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Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
If it's used humorously, and only occasionally, it's OK. If crude slang is used in the review extensively, it bothers me. I like the word "cunt" "pussy" "cock" "dick" during sex, but I really prefer the actual terms for the word, vagina, labia, clit is OK, you don't have to spell out clitoris, unless you want to, penis, testes or testicles (even thought the proper plural of testicle is testes testicle is just ONE, I am not going to hold that against a writer, because everyone except English Majors and offspring of Technical Writers (me) use "testicles" for the plural. It doesn't bother me at all. (But the proper work IS "testes.")

I think most of the time, unless the words are only used once in a while, or to make a point or to be funny, it's OK. Seeing a review where the vagina is called a "twat" or a "fuck hole" EVERY TIME they mention the vagina just makes me think the reviewer isn't taking is as seriously as he or she could or being lazy.

But, occasional use, is fine. As most things, context and intention is everything.
10/30/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Blinker
I love the word "cunt", too. It's a term of endearment for my boyfriend and I, but I've never read a review that mentions it. One word that might give me pause in a review is "sphincter". Just because it's ... more
I use the word "Sphincter" sometimes. Because it is the actual word for the ring of muscle which circles your.......asshole.

I know women who can't stand the word "cunt" and I used to be one of them. Reclaiming that word was part of my re-awakening and shedding of a lot of inhibitions. But, like I said before, occasional use in a review is OK with me, if it's the ONLY word they use for "vagina" in a review, and it is used again and again, I start to think "Hmmm, needs a vocabulary overhaul." Then I think when someone uses ANY word over and over again, it starts to bug me. One of the signs of good, quality writing is a variety of vocabulary, and it shows me the reviewer thought about what he or she was writing before hitting "submit."

When I first started writing for pleasure and school years ago, I used to sit with a Thesaurus on my lap, so I could learn new words and make my writing more effective.

That's just me.

Mileage etc...
10/30/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Cunt is one of the words that I never use, in writing or speaking. Honestly, I was not aware of the origin of the word. It was a word that made me cringe whenever I heard it.
Learned something new today!
10/30/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
I use it in real life all the time. It is one of my favorite words. But I also know there are people that cannot stand that word. So in a review I would not but I also would not care if someone else does
10/30/2010
Contributor: J's Alley J's Alley
I hate it...but people will use what they want and as long I can can get through the review without wanting to vomit, I am great with it.
10/31/2010
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
I have my own policy in my writing -- I try to avoid naming body parts unless it's absolutely necessary to clearly express my meaning. What's offensive or just offputting varies so widely from reader to reader that's it's just easier to dodge the issue. And I don't mean dodge the issue by saying ridiculous things like "love flower" unless I'm trying to get a laugh. However, when it comes right down to it, and the part must be named, I refuse to censor myself. The word most appropriate to the exact situation will be used. In fiction, the word choice becomes a character-based decision, but in reviews, I'll err on the side of clinical.

I'd never judge anyone else for their choices, though.

Well, except for whoever is responsible for the August issue of Cosmo. That was just ridiculous.
10/31/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
I have my own policy in my writing -- I try to avoid naming body parts unless it's absolutely necessary to clearly express my meaning. What's offensive or just offputting varies so widely from reader to reader that's it's just easier ... more
What did Cosmo do now?
10/31/2010
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
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Originally posted by P'Gell
What did Cosmo do now?
The headline on the cover read "Untamed Vajajays!"

Because it's okay to talk about pubic hair styles in mixed company, but the word vagina is too dirty. It's just such a clash of concepts that I find it ridiculous. Plus they plastered it right over a perfectly good picture of Jessica Alba. *sigh*
11/01/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I use the word "Sphincter" sometimes. Because it is the actual word for the ring of muscle which circles your.......asshole.

I know women who can't stand the word "cunt" and I used to be one of them. Reclaiming that ... more
LOL It bugs me to have to write a word over and over again.

"Testicles"....yup I said it! *Runs away laughing*
11/01/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
I don't really care if a writer uses slang or not, as long as it's not overdone and doesn't seem like they're trying to write bad erotica.

One person's idea of gross & vulgar is probably another person's "nice word" for a body part. You can say "cunt" or "twat" all day long and I don't care, but the word "pussy" has always grated on my nerves in a BIG way. There's too many negative things I associate it with. It's a common word for most people though so I've taught myself to ignore it when I see it in reviews and books, but Alan knows that saying that word in bed is the best way for him to wind up not getting any of it.
11/01/2010
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGeek
The headline on the cover read "Untamed Vajajays!"

Because it's okay to talk about pubic hair styles in mixed company, but the word vagina is too dirty. It's just such a clash of concepts that I find it ridiculous. Plus ... more
HA! My sister has that issue in my house right now!

And the article is completely ridiculous! Who bedazzles their mound? Or dyes their labia? No, really, who? I'm curious!
11/01/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGeek
The headline on the cover read "Untamed Vajajays!"

Because it's okay to talk about pubic hair styles in mixed company, but the word vagina is too dirty. It's just such a clash of concepts that I find it ridiculous. Plus ... more
UG, Hate hate hate the baby word "Vajayjay." Cosmo. *sigh* Why is "Penis" OK, but "Vagina" has to be turned into a baby word? I don't get it.
11/01/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
LOL It bugs me to have to write a word over and over again.

"Testicles"....yup I said it! *Runs away laughing*
AUGHGHGH!! TESTES! (Kidding.)
11/01/2010
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
UG, Hate hate hate the baby word "Vajayjay." Cosmo. *sigh* Why is "Penis" OK, but "Vagina" has to be turned into a baby word? I don't get it.
Because girl parts are yucky, but big strong men are important. Why do we not have an eyeroll smiley?
12/18/2010
Contributor: Porfiriato Porfiriato
While I am not personally offended by the word cunt, I would not use it in a review since many people I know are offended by it. But i agree, it depends on the tone of the rest of the review, if it's overloaded with slang/colloquialisms, it is really annoying
12/19/2010
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
I voted other because I don't mind any word. It more of a question of style intention and overall writing style. I tend to just go by ear and what ever sounds right to me as I'm writing. Often times the result is a mixture of slang and technical terms. For example I may uses terms like vulva or labia to objectively describe the look of the toy in one section but a slang term to describe subjective use or as a way of adding emphasize to a point in different section of the same review.
01/23/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
I don't use the word cunt. It sounds derogatory to me.

Years ago someone mentioned that they thought using 'clit' in a review was wrong - too casual or something. For a while I stopped using that word. But to spell out clitoris often seems unnecessarily formal. Our reviews aren't published in medical journals. I'm back to using the word clit.
01/23/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
I have to agree with Sir on this one. I think so long as the words are used respectfully I don't mind at all. However if it sounds like they're writing erotica or something, then it's inappropriate in a toy review.

As for the ... more
If I read jam-hole in a review I would fall over laughing. I can only imagine how entertaining the rest of the review would be. I rate based on how many questions I am left with at the end of a review.
01/23/2011
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
Maybe it's my nursing background, but I don't have a problem with something sounding too clinical. I rarely use slang words in my own reviews. (And I agree that the word cunt would turn me off to a review.)
01/23/2011
Contributor: firekitten firekitten
I don't like or use slang terms in reviews or in speaking. I might go as far as to say dick, but a vagina is a vagina, it has labia and it might have a clit. I don't want to feel like I'm writing or reading a "how-to" on how to please myself or the reviewer.
01/23/2011
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
I like reviewers who have a personality when they write, and I think that using the same word you would use if you were talking to a friend can be appropriate. As long as the review is well-written, the word choice doesn't bother me much.
01/23/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
UG, Hate hate hate the baby word "Vajayjay." Cosmo. *sigh* Why is "Penis" OK, but "Vagina" has to be turned into a baby word? I don't get it.
Vajayjay Reminds me of Oprah. And South Park. MINGE!
01/23/2011
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
as long as it makes sense yes and is done tastefully and not disrespectfully- I've only watched reviews for female products I'm not sure if I'd feel the same way if I heard men reviewing some of the products
01/23/2011
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I've used 'pussy' in my reviews and although I use 'cunt' often in my daily speak, I probably won't in my reviews.

All of these opinions are helpful though!
01/23/2011
Contributor: KrissyRoro KrissyRoro
I do not mind at all. But, don't take it overboard. I like to feel like my friend is talking to me, but not a perv !
01/30/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
It depends on the review and the context but mostly I stay away from them. The English major in me prefers high English (nerdy, yes, but I own it!)
01/30/2011
Contributor: sixfootsex sixfootsex
I think it depends on the tone you're trying to set. If you're going for a highly polished, professional approach, then I think the more clinical terms are appropriate. On the other hand, if you want to set a more familiar, colloquial tone, I think judicious use of slang terms is fine. I think most people understand that we're not using these terms in a derogatory way. And I for one do love the term "cunt." I think it's fabulous...
02/01/2011
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
I prefer a conversational style, not too clinical, but also not overly pornographic.

I have no problem with slang terms as long as they fit or feel like they belong. I just try not to take anything too seriously. I mean, it's important to remember this is a sex toy website, so an occasional Sphincter is unavoidable.
02/01/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I was reading a review, and found it to be a good review, except... The word "cunt." I really hate that word, personally, so it kind of turned me off of the review.

I can kind of see using the words pussy and dick just because ... more
I have not been here long, but I agree. Using words like Pussy and dick are ok, seeing as this is the community to use them, but cunt, twat, etc seems a bit excessive. Depending on the toy, product, etc would determine if I use pussy vs using vagina - sex vs intercourse, etc. I'm not offended by those words, its just that we are reviewing the products, not only for the site but for the company too - they want us to sound like we have some sense, right? I'm sure they don't want us to sound like porn stars reviewing the latest toy. If it was used in a humorous situation, I can see that, but not for every review you do - its not always necessary.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Miss Madeline Miss Madeline
my $.02.

I would much prefer cunt or twat than dick or pussy. I am reading the review for the meat of it, not for the language choices the reviewer makes, personally.
02/08/2011