After having recently started reviewing toys, my wife was relatively enthusiastic about accommodating my newfound "reviewer" responsibilities in the bedroom. However, after receiving my latest review today, I noticed her enthusiasm has started to wane. How has your spouse received your continued contribution to the EF program?
Has your spouse ever thought your toy reviews were intruding in bedroom?
11/29/2010
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I'm hoping her lack of enthusiasm is due to a recent head cold and is only temporary...
11/29/2010
She has a couple of toys she likes but will try new ones as long as the do not have a pronounced lip on them, her pubic bone is real sensitive. She is always willing to use toys on me though.
It is funny though, she can not keep up with the new toys I get. I take one out to use on me and she always asks "When did you get that one?" lol
It is funny though, she can not keep up with the new toys I get. I take one out to use on me and she always asks "When did you get that one?" lol
11/29/2010
You're assuming that we all still sleep with our spouses. This isn't true. *ahem* But my husband is highly amused by my collection and delights in looking at new arrivals.
11/29/2010
*sigh* My hubby is never happy about it. Hoping it will change soon.
11/29/2010
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That's cute.
Originally posted by
Tuesday
You're assuming that we all still sleep with our spouses. This isn't true. *ahem* But my husband is highly amused by my collection and delights in looking at new arrivals.
11/29/2010
My boyfriend is usually pretty excited about trying out the different toys. It depends on what the toy looks like. He usually likes to try out the different male masturbation toys though.
11/29/2010
My husband rolls his eyes at the number of boxes that arrive at our house, but he's always eager to see what's in them and try them out on me.
11/30/2010
My boyfriend was starting to feel like we "had" to engage in sex play because I had toys to review. Though a lot of this was lack of communication or miscommunication. We've cleared it all up now. He has chosen to back off from testing toys and lubes for the time being which is his choice and I respect that I hope he gets back into playing with toys sometimes but I certainly don't mind the alone time it "forces" me into LOL
11/30/2010
My wife will roll her eyes, grumble about not being able to afford - don't need more toys - then go on to a mind blowing orgasm! No more grumbling - until the next arrival! By now she knows that I know it's just her way of saying - 'Ooh what's in the box?'
11/30/2010
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I can agree with Sammi here, but really, J is indifferent. He always has to see them right away, and wants to try them. However, he could be just as happy without them (note BDSM items are not "toys" in our household).
Originally posted by
Sammi
My husband rolls his eyes at the number of boxes that arrive at our house, but he's always eager to see what's in them and try them out on me.
11/30/2010
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I get the rolling of the eyes too, but it isn't followed by eagerness but rather by a statement that goes along the lines of "Don't you have enough already?" to which I giddily reply...."but this one is different!"
Originally posted by
Sammi
My husband rolls his eyes at the number of boxes that arrive at our house, but he's always eager to see what's in them and try them out on me.
11/30/2010
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He doesn't really care about trying them except for my throe...that is the one "toy" he is glad we have, it's his squirt sheild.
Originally posted by
Naughty Student
I get the rolling of the eyes too, but it isn't followed by eagerness but rather by a statement that goes along the lines of "Don't you have enough already?" to which I giddily reply...."but this one is different!"
11/30/2010
I don't ever pick something for us to use that he would be uncomfortable with. He likes the idea of trying new things. If I see something I am not 100% sure he would enjoy trying, I send him a link to the product so he can tell me if he likes the idea of it or not.
11/30/2010
Mine doesn't mind at all. and in the off chance he doesn't feel like playing with one, we just don't. I will save it for solo time.
11/30/2010
He hasn't really said they caused any problems, but for me there have been issues that cropped up. Particularly when you get a lot of toys from a lot of places. Your mind seems to always be in 'review mode' and it takes a lot of the enjoyment out of sex if you can't get out of that. You'll find you're focusing a lot of the features of the toy and cataloging them instead of how it feels and your partner. Once you've fulfilled your obligation to review the product, that feeling does go away when you're using it.
11/30/2010
My boyfriend loves it. He gets just as excited as I do every time a new package lands on the doorstep.
11/30/2010
At first he was excited to try them all, then for a while it got a bit much for him I think and he liked it less, but at that time we were trying things a bit too frequently for him I think, and it was like every time we had sex toys were involved. He never got mad about it, but I'm pretty in tune with his feelings and I could tell he was getting annoyed. Now, a clitoral vibe is involved just about every time to push me over the edge during sex, but whether or not anything else is or if anything is used during foreplay depends on the day. I think this helps him to not get frustrated with them. A few other things we did to cause less stress is to not order so many at a time, making sure to order new and different things rather than having like 25 vibrators that pretty much do the same thing (that's when he seems to think I have an addiction lol) and finding adequate storage for them so that they're not laying around.
11/30/2010
However, even though he likes using the new toys with me.. he never reads any of the reviews because he doesn't care that much. Mainly, he cares because he knows I am doing something I enjoy.
11/30/2010
Initially my b/f felt somewhat intimidated by my toys but now sees them as an asset to our sex life. Vibes, dils and butt plugs are usually used. But, he really thinks all vibes are about the same and doesn't see why I have multiples.
He doesn't read my reviews but gets the idea I am reviewing something when I ask him questions about the toy.
He doesn't read my reviews but gets the idea I am reviewing something when I ask him questions about the toy.
11/30/2010
They definitely intrude in the bedroom in that they're now taking up quite a bit of space. But I don't see sex toys as a replacement for my partner. I consider them tools, or enhancements, that are there to add some variety. In all honesty, there are things I never would have thought to try if it weren't for the fact that I got them to review, and that has allowed me to expand my horizons and move outside my comfort zone.
There are boundaries as to what I can share in my reviews and on my blog, which is why I mainly talk about MY experience with any given product, regardless of whether or not it's something we end up using together. I know that doesn't really answer your question, but since I voted "other" I wanted to explain why.
There are boundaries as to what I can share in my reviews and on my blog, which is why I mainly talk about MY experience with any given product, regardless of whether or not it's something we end up using together. I know that doesn't really answer your question, but since I voted "other" I wanted to explain why.
11/30/2010
My husband makes fun of me because I make my "notes" out loud when I'm testing a new toy. He'll make comments like "oh yeah baby, don't you love that feature?", which of course always makes me crack up.
11/30/2010
My guy doesn't mind it at all. When a new package arrives, of course I quickly rip it out and have to oogle over it, and he'll ask "so what does this one do?" or he'll just shake his head and say "you and your gadgets". Recently he's become more interested in using the toys on me.(Thank you we-vibe!!!) He's always said that he won't mind as long as I don't expect him to stick anything in his bum...LOL!!!! and I'm cool with that.
11/30/2010
He loves the toys we get and usually helps to pick them out. Usually he gives me some comments from his stand point to throw into the review as well.
12/01/2010
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My hubby is happy that i am happy and get excited for something new!
Originally posted by
Hallmar82
After having recently started reviewing toys, my wife was relatively enthusiastic about accommodating my newfound "reviewer" responsibilities in the bedroom. However, after receiving my latest review today, I noticed her enthusiasm has
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After having recently started reviewing toys, my wife was relatively enthusiastic about accommodating my newfound "reviewer" responsibilities in the bedroom. However, after receiving my latest review today, I noticed her enthusiasm has started to wane. How has your spouse received your continued contribution to the EF program?
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12/08/2010
some times my husband is totally game to play, but most of the time he doesn't really care.
12/09/2010
I have to make sure things are balanced.
12/16/2010
So far, we've only done one assigned review and he was ecstatic about that. He did get a little pouty at one point and was like well when do I get my toy? So I went through and set up several wishlists with items I thought he would like and let him pick what he wanted.
He is VERY pleased with his new toy and is eager to try out many many other things. He also digs the point system because it will help our lingerie collection grow.
He is VERY pleased with his new toy and is eager to try out many many other things. He also digs the point system because it will help our lingerie collection grow.
12/16/2010
Update - I've finally gotten my wife to assist with a review - so it's gone from being my thing - to our thing. I love the difference - you can checkout my latest review link which was done with a lot of input from her. Let me know if you think it's better that the others!?
12/16/2010
I don't have a partner but my online Master loves to see my new toys. But he is only really interested in the ones he can watch being inserted....hehehe. And - the bigger, the better!
12/17/2010
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