I'm not really going through a break-up, per se, but it is really similar (as in it was an ex who randomly appeared, I fell back in love with, and disappeared again).

What I did to get a handle on things and stop that "I can't live if livin' is without you" deal is that I sat down and wrote him letters every night. These were letters I never thought he'd ever read, but they were more about me figuring out my feelings. I could see a total change in them and was able to gain clarity from it. Turns out I could live without him, there was a lot of frustration and pain brewing beneath the surface,and writing about it has helped me to accept and move on.

After that (and the subsequent feelings of being overwhelmed by everyone and everything) I decided to go on a social hiatus. To not speak to anyone who doesn't cross my path (here doesn't count). I deactivated my Facebook and my OKCupid, told the people who mattered what I was doing, and just sat there by myself with everything. Doing things that make me happy. Showing myself that I'm fine on my own. Taking the time to process and understand everything without distractions.

It's been 10 days since he left and 6 into my seclusion. Instead of me sitting there feeling that the best thing I'd ever had slipped right through my fingers I now just acknowledge that it happened and keep moving. (It also may be why I've written somewhere around 20 reviews in the past few days . . . )

Aw! I'm really sorry. I haven't had a break up in over 6 years! Lol. My partner and I have been together for 6, but when I did have a break up, I had some things I'd do that were helpful. For me, surrounding myself with as many friends, family as possible was the best thing. I would be able to laugh and forget about my feelings and the hurt and it never hurts to meet someone that sparks your interest. That has helped me forget the pain. Not jumping into bed with them or even dating right away, just someone who does interest you and you enjoy flirting with and being around.

Also, burning the ex's belongings (even if it feels like a fork in the heart!) and erasing the evidence of them from my life. Yes, I cried when I deleted their phone number, (although I still memorized it!) but that's one less time I have to come across their name.

For me, I like to do something dramatic. Put on the fanciest, sexist dress I own and go out. Or get a new hair cut/color on impulse. It's something about the adrenaline, I think. Doing something really out of the ordinary was always helpful for me. I guess when you're starting over after something ended, doing something big is a way to mark the change. Nails are great! I work in nail design so that's definitely one way that will keep you busy. If you have kids or kids in the family, take them swimming or to the park. They'll most certainly keep your mind off things and wear your butt out. Lol.

i sit and cry then i go out and party and move on there will be another.or call and old one and get it on.

For me that just caused even more problems.