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Contributor: Badass Badass
Do you think you are single because you are too picky?

I personally have a super hard time finding a partner because I have a certain criteria.
02/19/2012
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Contributor: Llewey Llewey
I am single and do have certain "criteria", but I personally don't find it extremely picky. Just stuff like "Don't be a racist", "Be open-minded", "Don't be a jerk", "Don't be extremely jealous/controlling".. . Superficial things don't much matter to me.

I guess in my case I don't chase closeted people, unless they are willing to come out soon. I would help someone with any sort of coming-out process, but I have no interest in being with someone who has no intention of living openly.
02/19/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I have a few friends who are single because they're a bit picky. There are a lot of things that wouldn't matter to me that I see my friends being all "well this person does this totally unacceptable thing!!!" while I sit here and say "Um, here's a picture of me doing that very same thing, why is it ok for me and not them" and stuff like that.

Edit, I hope that makes sense.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I'm single and I think of myself as pretty picky. I don't think anyone can be too picky; it's just having a lot of criteria so that they have someone that works for THEM.

I want to make sure that when I find a potential partner that we're compatible for not only a friendship, but a lasting and loving relationship, so I have high standards for my partners.
02/20/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Well I have a few male friends that are single...I think it's because they both come off as a little needy and desperate without meaning to.
They're both wonderful men otherwise though so I'm doing what I can to help.
02/21/2012
Contributor: sagegirl72 sagegirl72
I feel like there is no such thing as "too picky". And that's why I am single.
03/03/2012
Contributor: catsin catsin
I feel like I'm open-minded and tolerant, but maybe I am picky or maybe I don't get out enough. I just keep running into jerks that simply want a lay and aren't willing to be friends after the matter, so I've stopped having casual relations altogether.

If all they want to do is have sex, I'm not interested. If all they want to do is hit on me when I'm not ready to have sex, I'm not interested.

I find it's hard for me to discover the "just right" fit, and I don't entirely know why. I'd love suggestions from those that have them
03/25/2012
Contributor: catsin catsin
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Originally posted by KyotoAngel
Well I have a few male friends that are single...I think it's because they both come off as a little needy and desperate without meaning to.
They're both wonderful men otherwise though so I'm doing what I can to help.
Yes! Needy and desperate is a huge turn off. Or playing the "nice guy" card when it's obvious that they just want a lay. I hate that. It leads to me thinking that I'm making a friend right before getting ditched for not putting out.
03/25/2012