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Contributor: NoKnowing NoKnowing
I am wondering why guys are obsessed with their girls taking more when it comes to penetration?
wether it's more fingers, bigger penis, or larger toy. I would love to discuss this matter. I know at least one person brought this up to me but I would really like to know more
09/15/2017
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Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I don't think there is a mystery here. People want more money, more tech, bigger TVs, etc. You may think men are more into this than women, but my wife's collection of shoes and purses leads me to believe that the drive for more is pretty universal.

Although my wife wasn't necessarily into larger toys - she was certainly into more and stronger orgasms (multiple and blended orgasms - and gushing).

The fact that using larger toys helped her achieve those results can be credited to my continuous experimentation.

It isn't always about larger - especially when it comes to vibes. Unique styles like rabbits and shapes like the We-Vibe Tango and remote control panty vibes are all part of the mix.

Our whole sex life is about more - Liberator shapes, paddles, crops, blindfolds, cuffs, pussy pumps, clitoral & nipple jewelry, etc. Dildos and vibrators are continuously evolving and trying the new - and yes sometimes larger toys is just fun.

When you get past sex as romance and see it as recreation - go big! Who wants a small boat?
09/15/2017
Contributor: NoKnowing NoKnowing
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I don't think there is a mystery here. People want more money, more tech, bigger TVs, etc. You may think men are more into this than women, but my wife's collection of shoes and purses leads me to believe that the drive for more is pretty ... more
You make some good points. Do you think there is a correlation between materialism and wanting more sexually (orgasms)?

I think it's a bit of a stretch but it is an interesting theory. Maybe it's because I am easlily satisfied in and out of the bedroom. I don't have much much and if I want more of anything then it's my Boyfriends French fries that I steal off his plate
09/15/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Perhaps people have a " sadistic " nature. And men more so than women, although many may debate that statement.

Or perhaps some men want to think their women are "Great" in bed. The bigger the d**k they can take the better they are in bed. And since they don't have a big one get a large dildo.

Some men encourage their women to do more than one guy at a time also. Again, either sadistic or to prove/ know she is the best in bed.

So, NoK . Does this make any sense to you ?

Any shrinks out there with opinions? Mothers too strict? Too much exposure to porn at a young age ? Inferiority complex? Seen too many well endowed performers in pornos ?

I'm another question for you women . Would you prefer a man with good looks, common sense, caring, works hard , courteous, ambitious etc over a guy with a larger than average p*nis ?
Or would you compromise?
09/15/2017
Contributor: NoKnowing NoKnowing
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Perhaps people have a " sadistic " nature. And men more so than women, although many may debate that statement.

Or perhaps some men want to think their women are "Great" in bed. The bigger the d**k they can take the better ... more
Yea it makes some sense and you make some valid points. My boyfriend is on the small side of average and I dont want him to get caught up on the size issue. Because honestly with him I feel stuffed :p
I don't want him to think that he is not enough for me or that I need something bigger. If it's just about OUR pleasure then I am all for it but if it's about his insecurities I don't want too.

09/15/2017
Contributor: NoKnowing NoKnowing
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Perhaps people have a " sadistic " nature. And men more so than women, although many may debate that statement.

Or perhaps some men want to think their women are "Great" in bed. The bigger the d**k they can take the better ... more
I would prefer a good looking man that works hard, with common sense, caring, and sense of humor over a Big Penis any day

I don't even know what a big penis is like.
09/15/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by NoKnowing
You make some good points. Do you think there is a correlation between materialism and wanting more sexually (orgasms)?

I think it's a bit of a stretch but it is an interesting theory. Maybe it's because I am easlily satisfied in and ... more
I absolutely think the idea of "more" is human nature. Civilization itself is the result of the engrained desire to have more - food, shelter, safety, land, power. How could this not cross over into sexual matters?

I have no specific research to cite - so like everything I post, it's just my opinion. You know that and $5 will get you a cup of coffee!

Only you and your SO can decide what's best for you.

Tomorrow is our 28th anniversary! If you asked my wife 10 years ago if she would be using a 9" x 2.3" dildo or 4 vibrators at the same time, or loving anal sex or pegging me or gushing copiously - she would have been shocked.

Now she's invigorated by sex. I no longer have to convincer her to have sex - she demands it! As she will tell you - I created a Goddess - that's how she refers to herself now! Being the Queen isn't enough anymore

Hopefully your sex life will not be the same 10 years from now as it is today. IMO that's how relationships die - the repetition and lack of variety kills the spirit.
09/15/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by NoKnowing
Yea it makes some sense and you make some valid points. My boyfriend is on the small side of average and I dont want him to get caught up on the size issue. Because honestly with him I feel stuffed :p
I don't want him to think that he is ... more
You know him the best and your relationship. Don't let us ruin anything for you. Life is give and take, learning, growing, adapting etc. We were happy with vanilla sex for years. Like you, he was the only one and I've no regrets. You having regular orgasms from him is way ahead of most of us.

He brought " toys " into our bedroom at a later date and that was fine too. As we got more comfortable and more privacy, we got more daring. I won't say bigger is not better, but will say not as important as what really matters. Loving , caring , doing things for each other and our families etc.

And as I said, " if bigger is better for me then it's better for him too. We did evolve into occasional role switching. As a matter of fact the last big dildo he bought got the better of him than me.

PS, if you complete your profile you can take advantage of regular member benefits. One being getting the opportunity to test items , the follow system and private messages.

Hope you have a nice weekend
09/15/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by NoKnowing
I would prefer a good looking man that works hard, with common sense, caring, and sense of humor over a Big Penis any day

I don't even know what a big penis is like.
@NoK, I can tell you no dildo will feel like the real thing . However better to use one instead of cheating on him.
09/15/2017
Contributor: NoKnowing NoKnowing
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
@NoK, I can tell you no dildo will feel like the real thing . However better to use one instead of cheating on him.
i wouldn't cheat! I am sorry if I don't understand what you mean. I merely stated that I don't think size is a big deal because I don't know any better.

How do I finish or make a profile on here?
09/23/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by NoKnowing
i wouldn't cheat! I am sorry if I don't understand what you mean. I merely stated that I don't think size is a big deal because I don't know any better.

How do I finish or make a profile on here?
go to account dashboard under your avatar on top right margin. If you tap your avatar, profile and account dashbd should show. When reach account s page,look for settings on lower left side of that page. There's a bunch of stuff there you can fill out. Each one will complete your profile page.

To become a reviewer check out information on that under review program. You'll find that in the section above on the left margin.

For more assistance pm Lena Eden. Anywhere you see her name like on threads click. It should bring you to her page. Then pm her. However I'm not sure if she can reply unless your profile is setup. In any event, she will see this post and follow up .

good luck
09/23/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by NoKnowing
i wouldn't cheat! I am sorry if I don't understand what you mean. I merely stated that I don't think size is a big deal because I don't know any better.

How do I finish or make a profile on here?
Just went to my setting to check. Looks like you go to your account dashboard and then enter info in the Preference section. And the email section further down is useful also. It tells you when you rec a message.

By activating your acct, you can rec private messages, become a reviewer and follow other members. Other members can also follow you .

Good Luck,
09/26/2017
Contributor: DILF DILF
Just a couple of guesses here...I take it you are on the younger side, as you stated you have never had a big one before. Most guys and women have figured out their preferred sizes once they have had enough "sample size", so to speak. You stated "I don't think size is a big deal because I don't know any better". You also stated your BF is slightly small. Your comment should be re-worded as "I won't know if size is a big deal until I experience a size or two on the larger side". So until then, you can only speculate.

In the absence of cheating on your BF, or breaking up with him, perhaps you should "experiment" with a few dildos on the larger side, just to see what you do prefer. Words of caution: Be careful what you wish for. You could indeed be into size "once you know better". If you really enjoy the "feel" of an 8-inch dildo and you get used to its "effects" on you... whoa baby!!!

However, please go check out the myriad of dildo and penis size surveys and polls on this website's forum. You will find one inevitable truth - size does matter to most guys because it matters to most women. For the ladies, the average "preferred" sizes on these polls are like nearly 7 inches in length and nearly 6 inches in girth. These are like 90th%-tile sizes. But that's what they "prefer". The ONLY difference between the guys and ladies is that the guys come right out with it regarding size. Most ladies will keep it a secret no matter what. That's why you THINK guys are obsessed with this issue, when in all fairness, many ladies are too. They just won't disclose this to their guys for obvious reasons - and won't dwell on it. Women are really really good at taking an average or slightly below average size and "dealing with it".
10/05/2017
Contributor: Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by NoKnowing
I am wondering why guys are obsessed with their girls taking more when it comes to penetration?
wether it's more fingers, bigger penis, or larger toy. I would love to discuss this matter. I know at least one person brought this up to me but I ... more
Simple answer, guys are visual creatures. It is much more exciting visually watching a large penis enter a vagina than a tiny one. There is also the power thing, where the larger object imposes its will upon the receiver. We have become accustomed to being fed this fantasy that all women swoon when being impaled on a enormous penis, so that is what has become the common thread in porn.
That's not to say there isn't a touch of reality there. Way too big is one thing, but generally, larger seems to be better than not. I can't remember a woman ever saying gee, your small cock feels so good, where I have seen more say, the opposite, your big cock feel great.
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