I like them both, but hate when there are men there. Sorry, showers are hen parties. I've never seen a husband to be or a dad to be happy to have to sit through a bridal or baby shower. My husband refuses to go to "co-ed" showers on principal.

Can't some things just be for the women? And please, no stupid games like "Pull off as much toilet paper as you think will fit around the expectant mother's belly" or "baby bottle drinking contest." We didn't even used bottles and I hate when people assume they are a symbol of all babies.

Just getting together, having some nice finger sandwiches, some punch and watching the bride or the mama to be unwrap her gifts if good for me. I do hate when people make a huge production out of it. AND; Baby showers= First baby only! I don't owe anybody a shower gift for two kids 17 months apart. Save the stuff from the first kid! ("But, what if it's a different gender?" I don't care, I am not responsible for your fertility choices nor for your kids' entire layette, buy that stuff yourself.) And, if you've been married before I probably won't be going to your second, third or fourth wedding shower, unless your ex ran away with all your pots, pans, towels, sheets and tableware.