Maybe you all could help me out some. I feel like no matter what I do that I am just not enough. If you told me ten years ago that I would own nipple rings, nipple clamps, cock cages, paddles, handcuffs, remote vibrators and a slew of other vibrators now I would tell you you're crazy. I used to be boring and because my husband wanted more spice I have tried to give it, ie all the items listed above. Now though, it seems his fantasy involves me being with another man and I can't do that, won't do that. I have changed tons and he just doesn't see that is has been much. He tells me to read erotic stories, so I do. Then he says to find ones with light bondage and I do. Then he says find ones about dominatrix, so I do. Then it escalates to him wanting me to read one about infidelity and it shuts me down. I can't keep up or get ahead. I thought I was doing everything right. I even bought and practice pole dancing, not just for him but for myself as well. I feel like it is only a matter of time before he cheats on me to get what he wants. Any thoughts?
Never enough
03/06/2015
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It seems he wants you to live out one of husband's biggest fantasies. If you look up the fantasies threads here you will learn. It's one of the male's most popular and common fantasies. Myself included. Not that I would really want mine to do it. Although I have dirty-talked it while having sex. Usually back fires though, makes me cum faster. Drats !
Originally posted by
Ciani
Maybe you all could help me out some. I feel like no matter what I do that I am just not enough. If you told me ten years ago that I would own nipple rings, nipple clamps, cock cages, paddles, handcuffs, remote vibrators and a slew of other
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Maybe you all could help me out some. I feel like no matter what I do that I am just not enough. If you told me ten years ago that I would own nipple rings, nipple clamps, cock cages, paddles, handcuffs, remote vibrators and a slew of other vibrators now I would tell you you're crazy. I used to be boring and because my husband wanted more spice I have tried to give it, ie all the items listed above. Now though, it seems his fantasy involves me being with another man and I can't do that, won't do that. I have changed tons and he just doesn't see that is has been much. He tells me to read erotic stories, so I do. Then he says to find ones with light bondage and I do. Then he says find ones about dominatrix, so I do. Then it escalates to him wanting me to read one about infidelity and it shuts me down. I can't keep up or get ahead. I thought I was doing everything right. I even bought and practice pole dancing, not just for him but for myself as well. I feel like it is only a matter of time before he cheats on me to get what he wants. Any thoughts?
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I hope he doesn't make you do anything you don't want though. That's a def No No !
03/06/2015
First, I just want to say I feel your frustration in your words. It's one thing to tests one's limits but it's another to disregard when your lover has actually reached them. As your husband, he should know when you've reached a point where it's too much.
If you keep giving and conforming to all of his desires, whole disregarding what makes you happy, you will have bigger problems than him cheating on you. You will grow to not trust his judgment with you and you will grow to hate him for making you do things you don't wish to do.
If bringing another man into the bedroom isn't for you, hold true to it. Don't do it. I'm sure you wouldn't ask him to perform a sexual act that he was uncomfortable with.
If you keep giving and conforming to all of his desires, whole disregarding what makes you happy, you will have bigger problems than him cheating on you. You will grow to not trust his judgment with you and you will grow to hate him for making you do things you don't wish to do.
If bringing another man into the bedroom isn't for you, hold true to it. Don't do it. I'm sure you wouldn't ask him to perform a sexual act that he was uncomfortable with.
03/06/2015
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Agreed !
Originally posted by
Vnessa
First, I just want to say I feel your frustration in your words. It's one thing to tests one's limits but it's another to disregard when your lover has actually reached them. As your husband, he should know when you've reached a
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First, I just want to say I feel your frustration in your words. It's one thing to tests one's limits but it's another to disregard when your lover has actually reached them. As your husband, he should know when you've reached a point where it's too much.
If you keep giving and conforming to all of his desires, whole disregarding what makes you happy, you will have bigger problems than him cheating on you. You will grow to not trust his judgment with you and you will grow to hate him for making you do things you don't wish to do.
If bringing another man into the bedroom isn't for you, hold true to it. Don't do it. I'm sure you wouldn't ask him to perform a sexual act that he was uncomfortable with. less
If you keep giving and conforming to all of his desires, whole disregarding what makes you happy, you will have bigger problems than him cheating on you. You will grow to not trust his judgment with you and you will grow to hate him for making you do things you don't wish to do.
If bringing another man into the bedroom isn't for you, hold true to it. Don't do it. I'm sure you wouldn't ask him to perform a sexual act that he was uncomfortable with. less
03/07/2015
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Im so sorry y ou feel like you are never enough this breaks my heart to read you are enough no matter what. changing who you are isn't going to help you or him have you sat him down and told him this?
Originally posted by
Ciani
Maybe you all could help me out some. I feel like no matter what I do that I am just not enough. If you told me ten years ago that I would own nipple rings, nipple clamps, cock cages, paddles, handcuffs, remote vibrators and a slew of other
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more
Maybe you all could help me out some. I feel like no matter what I do that I am just not enough. If you told me ten years ago that I would own nipple rings, nipple clamps, cock cages, paddles, handcuffs, remote vibrators and a slew of other vibrators now I would tell you you're crazy. I used to be boring and because my husband wanted more spice I have tried to give it, ie all the items listed above. Now though, it seems his fantasy involves me being with another man and I can't do that, won't do that. I have changed tons and he just doesn't see that is has been much. He tells me to read erotic stories, so I do. Then he says to find ones with light bondage and I do. Then he says find ones about dominatrix, so I do. Then it escalates to him wanting me to read one about infidelity and it shuts me down. I can't keep up or get ahead. I thought I was doing everything right. I even bought and practice pole dancing, not just for him but for myself as well. I feel like it is only a matter of time before he cheats on me to get what he wants. Any thoughts?
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03/08/2015
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I have, and this isn't the first time I have felt like I am not enough. We talked it out and we both have some things to work on.
Originally posted by
The Mother of a SiNner
Im so sorry y ou feel like you are never enough this breaks my heart to read you are enough no matter what. changing who you are isn't going to help you or him have you sat him down and told him this?
03/09/2015
Thank you everyone. I think we have things worked out. I know I still have some changing to do as does he. After 16 years together I guess every relationship needs a little overhaul. I appreciate all your kind words and thoughts.
03/09/2015
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