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What constitutes cheating in YOUR relationship?

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Contributor: gwenevieve gwenevieve
Just curious! Everyone's relationship is different.
Answers are multiple choice and private~
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
talking to the opposite sex
talking to the opposite sex and hiding it
8
having a significant other than isn't you
32
talking to their ex
masturbating
2
watching porn
2
other
32
Total votes: 76 (44 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I chose 'Other' because unlike a young adult, as an 'old guy', my wife and I are way beyond cheating. We both talk to people of the other sex, have dinners or meetings with them as appropriate - but it's never sexual, so it isn't cheating.

Exes! I only have a vague recollection of who they were - and no idea where they are today.
05/09/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by gwenevieve
Just curious! Everyone's relationship is different.
Answers are multiple choice and private~
basically engaging in any foreplay, or sexual activity
05/09/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
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Originally posted by libbyv
basically engaging in any foreplay, or sexual activity
agreed.
05/09/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
Kissing, sexual touching, extreme flirting or emotional cheating. I told my hubby when we got together--you kiss em you might as well have fucked them. It is all the same to me!
05/09/2013
Contributor: AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
Emotional cheating is much harder to pinpoint at times, but I feel cheated on whenever I'm not the constant center of my hubby's attention in favor of a particular woman. Definitely cheating if you're physically touching someone else sexually.
05/09/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
anything sexual. whether it is sexual thoughts, conversations, flirting, physical contact. It all goes under cheating.
05/09/2013
Contributor: A&M A&M
I agree with all that Married with Children said. The thoughts I wouldn't go as far as saying is cheating but I think that is setting you down a dangerous road. But sexual conversations with others, flirting and physical contact I agree.
05/09/2013
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Having sex with someone outside of our relationship is cheating. Conversations and even a little flirting aren't cheating to me, unless it's in the active pursuit of a relationship.
05/09/2013
Contributor: A&M A&M
LD29 Yeah I guess there is some truth to what you say there. The intention of that is definitely important. If the other is seeking out more then just conversation or simple flirting then it is an issue for sure.
05/10/2013
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
For us cheating would be having sex with someone else and not communicating about it before hand.
05/10/2013
Contributor: FieryRed FieryRed
Wow...way to leave out the gays.
06/11/2013
Contributor: mailroomorder mailroomorder
Having another person in their life that I don't know about--that is being hidden from me
07/15/2013
Contributor: wicked48 wicked48
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Kissing, sexual touching, extreme flirting or emotional cheating. I told my hubby when we got together--you kiss em you might as well have fucked them. It is all the same to me!
Agree!
07/15/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Kissing, sexual touching, extreme flirting or emotional cheating. I told my hubby when we got together--you kiss em you might as well have fucked them. It is all the same to me!
I agree here.
09/17/2013
Contributor: mr115393 mr115393
This is a fun one, because I would say a romantic relationship with another person that your partner is not aware of and doesn't approve of. My girlfriend would say that sex or the beginnings of anything romantic with someone other than your partner at all is cheating. I go by her standards because I don't care as much and she's very serious about this.
09/26/2013
Contributor: CinnamonNights CinnamonNights
Cheating for me: falling IN love with someone else and OUT of love with me, or having sex/kissing someone without my consent.

...How can one cheat by masturbating? Which I guess there are some that feel that it is somehow, but I think it's silly. (Plus if they're on this forum they probably would be SUCH a cheater by now considering this is a sex toy site and all)
10/16/2013
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
Feelings for someone else.
10/17/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Kissing, sexual touching, extreme flirting or emotional cheating. I told my hubby when we got together--you kiss em you might as well have fucked them. It is all the same to me!
hear, hear!!!
10/25/2013