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One helped me to get back into the real world after my husband's death. However--I can see where it could also go the other way and be harmful if there were other feelings developed by either party. Luckily mine was a friend only with a few
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One helped me to get back into the real world after my husband's death. However--I can see where it could also go the other way and be harmful if there were other feelings developed by either party. Luckily mine was a friend only with a few benefits attached, so it was no big deal when he found a relationship.
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I am glad to hear that helped you and things worked out well.
I agree with dv8. It has to do with knowing yourself and how you may react. Of course, asking other people about their experiences can't hurt, after all, you may see people point out pitfalls or benefits you never thought of. I personally have not had the opportunity to try FWB, but as much as I'd like to think I could handle it, I worry one of us would want more and get hurt. I already feel badly enough for boyfriends I broke up with (who wanted more) and it's a horrible feeling for me. I feel sick to my stomach knowing someone is attached to me and I am not interested, or not in anything but a casual way. I hate breaking someone's heart! And you can't always anticipate it. I know I would hate being in their position as well, so I might only try FWB with someone I know I don't like that much to begin with (you know, someone with certain things about them that annoy the crap out of you, lol!), but then, how could I stand having sex with them? I am probably not destined to a FWB relationship, but I sure wish I could do it, and in a way, I envy those who can!