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Contributor: mistressg mistressg
I recently found myself in this situation, and I am wondering if I am alone here. My relationship had ended, and I would log on to EF and see products that I had used with my partner - or better yet, get notifications of new comments on reviews for products we had gotten to use together - and it brings back memories and makes me miss them. I found myself feeling thankful that I did not end up ordering certain products to review that week, that he had been wanting to try. In my situation, things are kind of up in the air. This could be permanent or, depending on how certain things work out, we may end up back together. Complicated situation.

Anyhow, have any other members of the EF community found themselves in a similar situation? Has EF ever brought back the ghost of relationships past?
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Yes, I have been in this situation.
15  (28%)
Never been in this situation
38  (70%)
Other
1  (2%)
Total votes: 54
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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I have some items that remind me of people I have been with previously... but, unlike others, I don't really care.
12/29/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
My ex and I never used sex toys together, so I don't have this problem as far as that goes. I AM reminded of him all the time. It's a weird feeling, very unpleasant and I try to make it go away as soon as possible.
12/29/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I have reviews I wrote when my ex-boyfriend and I were together, and when we were broken up but still having sex. It doesn't bother me though, because I'm over him. I also don't go back and read through my old reviews anyways.
12/29/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
For a while after my last breakup there would be things that reminded me of my ex, but nothing terribly bad. Sometimes when I wear jewelry that an ex gave me I think of them briefly, but it's never really more than a fleeting thought.
12/29/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
For a while after my last breakup there would be things that reminded me of my ex, but nothing terribly bad. Sometimes when I wear jewelry that an ex gave me I think of them briefly, but it's never really more than a fleeting thought.
I hope to be at this point sometime. I haven't really read anything lately, as to which products we'd used together.
12/29/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
Sometimes this happens to me, but it's gotten easier over time
01/01/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Try to put a new spin on the toys you liked and use them for you!! It isn't fair to deprive yourself of something you enjoy based on a previous relationship. Good luck, I hope you have a better time nad can make new and happy memories with your NEW products!!
01/01/2012
Contributor: prttynink prttynink
some products that i've purchased or set alerts for do remind me of my ex, but i've come to realize there is more fun to be had, with my toys, and with other people, so it really doesn't get me down
01/02/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I recently found myself in this situation, and I am wondering if I am alone here. My relationship had ended, and I would log on to EF and see products that I had used with my partner - or better yet, get notifications of new comments on reviews for ... more
never been in that situation
01/02/2012
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I recently found myself in this situation, and I am wondering if I am alone here. My relationship had ended, and I would log on to EF and see products that I had used with my partner - or better yet, get notifications of new comments on reviews for ... more
I can sort of relate, my fiance passed away a few months back. Certain things bring back the memories good and bad. Hang in there and stay strong.
01/02/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
My ex and I never used sex toys together, so I don't have this problem as far as that goes. I AM reminded of him all the time. It's a weird feeling, very unpleasant and I try to make it go away as soon as possible.
I try to stick to this. But throw it out if we did.
01/02/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Quote:
Originally posted by Wildchild
I can sort of relate, my fiance passed away a few months back. Certain things bring back the memories good and bad. Hang in there and stay strong.
I'm sorry, Markie#78.
01/02/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I'm sorry that's unfortunate, it'll get better with time!
01/19/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Aw! I never even thought about that, but it actually would be awful!
01/19/2012
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Try to put a new spin on the toys you liked and use them for you!! It isn't fair to deprive yourself of something you enjoy based on a previous relationship. Good luck, I hope you have a better time nad can make new and happy memories with your ... more
Good advice!
01/19/2012
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
Can't say that I have been there.
01/30/2012
Contributor: samanthalynn samanthalynn
nope
02/03/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by Wildchild
I can sort of relate, my fiance passed away a few months back. Certain things bring back the memories good and bad. Hang in there and stay strong.
You stay strong as well Wildchild.
I too can relate, my spouse has been gone 595 days now.
02/03/2012
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
I've never had this happen to me. I typically buy toys for myself and if I happen to use them with a partner that's great but they are my toys that I buy for MY enjoyment so I don't get nostalgic about the toys.
02/16/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I recently found myself in this situation, and I am wondering if I am alone here. My relationship had ended, and I would log on to EF and see products that I had used with my partner - or better yet, get notifications of new comments on reviews for ... more
Oh yes! I had a wishlist for my bf, and then we broke up...
02/19/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
Oh yes! I had a wishlist for my bf, and then we broke up...
Ah, so did I.
02/19/2012
Contributor: lilly555 lilly555
Yes this has happened to me with a handful of things we tried. There's actually one toy I own that I placed in my assignment cart to review before the end of things which I can't bring myself to review. But it's all still really fresh so maybe with time I'll feel better about these things.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Howells Howells
This is familiar... But the worst is I don't know what to do with the stuff we used together. E.g. liberator wedge ramp. Ok it can be washed but there is no telling if it'll bring back the memory of how I used them back then, but only this time with a new partner.
02/20/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
This is familiar... But the worst is I don't know what to do with the stuff we used together. E.g. liberator wedge ramp. Ok it can be washed but there is no telling if it'll bring back the memory of how I used them back then, but only this ... more
Been in that same situation. Things that can be reused, but the memories still cling to them. Even if you can forget about it, you don't really want to find yourself thinking about your ex (fondly, or not) when you're using it with someone else. Either way, since it is an expensive piece of equipment, I would say keep it and see.
02/20/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
My ex and I never used sex toys together, so I don't have this problem as far as that goes. I AM reminded of him all the time. It's a weird feeling, very unpleasant and I try to make it go away as soon as possible.
Dito.
02/21/2012
Contributor: Lano4ka Lano4ka
Not really for me but I think that since sex is so closely connected to the emotions, it could def. trigger memories.
02/25/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by Lano4ka
Not really for me but I think that since sex is so closely connected to the emotions, it could def. trigger memories.
And DOES.
02/25/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
And DOES.
YEP.
02/25/2012
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
Nope, I've never been in this position.
02/25/2012