a sex toy- what may be right for a heterosexual couple may not always work for a bisexual/homosexual couple.

I read Popular Mechanics and they test drive cars/trucks and do comparisons (basically, what's the best truck with the features you want for the best price?.. and what features are you paying for that you don't need?)- I think having reviewer(s) do the same with products specifically designed for one particular activity could be a great step.
01/30/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Quote:
Originally posted by Nashville
One possibility is taking a knowledgeable reviewer who has had good experiences with double dildos and have them review a sum of them. Let them test drive them all at the same time.

Side to side comparisons, how they work, what features are ... more
This is a great idea Sleeping Dreamer... especially when we are talking about double dildos which I would use entirely differently than pretty much all of the reviews on them I have read.
01/30/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I'm not sure technically how to do it outside of the forum, but possibly more specific questions or things that people are interested in (such as your question, Happy Lady) could be collected and sent to a group of people who have used/reviewed the toys (not necessarily all of them - that's quite a large amount of capital tied up for one comparison) and have each of them address the questions, share the results, and add anything that's come up after reading other people's reviews.

I know that is rather complex, perhaps there's an easier method, but these products are great, and I think that more people would take the plunge if there was a bit less up in the air about which is most likely the best - if that makes any sense.

Happy Lady - how would you use them? Perhaps I can address it in a follow-up.
01/31/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
I'm not sure technically how to do it outside of the forum, but possibly more specific questions or things that people are interested in (such as your question, Happy Lady) could be collected and sent to a group of people who have used/reviewed ... more
Most of the reviews I have read for the "L" shaped doubles are for pegging, or other male bodied-female bodied uses, whereas I would be using them only for lesbian double penetration. I have seen a couple of lesbian use reviews of these, but *and maybe I'm just missing them* the majority seem to be for hetero use.
01/31/2009
Contributor: Beautiful Dreamer Beautiful Dreamer
I know video reviews are so helpful. Seeing a product in someones hands, watching them bend it, etc. really can give much more insight than even a well wrote review. Just a suggestion.
01/31/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Quote:
Originally posted by Beautiful Dreamer
I know video reviews are so helpful. Seeing a product in someones hands, watching them bend it, etc. really can give much more insight than even a well wrote review. Just a suggestion.
Heck yes! Please feel free to post a video of one of these in use, preferably in lesbian use....

heheee
01/31/2009
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Perhaps this is something which can go on the EF blog? I know that the current porn star series has really been dragging on for a while. Comparisons of some of the more similar unique items (did that make sense? LOL) could go there.
01/31/2009
Contributor: Red Red
Hey All,

I have both a feeldoe slim and a share, and I can say beyond a shadow of a doubt, I loved (like 5-star-top-marks loved) my feeldoe (used with harneess, fyi), but the share is so so much better. It stays in better w/o harness, and even in harness with really extreme wide leg positions, it stays put. Plus the share gets me off more often and every time I use it, unlike the feeldoe which requires more work.

I know the nexus often gets compared to the feeldoe/share, but to me that looks different - like because it's not designed to stay in it's a differnt beast. *shrug* dunno, really, what to say as I've never tried the nexus. I love the hell out of my share, bottom line.
02/01/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
While I would love to compare the Nexus with the Share personally, there are already two verified reviews, and current finances make it impossible to justify buying one.

That said, here's my initial thoughts on how they both would work in F/F use:

It looks like the curve of the Share would mean that it points up a bit more, probably giving a bit more G-spot stimulation in a face-to-face position. The flare on the "base" end of the getter's dildo may give more clitoral stimulation than the flat base/harness of the Nexus, but the Share doesn't have the vibrator (which is noticeable when the Nexus Maximus is inserted). Rear entry would probably be about equal.

Here's a product idea: how about a "fake cock ring" that could be put on a harnessed dildo to provide a bit of clitoral stimulation for the getter? I'm not sure how well a cock ring would work, as they generally go on behind the balls and therefore might be too big.
02/01/2009
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
I only own the Feeldoe slim from this bunch, and honestly, it has made me wary to try something else. I thought it was great for solo use, but that it was kind of bulky and awkward for F/F use.
02/01/2009
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I own the Feeldoe Slim, I find the angle somewhat off when using it with my b/f, with my g/f it's great but I have to use a harness as it pops out when I come. I like the looks of the Share but have not yet bought it. Now I hear that Happy Valley out of Canada has the Tango...a double ended dil with a vibe. From their other toys, I like their silicone. It probably has some give. The shape looks like the best yet..
Yes, I would love a side by side comparison..Feeldoe. Share, Nexus and the Tango. I will "volunteer" as a tester. LOL.
02/02/2009
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
I don't think anyone would pass up the opportunity to be the side by side tester for all of these dildos! I know I would love to do that.

I've got the Feeldoe Slim as well and have had it for 3+ years now, definitely holds up well (good construction) and it is a lot of fun to use, though my partner almost universally prefers to wear a harness with it. I would love to get a Share to compare and see how easily that dildo is to use "harness free," because really that's the only drawback to the Feeldoe...which otherwise is a very solidly built toy that is great fun for solo or partner play.
02/02/2009
Contributor: Red Red
Quote:
Originally posted by Ciao.
I don't think anyone would pass up the opportunity to be the side by side tester for all of these dildos! I know I would love to do that.

I've got the Feeldoe Slim as well and have had it for 3+ years now, definitely holds up well ... more
Boink, the share is easier to keep in (the "bulb" is better designed to hug inner curves but I still prefer to use a harness as I like feeling free to use as wide a legged stance as I want without worrying about my cock falling off.

Also, it is *uber* hawt to have my partner pull out the bulb of the share, push it to the side, grab onto my harness and give me a solid pounding before I nail him
02/02/2009
Contributor: Red Red
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
I own the Feeldoe Slim, I find the angle somewhat off when using it with my b/f, with my g/f it's great but I have to use a harness as it pops out when I come. I like the looks of the Share but have not yet bought it. Now I hear that Happy Valley ... more
The Share is better as an anal dildo, as the bridge between the two sides is way more flexible and infinitely adjustable to get the right angle. Also the silicone is softer. The share is better to give a blowjob to than the feeldoe as well, also because the silicone is a bit softer.

Also on the share, the crotch "scoop" presses quite pleasantly into the mound during use, particularly if harnessed. I prefer it as a clitoral stimulator to the feeldoe's ridges.

I really want to try a nexus as a point of comparison - mostly cause the nexus looks FUN - is is made of vixskin? that would be heaven!
02/02/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
The Nexus line isn't made of VixSkin, but it is made of a wonderfully soft silicone that does the flex thing. I've tested the Maximus, but I e-mailed Vixen and they said that they use the same silicone across the product line. The big difference I see (comparing the Nexus Maximus to the pictures of the Share) is that the Nexus Maximus juts out at a almost horizontal angle which, combined with the flexible, almost squishy silicone, makes it comfortable to use in almost any position, and the Nexus does a very similar thing to the Share's "crotch scoop" pressing on the clitoris (but the Maximus has a vibe!)

I've heard the same issues with the Feeldoe being a bit too hard, but I've never tried one.
I love my Nexus, though.
02/02/2009
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Quote:
Originally posted by Red
Boink, the share is easier to keep in (the "bulb" is better designed to hug inner curves but I still prefer to use a harness as I like feeling free to use as wide a legged stance as I want without worrying about my cock falling off. ... more
Good to know, definitely sounds like a toy my partner and I would enjoy!
02/02/2009
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
The Nexus line isn't made of VixSkin, but it is made of a wonderfully soft silicone that does the flex thing. I've tested the Maximus, but I e-mailed Vixen and they said that they use the same silicone across the product line. The big ... more
The Feeldoe is definitely a pretty firm dildo, I wouldn't say too hard, but it's definitely not "lifelike" in feel at all. While I'm sure some prefer a softer dildo, sometimes the Feeldoe's hardness makes it easier to hit the right spots, so it's probably more of a personal preference thing. I don't mind it.
02/02/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
So is there anyone who has been able to use any of them as it appears they were designed for - without a harness the vast majority of the time? I would really love one, but if I'm going to have to use a harness anyway...
02/02/2009
Contributor: Red Red
Quote:
Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
So is there anyone who has been able to use any of them as it appears they were designed for - without a harness the vast majority of the time? I would really love one, but if I'm going to have to use a harness anyway...
Happy Lady, the share works quite well w/o a harness. I just prefer to use it with one! The feeldoe also works w/o a harness, but with a smaller range of positions. Wide legged stance positions with a strapless strapon simply ask quite a bit of your PC muscles, that's all.
02/03/2009
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Quote:
Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
So is there anyone who has been able to use any of them as it appears they were designed for - without a harness the vast majority of the time? I would really love one, but if I'm going to have to use a harness anyway...
I have used the Feeldoe w/o a harness but keeping my legs together is difficult while standing. Also when I get off, the bulb pops out. (I know I have strong muscles as I have "destroyed" some vibes by flexing my kegel muscles). I luv to stand with legs apart and pound...with a harness, the Feeldoe does come through. Great with my g/f but with b/f, the angle seems to be off. The Share looks good but so does the Nexus so I don't know..........
02/03/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Thanks Red & Liz. Those are exactly the answers I've been seeking.
02/03/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
So what I'm hearing is roughly the following:

Most people here that have one of these dildos have either the Feeldoe or the Share, and among these two the Share is the more popular because it gives better vulvar stimulation (does that count as a word?) and is softer. Many/most Share/Feeldoe users use theirs with a harness to keep things more secure. Also, the Nexus owners seem to be quieter or more shy.

I'd still like to see a "buyer's guide" or side-by-side review of these dildos, and I'd be happy to participate in putting it together.
02/05/2009
Contributor: Dragon Dragon
Quote:
Originally posted by Fred Petrenko
@ScottA. Thank you for the post. How do you think we can organize such collective/ collaborative reviews beside the forum? Let's say here is the situation like you just described: several more or less similar products and we would like to produce ... more
Never an intrusion. I think we love to see your presence here!
02/06/2009
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
So what I'm hearing is roughly the following:

Most people here that have one of these dildos have either the Feeldoe or the Share, and among these two the Share is the more popular because it gives better vulvar stimulation (does that ... more
I too have not been able to get any substantive info on the Nexus line vs the Feeldoe & Share. To complicate matters, Happy Valley has come out with a double, the Tango, similar to the Feeldoe, with a vibe that is supposed to be awesome. I mentioned this item to EF and hope they get it. This is one I want to try. I have been putting off getting either the Share(no vibe) or Nexus.
Tango can be found on the "Come as You Are" or the "Good For Her" out of Canada.
I have been very happy with Happy Valley products. Their silicone substance and stability are awesome!!
02/06/2009
Contributor: PurpleReign PurpleReign
Looks like I came to this party 3 weeks to late...

Read and enjoyed Liz2's Tango review. I noticed that first Good For Her, and now CAYA list the Tango, and wondered why EF hadn't yet. Thanks for stepping up Liz.

Another product to through into the list along with the Share, Feeldo, Nexus and Tango: the Vamp Silicone Duetto.

link

Stumbled across it and the company while looking for the various makers of top silicone toys. A blurb:

"Many customers and users of "doubles" complain the Nexus and Feeldoe are too floppy and too hard, respectively. Vamp has perfected the "double" by creating Duetto, a more ergonomic design that actually stays in place and offers two options of "firmness" from which to choose. The Duetto Firm and the Duetto Flex are both in between the softer Nexus and the harder Feeldoe, but still offer the user a perfectionist's choice between more flex or more firmness. Our best advice is if you prefer the Nexus over the Feeldoe, go with the Duetto Flex and vice versa. The Duetto is an anatomical superstar with its perfect g-spot curve. Unlike standard, floppy dildoes, both dildoes that comprise the Duetto are designed to hit perfectly where the vaginal roof and wall meet--the g-spot."

Always a bit leery when there's a claim of perfecting something...but who knows. To me it seems a cross between the Nexus and Share.
03/01/2009