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What should I do if my mentor is very busy?

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Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
When looking for a mentor, I read about everyone who was available and then read reviews by people who specialized in an area I was interested in and chose a mentor. To be honest with you - I think I chose a pretty awesome mentor. She realized I was new and sent me information about the various materials in sex toys so I would know more about jelly, etc.

Last Saturday I submitted two reviews to her after putting a lot of work into them (extended reviews). She got back to me a day or so later with some suggestions that were really great and I edited about 1/2 of one review with her suggestions. She was going to get back to me with the rest of her suggestions but I am guessing she's been very busy.

I am sure that it doesn't help that she is halfway around the world (Australia) and so we're not online at the same times, etc. to chat.

I am antsy because I really want to get my first two reviews edited and published so I can get free stuff (at least I'm being honest here).

I am thinking about contacting her and asking her to release me from my class so I can get another mentor - but the thing is - she's put so much work into me already with sharing the links to how to clean toys, etc. and in the tips she gave me on my first review. I really can learn a lot from her. I feel like if I ask her to release me - I'm cheating her out of a $25 gift card that she has really earned in her own way.

What should I do? How long should I give her before contacting her?

Am I just being too antsy and whiny? (Feel free to send some cheese to go along with my whine).

Once again - my mentor is awesome - its more of a timing issue and the student wanting to graduate asap....or at least get to work editing my reviews asap.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Wait and contact her in X days (what is X days?)
indiglo
1
Ask her what she would prefer?
Ryuson , Ansley , stars , pinkcupcakes , indiglo , ellejay , Illumin8 , wrmbreze , Drakoni , sugarskull , aliceinthehole , poetprincess , Jon S , ~LaUr3n~ , Kate , K101 , Jake'n'bake
17
Get released and get a different mentor who has more time right now
K101
1
Other
Beck
1
Total votes: 20 (18 voters)
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10/06/2011
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Contributor: Beck Beck
I had one that was very busy. I wanted a few days and she contacted me. I would say wait a few days if she still seems busy, then cancel class and get a new mentor.
10/06/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
I would approach it like "I know that you're very busy, but I was wondering if it might be less stressful if I switched mentors? I don't want to add onto your already busy schedule!"
10/06/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I understand the frustration that is waiting, but there's kind of an upside to it if you think about it. The downtime between responses gave me a chance to look over my reviews and think about how I would improve it with or without the suggestions from my mentor. When I did get a response, my suspicions were either confirmed or there were other things my mentor thought I should focus on so that really helped me learn what to look out for on my own. When I finally graduated, I felt like I was on solid ground but I wanted roots, so I joined another class. I picked someone who is on my schedule, but they have a family, a job and social responsibilities outside of Eden. I think even mentors need at least a day to reflect on what we've written in order to help us improve. No matter who you pick as a mentor there is going to be somewhat of a delay in responses and progress. And that's ok. EdenFantasys isn't going anywhere.
10/06/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I think you could definitely ask your mentor what they would prefer. Otherwise, in another thread like this, it was suggested to give a grace period of 1 week, then contact them again. Then if you don't hear back, contact Gary so he can advise you how to continue.

I agree with Stormy, try to use the down time to productively look at your reviews (or read a bunch of reviews to see what information is usually included in Extremely Useful reviews) and tweak them. No one will be able to get back to you immediately, especially if a review needs editing - that can take a little while.
10/06/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
I'd personally ask them what they prefer.
10/06/2011
Contributor: Drakoni Drakoni
What happened in the end? Did you sort everything out?
11/13/2011
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
When looking for a mentor, I read about everyone who was available and then read reviews by people who specialized in an area I was interested in and chose a mentor. To be honest with you - I think I chose a pretty awesome mentor. She realized I was ... more
It happens I have learned to be patient I too have an awesome mentor who also seems to be kinda busy but I know she has a life and is probably not glued to her computer. so usually Ill send her a little reminder to make sure she didnt forget about me..
11/17/2011