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Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
What would you do if your student wrote their first review based on experience that you cannot, in good consciousness, recommend?

Specifically, using a lube anally that definitely isn't thick enough for anal use. Now I know people do it all the time, but it doesn't mean reviews should encourage it, and I simply cannot condone it. I feel like if I let the review go through, I'm indirectly encouraging it. Or something.

Keep in mind that this is what the reviewer solely uses the lube for...

Ask the reviewer to cut out that part of the review entirely?
Ask the reviewer to tone it down?
Ignore it?
Move on to a different product?
Stop freaking out and being ridiculous?!

Suggestions, please!
04/26/2011
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Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Andromeda
What would you do if your student wrote their first review based on experience that you cannot, in good consciousness, recommend?



Specifically, using a lube anally that definitely isn't thick enough for anal use. Now I know people ... more
I would recommend a disclaimer. Have the reviewer put in that generally thicker lubes are recommended for anal play. They should be able to review the product for the manner in which they reviewed it; but that doesn't mean they have to recommend an unsafe product.

Make sense?
04/26/2011
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
Unless they are making unsafe recommendations, I would let it go. They are reviewing based on their own experience and preference, and that is totally valid. There may be other readers that also prefer a thinner lube for anal use. As long as the review is informative, I would have no problem with it. However, since it's a lube, perhaps they could also discuss other potential uses such as vaginally, with toys, etc.
04/26/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Kindred
Unless they are making unsafe recommendations, I would let it go. They are reviewing based on their own experience and preference, and that is totally valid. There may be other readers that also prefer a thinner lube for anal use. As long as the ... more
I agree, just because a person does not like a thin lube for anal does not mean another person has to. I have used thin lubes many times without any problems, other than having to reapply. I honestly do not see any problem with it.

I just recommend a thicker lube for the staying power and not having to reapply as often.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
I agree, just because a person does not like a thin lube for anal does not mean another person has to. I have used thin lubes many times without any problems, other than having to reapply. I honestly do not see any problem with it.



I ... more
I'm gonna have to ditto here. It's not necessarily unsafe, it's just a preference.
04/26/2011
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
I agree, just because a person does not like a thin lube for anal does not mean another person has to. I have used thin lubes many times without any problems, other than having to reapply. I honestly do not see any problem with it.



I ... more
Agreed. Now if they were encouraging the use of a toy that was unsafe for anal, either of us would suggest that the student make it clear that although they used it that way, it's not a good idea. But for a lubricant, it's all personal preference so we wouldn't say anything.
04/27/2011
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
I suppose I was informed differently. I have always been told that thin lubes are unsafe for anal and can be dangerous, hence the freaking out.

Okay, so I need to chill a bit. Lesson learned
04/27/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I always use (thinner) lubes that aren't directly for anal and I have never had a problem at all.

I think it's fine - it's their choice.
04/27/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I would recommend a disclaimer. Have the reviewer put in that generally thicker lubes are recommended for anal play. They should be able to review the product for the manner in which they reviewed it; but that doesn't mean they have to ... more
Me too, I would the same thing. Have the review state that is what they use but that thicker lubes is what is preferable in general for anal play.

Using thin lube is not as much of a big slip than using vasoline for vaginal play in my mind. I don't see it as much of a big misinformation than the vasoline or other similar examples.
05/03/2011