I'm sorry if it offends you, but you asked. I don't think it would make you a friend AT ALL to try and pursue your friend's boyfriend! That's just horrible. Friends don't do that stuff to each other. The fact that your friend apparently forgave you the first time shocks me. But that just makes it even MORE WRONG to go do it again and honestly, I think it's selfish and immature. There are plenty of people in this world, go get your own SINGLE boyfriend and leave your friend and theirs alone. I would never even look at my friend's boyfriends like that.

You didn't offend me at all... And I say friend loosely.. I haven't seen him since 2010.. So it's not like we are friends... And I'd never steal someone like that again... I was just using it hypothetically I guess. I can't say what the future will bring but I was a lot you get when I did that. I don't think I could ever do anything like that again.. It's just only a crush and I don't wish to pursue it any further. I was just curious how many other ppl have gone through this and such

Well, if he is someone that you talk to regularly or hang out with, plan to hang out with again, I just wouldn't do it. I guess it all comes down to how much you value that person. Everyone's different though, but even if it was someone that I was just "acquaintances&am p;qu ot; with, I couldn't go after someone they are with. But, I've been cheated on before, badly, so maybe that is why I wouldn't do it to someone. Though who can say if that person would cheat or just end things right then and there? Either way, I didn't appreciate being hurt like that (and I know they KNEW that my ex was in a relationship) so I wouldn't want to do it to someone else. If that person chooses to leave that person on their own, then I guess they're fair game. But the thought of being with someone I know, talk to regularly or consider a friend just totally turns me off.

You made some very good points... Thank you for you're Advice. I've been cheated on badly myself, so I know how that feels, and I don't think I could cause that harm to another person again, given that I'm not a kid anymore!

It does not make you a good person, that is for sure. IMHO, what separates humans from other animals is our thinking mind as well as some kind of moral compass. I don't steal from other people, whether it is money or a belonging or another person.