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Contributor: js250 js250
I noticed that when the announcement was made about EF adopting many changes in their points and review programs there was a lot of negativity and criticism.

Once we were asked for our input and felt as if we were part of the changes, the negativity and criticism has greatly lessened and members were starting to look forward to the changes being implemented.

I was thinking....is this due to our natural fear of change? To a perceived loss of control over a part of our life or site? Or was it due to feeling the loss of the free items we were used to receiving?
05/08/2013
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Contributor: GONE! GONE!
I think people always assume something will affect them more strongly than it actually does, they think the worst.
05/08/2013
Contributor: Gary Gary
I think people in general like things to not change, once you are used to them. I am the same way. But I think everyone needs to relax and remember the changes are not personal.
05/08/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
I just went through a HUGE change and was terrified about the changes that were forced upon me. My landlord lost the lease on the building I was in, so I had to move my retail business. I was so scared about affording another spot, moving the business, setting it up--still need to do this--and losing my customers due to the move.

I found a better location, my customers are still with me and the setting up....talk about that one later, lol!! I have a new enthusiasm for directions I am taking with the business which was lacking while I was complacent at my other location.

To change!
05/08/2013
Contributor: isabella72 isabella72
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Originally posted by GONE!
I think people always assume something will affect them more strongly than it actually does, they think the worst.
I completely agree!
05/08/2013
Contributor: Gary Gary
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Originally posted by js250
I just went through a HUGE change and was terrified about the changes that were forced upon me. My landlord lost the lease on the building I was in, so I had to move my retail business. I was so scared about affording another spot, moving the ... more
Congratulations!!!
05/08/2013
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by js250
I just went through a HUGE change and was terrified about the changes that were forced upon me. My landlord lost the lease on the building I was in, so I had to move my retail business. I was so scared about affording another spot, moving the ... more
That's awesome!

I think it depends somewhat on what the change is, and how you've been affected by change in the past, that shapes how you feel about/deal with change. I've had big changes that were great, and that I was looking forward to, and changes that made things very uncertain, but manageable in the end.
05/08/2013
Contributor: Heartthrob Heartthrob
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Originally posted by js250
I noticed that when the announcement was made about EF adopting many changes in their points and review programs there was a lot of negativity and criticism.

Once we were asked for our input and felt as if we were part of the changes, the ... more
Most likely I am going to bet that it was the loss of the free items. Free items were a huge pull for reviewers. In fact, I had many students who would not do reviews unless they had free items. But the buy out option should work fine.
05/09/2013
Contributor: eri86 eri86
I'm nervous of change as a general rule. But I don't hate it.
05/09/2013
Contributor: SexyPenis SexyPenis
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Originally posted by Heartthrob
Most likely I am going to bet that it was the loss of the free items. Free items were a huge pull for reviewers. In fact, I had many students who would not do reviews unless they had free items. But the buy out option should work fine.
I will admit I was a little disappointed by the loss of the free items for reviewers. I got one free item for my review as a student, which was pretty amazing, so I'm not complaining, but it was a big draw and a major part of my initial excitement about the review program at EdenFantasys. However, if the points for reviews is increased and the buyouts get a bigger percentage, it might work out roughly the same in the end. I still love Eden, regardless of the free items. The review quality and especially the safety and detailed product information have been SO helpful! As long as those things don't change I will happily recommend Eden!
05/09/2013
Contributor: SexyPenis SexyPenis
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Originally posted by js250
I just went through a HUGE change and was terrified about the changes that were forced upon me. My landlord lost the lease on the building I was in, so I had to move my retail business. I was so scared about affording another spot, moving the ... more
Congratulations! That is such an exciting story! Best of luck with the set up in the future, at least it's not that crucial to your customers!
05/09/2013
Contributor: Heartthrob Heartthrob
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Originally posted by SexyPenis
I will admit I was a little disappointed by the loss of the free items for reviewers. I got one free item for my review as a student, which was pretty amazing, so I'm not complaining, but it was a big draw and a major part of my initial ... more
For me, the change means a reduction in the expensive items that I will be able to review. But, I know that the Eden review program has gone through many changes in the past, so it's all good.
05/10/2013
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
You know... I am looking forward to it. I feel I've mastered the standard and extended template... I look forward to learning and mastering what comes next! Not to mention, I am very curious.

I find smaller changes so much more difficult to adapt to than ridiculously huge ones. I mean when the store clerks change their stock around that seems to have more of an effect on me. But moving to another country, changing jobs, family deaths.... Just seem much easier to get through. But when I stop and think of any changel... I realise that Monty Python said it best... Always look on the bright side of life. I can only control my reaction to change, I cannot control the changes.
05/16/2013
Contributor: Genderfree Genderfree
I'm more just thrown off by the fact that it happened so quickly and I'm still trying to find out what has changed!
08/27/2013
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
I was moreso appalled by the changes because I knew it wouldn't stop there. The site is 1000% different than it was when it was improved 2 months ago; I actually liked the 500/1000 points per review since I thought "Hey, what an incentive for both admins and users to write really, really useful and quality reviews." It was a good notion to keep point farmers out since your review had to be quality-insured by an admin first. It lasted about 2-3 months and now it's to nothing.
10/18/2013
Contributor: Slutty Girl Problems Slutty Girl Problems
I have been lurking on Eden Fantasy's for a while, but recently got more involved in the community, and am looking forward to writing reviews! I'm not sure what the old site was like, so it's hard for me to compare, but I am concerned reading through the comments to see how much has changed, and negatively affects reviewers.

I LOVE writing, and have a passion for sexuality (I actually write about it for a living!) so reviewing sex toys was a natural next-step in my exploration. I love to be in-depth and thorough in my reviews, but noticed that some reviewers seem to give only partial and "half effort" reviews. Perhaps this was an attempt to "farm points" and get free items, which is why the new changes have been made. But, points and free items should be given for QUALITY posts and reviews, not quantity of reviews/comments/discu ssions/posts/etc.

I wanted to write quality reviews for the simple fact that I love to write, try new products, share my knowledge... and I simply can't afford nice products. I fear that with the new changes, no free products, no points, and only being able to use points for 15% of the purchase - VERY FEW people will be writing reviews, and those who are great writers will be less motivated to give it their best. Why give your best with no reward? It seems like it would have been much better to give free products and points to the best reviewers, rather than eliminate the system entirely.

It should be a privilege earned, not given.... but those who really work to earn it, with great thorough reviews and effort, should still be able to enjoy the benefits.

After all, the great reviewers and community members here are what make Eden Fantasy's so powerful. It is the reviewers that make EF prosper. Reviewers are the reason EF gets so many sales! Taking the incentive to participate away, and giving no rewards, will discourage reviewers, lead to less reviews, and ultimately affect sales. In an attempt to save some money by limiting reviewer rewards, Eden Fantasy's may destroy the thing that makes it best, and destroy their own profit when reviewers and bloggers are less engaged and willing to give quality participation.
10/18/2013
Contributor: epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
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Originally posted by js250
I noticed that when the announcement was made about EF adopting many changes in their points and review programs there was a lot of negativity and criticism.

Once we were asked for our input and felt as if we were part of the changes, the ... more
A little bit of both. but mostly not getting free toys. but I understand that it can be hard on a company to keep up with the demand and abuse. I just have an issue with only 15% off it's just not enough for me, especially since I'm in Canada and have to pay shipping, so for me I used my points to pay for shipping. now It doesn't work like that, %15 off isn't enough to pay for shipping anymore . I'm much more likely to go through Canadian web sites for free shipping now (ever since the change). if they changed it for long time members to 50% off I would be shopping here with out hesitation.
09/02/2014