Thanks for the response. I know it makes me sound and look horrible since there are 2 who I REALLY want to jump on in with! Its just so confusing I know its not right but again if they aren't being taken care of at home its confusing to say the least I am recently single so not really looking for an actual relationship less

If they "are not being taken care of at home?" Really? Then that is their problem not yours and not their wives. I don't think deep down you really want another woman to suffer and hurt over you. I think most women will regret doing such a thing. You've already said you know it is wrong. If he's not being taken care of at home, then that is an issue he needs to resolve and not likely to be his wife's problem. Perhaps that is what you say to make yourself feel better? It's not an excuse that you'd likely be able to live with in the future. If he's having marriage issues, it's not going to help to have a F buddy. You'd end up hurt, which is awful and then you'd probably end up feeling guilty, and rightly so. You just DON'T ever, ever, ever get involved in someone else's marriage. It's just a big no.

I mean what if you did and then he went to another girl and said YOU weren't taking care of him, so he deserves another F buddy. It's HIS problem if he feels he isn't being taken care of. Maybe he's asking for more than what his wife can/knows how to give. Maybe she's not "taking care of him" because he's out trying to take advantage of you. That's plenty of reason. It is not her duty to fulfill his heart's desire, to "take care of him." It is HIS duty (and her's) however, to remain faithful to the promises he made to his wife.

What I would suggest to the married man, marriage counselling--with his WIFE. Then if you're so inclined to "jump in on it," tell him that when the divorce is final (assuming a divorce IS in fact coming up since he's ready to have intercourse with another woman besides his wife?) then you will consider it, but that you owe yourself and his wife (another woman) better than to be taken advantage of. And hey, if by some miraculous chance he is not taking advantage of ya, he'll call you up the day that divorce is final.

Ultimately, it is your choice and it honestly sounds like you have already made it.


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Oh. I see you are occupied with someone else now. Sorry. Didn't see that until I posted since your previous comments didn't show up except on page number 2. I'm am glad you've kept your distance though. You sound happy in your previous posts about this new relationship. I hope it goes really well! Congrats for making the moral decision. You DESERVE someone devoted only to you. I'm really happy to read you've got that. That is awesome and a very big congrats to you and warm lovely wishes. Hope he's a keeper. less