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Wicked Wahine
I am glad to hear that helped you and things worked out well.
I agree with dv8. It has to do with knowing yourself and how you may react. Of course, asking other people about their experiences can't hurt, after all, you may see people
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I am glad to hear that helped you and things worked out well.
I agree with dv8. It has to do with knowing yourself and how you may react. Of course, asking other people about their experiences can't hurt, after all, you may see people point out pitfalls or benefits you never thought of. I personally have not had the opportunity to try FWB, but as much as I'd like to think I could handle it, I worry one of us would want more and get hurt. I already feel badly enough for boyfriends I broke up with (who wanted more) and it's a horrible feeling for me. I feel sick to my stomach knowing someone is attached to me and I am not interested, or not in anything but a casual way. I hate breaking someone's heart! And you can't always anticipate it. I know I would hate being in their position as well, so I might only try FWB with someone I know I don't like that much to begin with (you know, someone with certain things about them that annoy the crap out of you, lol!), but then, how could I stand having sex with them? I am probably not destined to a FWB relationship, but I sure wish I could do it, and in a way, I envy those who can!
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Agree w/ dv8 & Wicked Wahine, you have to know yourself. I will say I had never considered it until I made a new friend, which wasn't really made for a long term relationship and we both knew this. But I was kind of in a funk after breaking up with my ex-gf and they were needing physical intimacy with someone and so to get me out of my funk and keep them from going back to their ex we decided to share a physical connection with each other as FWBs. This worked out well for both of us and we are still friends even after we broke things off when I met someone new who I had an interest in dating and the FWB had to move out of state.
But I can't do the one night stand/fling kind of relationship as anonymous sex does nothing for me and it's so risky. So this provided me an option where I could still be friends with them and safe as we both got tested before we started a physical relationship. We also talked about it and set ground rules for what we expected, when we would end it, etc. This also included talking about it if one of us began to feel more than friendship towards the other.
