Does using a large dildo make sex with your boyfriend less enjoyable?

Contributor: StunningView StunningView
Here's the deal--

I'm getting the Vixskin Outlaw for my girlfriend, a pretty much behemoth dildo measuring around 10 inches long and really wide. Is this going to make our sex less enjoyable because she will be stretched to take a bigger cock? Or does the vagina just go back to normal size within a day or two like it never happened? I only wanted to try it out with her once in a while like once a month when she's feeling extra "naughty", what are your girls thoughts?
12/19/2010
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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12/19/2010
Contributor: firekitten firekitten
Well I don't have a huge dildo, but I have vaginally delivered a child. And the guy I most consistently have sex with is quite well endowed. As far as I've been told by other partners, it feels no different for them, I'm no looser, and I have no loss of sensation. So, I'm going to say based on my experience that the vagina is a remarkably adaptable part of anatomy and you should be fine.
12/19/2010
Contributor: StunningView StunningView
Thank you for the insight firekitten,

So far so good...Any other girls to back up the claim that it does or doesn't make a difference?
12/19/2010
Contributor: sophie2229 sophie2229
I doubt it will make a difference after 24 hours. I have the Eleven and I don't notice any difference in tightness the next day.
12/19/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by StunningView
Thank you for the insight firekitten,

So far so good...Any other girls to back up the claim that it does or doesn't make a difference?
You will always stretch to fit a bigger toy, but shrink back afterwards. I have been told that if you regularly use a very large toy/whatever else you may be using it can take up to completely reverse the effects. I think the only real exceptions to this are actual tears, but they tend to make you a bit tighter because they don't stretch the way the rest of your skin will. Also once you have stretched to a much larger size and especially if you do so on a regular basis your vagina will stretch more easily and may take a bit longer to shrink back. However if your kegals are good you should have no problems whatsoever.
12/19/2010
Contributor: Lindz86 Lindz86
I've never been told about having a loose vagina, and I've had some very well endowed partners, as well as not so well endowed partners. I've also been told that some girls vaginas are just bigger, whether or not they've had children. So I believe they are supposed to shrink back to normal within a small amount of time, and if they don't then that girl needs to start doing kegels.
12/19/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
After nearly 15 years of sex toy play - we have slowly increased the size of our 'toy set'. A 1.5" toy use to make her feel full - now that takes at least 1.75 to 2". Girth wise that's going from 4.7" to 6.3" and that's a lot.

So what have I noticed? When we use a 2" toy - then have intercourse there is a noticeable loss of tightness. But interestingly the same loss can happen if we use the PureWand and she has a gushing orgasm.

However the changes are not all bad. The lower friction levels from the lubrication after gushing or the larger toy enables me to delay my orgasm resulting in at least 1-2 more orgasms for my wife - and usually a stronger orgasm for me.

If more friction is necessary we'll switch to doggy style and she'll keep her knees together to tighten things up - which also gives me some leverage for 'pounding' - grabb'n those hips at goi'n at it'!

We have also embarked on some new ideas (new for us). We are going to incorporate more anal play - plugs and vibes that serve to tighten things up and add new levels of pleasure for both of us.

Sorry for the long answer - hope the info is useful!
12/19/2010
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
My biggest toy is about 5 1/2" around, but I don't thrust with it. That being said, my bf is an average size, and I find that sex with him is no less enjoyable after using a larger toy. I do plenty of kegels, though.

Are you sure she can handle the Outlaw? 6 1/4" is a lot of toy, and plenty of ladies aren't into that.
12/19/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
It doesn't make a difference for me. The largest dildo that I regularly use is almost 2 inches in diameter and the only way that I think it would make a difference would be if we had sex a few minutes after I had used it.
12/19/2010
Contributor: TexasBrat TexasBrat
Quote:
Originally posted by StunningView
Here's the deal--

I'm getting the Vixskin Outlaw for my girlfriend, a pretty much behemoth dildo measuring around 10 inches long and really wide. Is this going to make our sex less enjoyable because she will be stretched to take a ... more
The vagina is a beautiful thing. It can stretch, and go back (think that we push babies thru it, and it goes back to normal size). It would take constant use to even stretch her out the least bit, and that means CONSTANT! If you or she are really worried about size, I would suggest that your GF also does her Kegel excercises, where she squeezes the muscles in, hold for a few seconds, release, and does it a few times a day, starting with 10 "reps. This can be done anywhere, anytime, and nobody knows when you're doing them.
I would also strongly suggest that you also use lube, and LOTS of it, when using any larger toy. Be careful as to what kind you use. VixSkin is a silicone toy, so NEVER use a silicone based lube with it (it will literally melt it). But a good water-based lube, even a water-based gel lube would be extremely beneficial, making the toy go in smoother, and less likely for her to have any discomfort. Also, be sure her clit is stimulated too. Ah, there's nothing like clit stimulation!!
12/19/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
Well I have a pretty big dildo link and it does stretch me out a bit and it makes it difficult to feel my hubby afterwards, but my hubby knows how to use his cock, so I have no issues getting off with him. Now if we use it one time at the beginning of the week and then a couple days later don't use it, I go back to normal, so no issues there at all. As long as you know how to please her and move it, there shouldn't be any issues.
12/19/2010
Contributor: StunningView StunningView
Thx for all the replies everyone--

Basically what I got from you ladies is it stretches it but not for long which is what I needed to know. I do thank everyone of you for your replies you definitely made my decison to go through with it much easier and I think she may even wind up liking it a lot which will be hot! Big dildo time for her snatch on Tuesday that's for sure! I'll stop by this thread after Tuesday and let everyone know how it goes
12/19/2010
Contributor: Vexed Vexed
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
Well I have a pretty big dildo link and it does stretch me out a bit and it makes it difficult to feel my hubby afterwards, but my hubby knows how to use his cock, so I have no issues getting off with him. Now if we use it one time at the beginning ... more
SexySarah, do you think that if you enjoyed that lovely Jeff Stryker cock every day, that your vagina would stay a bit looser for 1 to 2 days?

I use one of Doc Johnson's Cyberskin dildos with my girlfriend. It is 6.25" in circumference. She does feel looser if I put my penis in her during the same play session after the dildo has been in her. That turns me on though. I like knowing that she just orgasmed with a thicker cock in her. It's naughty, and I have a submissive side. I like feeling that my cock is subordinate to bigger cocks, and adding the bigger dildos to our sex is one way that I'm able to enjoy that.

It seems that I can tell that her vagina is still a little more "open" on the next day, once in a while, but that isn't noticeable every time. I can never tell on the second day after.

Even with daily use it wouldn't make her permanently loose. It will only make her vagina more flexible, and she will be able to take in larger cocks more quickly. She wouldn't actually be loose, just quite stretchy and flexible.

By the way, I'm a cuckold by nature too.
12/31/2010
Contributor: kfdarling kfdarling
Good information
04/07/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
don't think it makes a difference
04/07/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
The vagina (and anus for that matter) snap back pretty quickly as long as you don't really abuse them.
04/08/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
The vagina is a beautiful thing. It can stretch, and go back (think that we push babies thru it, and it goes back to normal size). It would take constant use to even stretch her out the least bit, and that means CONSTANT! If you or she are really ... more
Well said
04/09/2012
Contributor: redhead1977 redhead1977
If she's worried about that, have her do her Kegel exercises.
04/11/2012
Contributor: Girly Juice Girly Juice
Not at all. The experience of using a dildo could never replicate or even approach the experience of sex with the man I love, no matter how awesome the dildo was.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Ddcorneva Ddcorneva
Well my boyfriend has a small.. thinis penis. We use toys. But he wants to try big ones and specifically a huge black dildo... I know from my 6" toy that after I use it I can barley feel him except for a few positions... i finally said yes to getting a 10 inch black one that he wanted and it's 3.5 in diameter... I wasn't even able to feel pleasure from his cock after... he's little 3" maybe 4"
05/19/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
OW's has some hefty dildos. Only used when in the mood. Always returns to normal. A little big and slippery when it's my turn. She always still wants me and loves feeling my body rubbing on hers. That's something a large dildo can't do.

We too, just got the Outlaw.
It's worth the hefty price tag and should last forever.
05/20/2017
Contributor: bobb bobb
Quote:
Originally posted by Ddcorneva
Well my boyfriend has a small.. thinis penis. We use toys. But he wants to try big ones and specifically a huge black dildo... I know from my 6" toy that after I use it I can barley feel him except for a few positions... i finally said yes to ... more
Trust me, if your boyfriend is excited about seeing you use a ten inch black dildo that's considerably larger around than a beer can, then he wants your pussy stretched out. This will excite him like you can't imagine. For some guys, a large gaping hole is intoxicating. And the fact that you can't feel him when he fucks you, is part of his enjoyment. Have fun.
04/09/2018
Contributor: Carlislem36 Carlislem36
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Originally posted by SexyySarah
Well I have a pretty big dildo link and it does stretch me out a bit and it makes it difficult to feel my hubby afterwards, but my hubby knows how to use his cock, so I have no issues getting off with him. Now if we use it one time at the beginning ... more
My wife has a very similar one. She loves it but has to be used in moderation.


05/12/2018
Contributor: GreenDave GreenDave
Hi Ladies,
Question, I'm a married man of 23 yrs, suffer with ed, and recently got a rather large toy for my wife the 9" dillio with harness, problem is I love fucking her with it I don't want to use my own cock when I can get hard, obviously mine isn't near the same size and I'm kinda of liking her getting off the way she is when I fuck her with it, what do u think?
08/14/2018
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Quote:
Originally posted by GreenDave
Hi Ladies,
Question, I'm a married man of 23 yrs, suffer with ed, and recently got a rather large toy for my wife the 9" dillio with harness, problem is I love fucking her with it I don't want to use my own cock when I can get hard, ... more
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10/22/2018
Contributor: CowboyTexas CowboyTexas
Quote:
Originally posted by StunningView
Here's the deal--

I'm getting the Vixskin Outlaw for my girlfriend, a pretty much behemoth dildo measuring around 10 inches long and really wide. Is this going to make our sex less enjoyable because she will be stretched to take a ... more
I think it honestly depends on how often you use it and to what extent.

I started out with a 6" with my wife. She would have rather just had the real thing in her at 6". Went up to 9" and that made a difference. Now we're up to 11" and a wider gurth.

As far as a noticable difference in the vagina, I couldn't say there was a difference with the 6", as I'm about 1.5" bigger than that one lol.

When we went to 9", I couldn't tell a difference unless I was in her right after-wards.

Now we use the 11" and wider girth. I can defiantly tell a difference when I go in after. But now we both usually go in her at the same time. I reach my hand back and stroke with what we call "homie" and then I do strokes, kind of like one after another. Doing that makes her start getting loud and orgasming a ton when were both in her.

Since we started the above routine (both going in her), her vigina has gotten noticeably looser. However, we only do this on Friday nights like tonight. We have sex at least 3-4 days through the week, and it seems to grow back in, but I can defiantly tell still in the middle of the week that we were both in her.

Does she have a problem orgasming during the week though is the question. And the answer is no. She might enjoy the big "homie" on the weekend with me. But I think it's a matter of real or fake and she still has no problem orgasming through the week.
03/15/2019
Contributor: adventurous1 adventurous1
I enjoy using large dildos on my wife, circumference of 7.75" to just over 8". She enjoys the sensation and visual stimulation of a big cock. She has multiple climaxes and I enjoy her hot wet pussy. I like that it's stretched, that gaping vaginal opening is a real turn on. If she has trouble feeling me, then I add a dildo with my dick and we both get off. Or I keep using the big dildo in her pussy and do her rectum with my cock. Very erotic and satisfying for both of us.
03/22/2019
Contributor: HARDON HARDON
Quote:
Originally posted by adventurous1
I enjoy using large dildos on my wife, circumference of 7.75" to just over 8". She enjoys the sensation and visual stimulation of a big cock. She has multiple climaxes and I enjoy her hot wet pussy. I like that it's stretched, that ... more
Good man!
I don't care what your partner really likes, you're ready to give it to her and provide extasy that she loves.... Big dick, dildo, vibrator, it doesn't matter as long as she cums first! Women are Soo beautiful, and giving them what they need should be top priority...
Good man!
03/23/2019
Contributor: Leil@ Leil@
Vagina's muscles are very elastic. If you stretch them out and then let them loose, they will go back to their normal size. Everything depends on the frequency of use. If use oversized dildo or vibrator permanently and very often, a vagina doesn't have time to contract. But if there is a break, it will return to an original state. Vaginas don't stay stretched forever!
04/24/2019