I do enjoy anal play - and so far she'll accommodate anything except pegging. We've been using non-phallic glass toys - next I'm going asj her to use some of the softer - realistic Vixskin toys that we have.

I do sometimes, but am working on getting her to give me a hand.

It's kinda hard to ask your partner about it. My ex-wife came up by herself and a few girlfriends after her. But generally it's don't ask don't tell. It is not easy for a man to ask his girl directly as the social acceptance in not there. However I've "tricked" one of my girlfriends into it by saying I have to go to a urologist for a prostate massage and it freaks me out. Turned out she was into these things by herself, but was really afraid to ask.

My boyfriend has told me that anal play is totally off-limits for him.

I am a male, and completely straight, but I can still appreciate anal stimulation because for me it feels good, and it doesn't hurt, so why not? Majority of people never try it because they are afraid of what people may think, or have accusations of being gay or bisexual, but as long as are you comfortable with your sexuality, you should at least try different realms of stimulation. It adds a lot of fun to the experience! Wooo~~