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Do you prefer to be single or in a relationship?

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Contributor: Menarae Menarae
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I would prefer to be in a healthy relationship than to be single, but I'd far rather be single than be in any relationship that doesn't make me blissfully happy.
A thousand times, yes.

Both ways have their advantages and disadvantages. But the most important thing is being happy. If I'm in a relationship where I don't feel like the most amazing woman in the world (like my last one) then I want out ASAP. I don't need crap like that in my life. No one does.
09/07/2011
Contributor: dude dude
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Originally posted by sweetiebelle
Some people cant function without a significant other, and some people prefer to be alone. Who are you?
I'm an idependent woman that enjoys the company of a s/o.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Right now I am indifferent. I think part of it is that I have been single for so long I am just used to it now.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
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Originally posted by sweetiebelle
Some people cant function without a significant other, and some people prefer to be alone. Who are you?
I think I was only able to fully get over my first relationship when I was able to direct feelings of affection to someone else. I don't know why, it's just the way it was
10/05/2011
Contributor: Angelica Angelica
I am really enjoying being single right now. I needed the time to focus on myself. It would be nice to be in a healthy relationship with the right person though.
10/08/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I like my current arrangement because it offers the high points of both (IMO)
Bonding & stability of a long term relationship
Sexual freedom of being single
10/08/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
I can't imagine a day without my girlfriend, however, if things didn't turn out to be as they are now, being single wouldn't bother me.
10/08/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
It depends. When I'm single Im dying to be with someone then when Im in a relationship i often times feel "stuck" I think Im just a confused person that cant make up my mind. lol.
10/14/2011
Contributor: Lickable Lollie Lickable Lollie
I can live without having a man in my life, but things are so much easier when you've got a permanent partner instead of looking for someone at the bar every weekend. That's why I'm all for friends with benefits, if the two people involved can keep their emotions in check.
10/19/2011
Contributor: DeeDaw DeeDaw
In a relationship. I love having someone there for me when I need companionship!
10/24/2011
Contributor: Lickable Lollie Lickable Lollie
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Originally posted by DeeDaw
In a relationship. I love having someone there for me when I need companionship!
I do miss that quite a bit. I guess I'm just learning to be single lol
10/24/2011
Contributor: mudpie mudpie
Single with a good sexual partner or friend with benefits. My life is way too busy for me to really accommodate a significant other right now, but when I'm single for too long without anyone on the side, man... I miss sex. (Shows why I'm on Eden Fantasys right now!)
11/07/2011
Contributor: Theaadrian Theaadrian
I've been single for most of my life. Most of the time I'm totally fine with it. Boys/girls, especially at the beginning and end of relationships, are sooo distracting. at least for me, when I'm even close to getting in to a relationship, that person takes up all of my mental energy. So a lot of times I just think it's not worth the hassle. But I know that once one is in a relationship, the crazy mind game stuff quiets down, and it's very comforting to have someone around. But I've never quite been in a full blown relationship before. I've done more casual hooking up situations, however long term, and I've had really good experiences with that. Because as long as you're clear with the other person, you can maintain your single status and your independence while having someone around to fool around with I don't think I'm going to be in a committed relationship for a while. I'm too young not to have more casual relationships for a while...
11/08/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by sweetiebelle
Some people cant function without a significant other, and some people prefer to be alone. Who are you?
Definitely in a relationship
11/15/2011
Contributor: MissAthena MissAthena
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Originally posted by sweetiebelle
Some people cant function without a significant other, and some people prefer to be alone. Who are you?
Single. I like the freedoms I have and to be honest, the sex I've had when single has always been hotter/better/etc than in a relationship. Of course this could also just mean I need to find the right partner.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
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Originally posted by sweetiebelle
Some people cant function without a significant other, and some people prefer to be alone. Who are you?
Thats a great question. There were times when my s/o drove me nuts. There were times she pissed me off and there were times I loved spending every second of the day with her.

I can say this I never realised until she passed away that no matter what or how she made me feel how much I loved her, how important she was to me and how much of a best friend she was. She was always my wife from day 1, and the person I wanted to grow old with. Never looked at her as my best friend until the day she passed I saw something, went to call her and was like dam.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Theaadrian
I've been single for most of my life. Most of the time I'm totally fine with it. Boys/girls, especially at the beginning and end of relationships, are sooo distracting. at least for me, when I'm even close to getting in to a relationship, ... more
Saying you've been single for most of your life at 18 isn't 'news'. When you're 30 or 40 it may be meaningful, but for now you're just stating the obvious.

I hope you find someone that seems like a good lifetime partner. The prospect of growing old alone isn't pleasant. I didn't find my partner until I was 35 - and fully enjoyed my freedom up to then.

Enjoy your youth - but keep your eye out for the prize!
11/17/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
I love the relationship I am in right now. If I had to choose while being in my current situtation, I'd say relationship. In the past though, I was better off single (dated some real winners back in the day)
11/18/2011
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
Depends completely on the relationship. I've had some relationships in the past that made me wish I was single.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
What do you say about that when you have fun with your best friend, cuddle, go out sometimes but to not give a damn is she sees other people too? A good fwb or what? I like this.. How come I'm not completely torn apart by the end of a 2+ years long relationship? Sometimes I ask myself the question did I really love her or she was a monogamous fwb? We didn't live together, only saw each other like weekly and mostly only had sex.
11/24/2011
Contributor: Cherrylane Cherrylane
I voted all of them haha.

I love having a partner. If they're a good partner. But I love being super independent and doing my own thing. And as my life is very turbulent right now and will be for a few years to come (college/grad, potentially moving across the country, yada yada) and that doesn't exactly put me in the greatest position to have a solid serious relationship. Talk of "settling down" is SO out of the question lol
11/24/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
Usually I prefer single, but not always.
11/25/2011
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
I am very independent and did enjoy beong single when I was but now I would much rather be in a relationship with my man now than single.
11/25/2011
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Being in a relationship is good for your long-term health and longevity. I read that somewhere in a medical journal; and that’s for the majority of us. It teaches us respect, compromise, understanding of the opposite sex’s viewpoint, and sometimes the wisdom your partner brings to the relationship. Yes, there are disappointments, arguments, and maybe a lover’s quarrel; but the make-up sex is great!!! It brings you closer. It's just a matter of communication. I know of people who are single, and the truth be known, sometimes they are not very happy; not good for their health in the long run.
11/25/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I hate single.
I may have friends, but if I don't have a partner, I feel alone.
None of my friends seem THAT interested in socializing with me anyway >.<
02/04/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
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Originally posted by sweetiebelle
Some people cant function without a significant other, and some people prefer to be alone. Who are you?
in a relationship
02/10/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I'm a serial monogamer. I've been in 3 long relationships. I'm currently in a 5 year relationship.
02/10/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
In a relationship. All the long years that I was single (without being able to figure out what was so wrong with me that no one would want to be with me, much less even ask me on a date) nearly destroyed me both mentally and emotionally. I honestly get scared when I think about what it might be like to go through that should my husband die before me.
08/13/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by sweetiebelle
Some people cant function without a significant other, and some people prefer to be alone. Who are you?
Before I got married, I didn't care either way. Single was fine with me, but now that I'm married of course I love being in a relationship.
08/13/2012
Contributor: truewonder truewonder
I love being single. The freedom and independence is great, and being single doesn't mean I have to be celibate. I am much happier now than I was in past relationships. Besides, I'm almost finished with college and will be applying to grad schools, so I'm glad I don't have any attachments at this transition point in my life.
08/14/2012