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Contributor: spiceboy spiceboy
Quote:
Originally posted by Eliza
That's so cute. It's things like that that make me want to get married.
You can have magical moments and chocolate covered strawberries without getting married.
02/15/2012
Contributor: Baby-Baby Baby-Baby
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Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
did you have sex on your wedding night
That maybe odd if there was no sex on the wedding night. Inless you were Pregnant and on bed rest or something. That's my thoughts.
02/16/2012
Contributor: bsgs bsgs
we had a better than usual sex on our wedding night, but our honeymoon was where we had a TON of fun
02/16/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by Eliza
Orgasm denial??? Is this an intentional thing I haven't heard about? That sounds awful.
It's part of Dom/sub relationships - the Dom has control over the sub's sexual release, which includes forbidding masturbation for a certain length of time.
02/16/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
Quote:
Originally posted by Eliza
Orgasm denial??? Is this an intentional thing I haven't heard about? That sounds awful.
lol, i think a new phrase is here coined
02/17/2012
Contributor: wdanas wdanas
We were exhausted by the time we got to our room, but went ahead with it anyway. It was nice, but waiting until we were more awake would probably have been a better idea.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
did you have sex on your wedding night
We got to our room at about 3 am. Climbed in bed, counted our "wedding cash" (we were poor and in grad school) THEN had a quick lovemaking session and fell DEEP asleep. It was....wonderful.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by AHubbyof2SexualMinds
Yep, the wife had made me hold off for three months before the wedding, so definitely did it on the wedding night.
That seems to be a trend with people who lived together (we never did). Seems kind of odd, really. But if it works.....
02/17/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Eliza
Orgasm denial??? Is this an intentional thing I haven't heard about? That sounds awful.
Quite a lot od D/s type relationships regularly use orgasm denial as a part of their play. It's not quite as awful as it sounds and it can amke the focus on sex the most exhilirating they have ever had. For some it's sheer hell and for others it just lets the desire to have an orgasm wane.

We did have sex on our wedding night...and pizza...it was great and a very sweet night.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Vixen2000 Vixen2000
Quote:
Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
did you have sex on your wedding night
My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night. I was prepared for a painful experience, no fireworks, and for it to be over as soon as it began. It was the exact opposite! I had an orgasm, he lasted, and it didn't hurt. It was as perfect as a first time could ever be....and no, I'm not making this up! It was amazing and we did it 7 times that night. I was pretty freakin sore by the next morning, but I didn't let that stop me.
02/18/2012
Contributor: Superbals Superbals
Yup even tho it was an awkward place....at a friends house...lol
02/18/2012
Contributor: pliskaa pliskaa
Getting Married in October, after reading this post, I have so many new ideas. Thanks Guys!
04/17/2012
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
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Originally posted by pliskaa
Getting Married in October, after reading this post, I have so many new ideas. Thanks Guys!
Congrats!
04/17/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
It was at the end of the night and very brief and not rather romantic, but still, it was the first time we really had unprotected intercourse so it was special in its own way.
04/19/2012
Contributor: Passionate Pastor Passionate Pastor
We did but we were so tired and hungry.
04/20/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Eliza
Orgasm denial??? Is this an intentional thing I haven't heard about? That sounds awful.
Orgasm denial is a Dom/sub play experience. It can cause intense arousal in both the Dom and the sub.

My husband and I used to do this (not for 6 weeks, ever, I'd be impossible to live with. Everyone is different) but during sex until he's say I could come.

As I've gotten older I find it harder to climax or it takes longer, so we don't do this much anymore. He may tease me, doing what he knows will prolong my "agony" for a few minutes when I need to come, but at our lives right now, at this point, we take the orgasms I can have whenever they happen.

But, it is quite common in B&D and D/s relationships. It can actually be a lot of fun. The sub has complete control over permission and consent to do these things, but going into the entire complexity of BDSM, D/s, M/s, and other Power Dynamic relations is out of the scope of this thread right now. Read around, you'll understand after a while.
04/20/2012
Contributor: Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
Of course..
04/20/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Orgasm denial is a Dom/sub play experience. It can cause intense arousal in both the Dom and the sub.

My husband and I used to do this (not for 6 weeks, ever, I'd be impossible to live with. Everyone is different) but during sex until ... more
There is a lot of information on Power Dynamics and Dom/ sub relationships in EdenCafe. Several of us write about it. I wrote three essays, two on "Sub Space" (yeah, I know.... it's been done to death) and one on what I don't know about "Dom Space" and what I think it might be like. Swing over to my stuff on EdenCafe and take a look. Stay and read more. I guarantee you'll be enlightened.
04/20/2012
Contributor: badk1tty badk1tty
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Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
did you have sex on your wedding night
Yep. And then drove him back to base, because he had a 10pm curfew.
04/21/2012
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
Not only did we NOT have sex on our wedding night, but we saved our virginities until the fourth day of our honeymoon, because we spent the nights of our honeymoon up until then in cheap motels and we wanted to save it until we got to the cabin that we rented up in the Rockies.
04/21/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I haven't been married but I definitely intend to do so once I do get married.
04/21/2012
Contributor: Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
I'm not married yet, but I certainly will be having sex on my wedding night.
04/21/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
did you have sex on your wedding night
Not married yet, although I think we might be too tired to have sex that night.
04/21/2012
Contributor: PeppermintPatty PeppermintPatty
Hubby got food poisoning that night, so no sex for us.
04/22/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I'm not married, but when I do, I will.
04/22/2012
Contributor: Djiffy Djiffy
I am a strong believer in premarital sex to judge sexual compatibility before making a lifelong commitment, so wedding night sex would just be like any other night.
04/22/2012
Contributor: Peaches2000 Peaches2000
Quote:
Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
did you have sex on your wedding night
We did, but we also had a little different wedding day than most. We had a brunch at 11am and the were married at 2. We left all of our guests and went to our hotel. We didn't have the reception until the next day. I would SO...recommend this! Made for a much more enjoyable wedding night.
04/22/2012
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
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Originally posted by Peaches2000
We did, but we also had a little different wedding day than most. We had a brunch at 11am and the were married at 2. We left all of our guests and went to our hotel. We didn't have the reception until the next day. I would SO...recommend this! ... more
OOOOH! What a great idea! I photograph weddings, and yes, by the end of a one day event everyone is FRIED. This sounds very enjoyable.
04/27/2012
Contributor: chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
Quote:
Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
did you have sex on your wedding night
i think i did.. im pretty sure i did
04/27/2012
Contributor: Various Various
Yeeeeeees
04/27/2012