What do you think is the largest factor that contributes to divorce?

Contributor: Aishiteru Aishiteru
I think communication problems is the biggest issue.
12/01/2012
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
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Originally posted by Mylo
I want to know what you personally think is the largest factor leading to divorce in today's society.
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12/07/2012
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
Communication...a lot of the other things on the list can be handled with communication/come from a lack of communication
12/12/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I think that the exciting newness goes away and they don't get their needs met emotionally and physically.
12/12/2012
Contributor: Cynoc Cynoc
Getting married?
Seriously, communication.
12/18/2012
Contributor: Creepellah Creepellah
Closing Down Communitcation
12/18/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
Communication is key, but can't overide some of the source issues
12/18/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
It all comes down to communication. I have at times in our relationship felt like I didn't get enough attention from my husband, sexually and emotionally. He has always made an effort to improve when I just speak up.
12/19/2012
Contributor: ARPKasso ARPKasso
Communication seems to be the big thing.
12/19/2012
Contributor: burtnuh burtnuh
Communication.
12/19/2012
Contributor: Diablotin Diablotin
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Originally posted by Mylo
I want to know what you personally think is the largest factor leading to divorce in today's society.
Personnally, I think what brings couple down is a lack of communication that can lead to cheating, less romance, emotional needs not meet, etc.
01/03/2013
Contributor: Hermosura21 Hermosura21
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Originally posted by epiphanyjayne
people need to keep an open communication. also you need intimacy even if it's hard and you don't feel like it/ don't have time, make time force it and you'll feel it. I know we've had some dry spells due to kids and it would have ... more
I so agrree with u
01/03/2013
Contributor: justart justart
I think many of these things are related and a hit in one area will also adversely affect the others, especially due to the differences in the way men and woman perceive things. I know that for me it's hard to feel really emotionally connected to someone and be open to honest communication without physical intimacy. How many hetero men go around sharing their feelings with each other? Conversely, I suspect many women aren't open to physical intimacy without the non-physical communication first. So in many instances it becomes a matter of who's going to step outside of their ideal comfort zone first to keep things working. My wife has nowhere near the interest in sex that I do and I can tell you that often makes communication very difficult for me. But we've stayed happily married for 11 years now - it can be done. It just takes more effort.
01/04/2013
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
While I think that all of these tend to be contributing factors, the major problem I've noticed is people are getting married to the wrong partner, for the wrong reasons, and at the wrong time.
01/04/2013
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Losing the emotional connection is what tore our marriage apart.
02/08/2013
Contributor: Fun2 Fun2
Communication and bottling up feelings/emotions/thou ghts.
02/16/2013
Contributor: chelly411 chelly411
communication is key in every relationship so I think that really affects when they go bad
02/22/2013
Contributor: TheWickedOne TheWickedOne
I would disagree with the lack of talking...I beleive its the lack of romance...Its just that, that leads to lack of communication. That little bit of romance every now and then is what keeps you talking. Having something such a comforting night out, movies, and sensual massage, etc. is what keeps them interested. My wife and I are a prime example. When we got weeks without that little spark, we end up being alittle less open to each other day by day. After we relized the problem. Our marriage has never been better.
02/25/2013
Contributor: Flower1 Flower1
communication
02/25/2013
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
communication!
02/26/2013
Contributor: Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
Everyone always asks how my husband and i have lasted so long and i always say we fight. i dont mean crazy screaming fights but if hes pissing me off by leaving his socks on the floor i dont hold it in i let it out and tell him we bicker over it and its done, we dont hold in all the little tings that bug us so that in 6 months we have a mile long list that makes them seem horrible and im so angry about everything that its a massive fight.
02/28/2013
Contributor: Cynthia Jordan Cynthia Jordan
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Originally posted by Mylo
I want to know what you personally think is the largest factor leading to divorce in today's society.
id say a little of money, selfishness, cheating, no communitcation, no intimacy, no romance, emotional, and physical when one of these start they all go off and end up in abuse or divorce
02/28/2013
Contributor: Bubba29 Bubba29
when 1 spouse is away from home too much because of work.....one of them ends up cheatin'. usually the one workin' too much.
02/28/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
Closing down communication definitely. It takes work to talk about things openly, honestly and without placing blame or indicating whose at fault.
03/01/2013
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Mylo
I want to know what you personally think is the largest factor leading to divorce in today's society.
Not having clear communication and realistic expectations about marriage and your partner is the greatest underlying factor in the divorce rate. The rest of the stuff you list is the symptom not the real problem.
03/01/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I'd say a lack of communication.
03/05/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Mylo
I want to know what you personally think is the largest factor leading to divorce in today's society.
Lots of possibilities...worst thing is to stop working together.
03/05/2013
Contributor: Mylo Mylo
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Originally posted by Mylo
I want to know what you personally think is the largest factor leading to divorce in today's society.
I put selfishness down becuase all the other options tie back to selfishness usually. You have to be willing to make sacrifices for the other person always. It's okay to be selfish every once in a while, but when you are always selfish it becomes a problem.
03/15/2013
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
I think it's getting married before you are ready, both emotionally and financially.
04/16/2013
Contributor: Silverwinds Silverwinds
My parents divorced, partly because my mother's parents were horrible and abusive towards my dad, and my mom did nothing to stop it or defend him, mom never really loved my dad, but used him as an escape from her overbearing parents, and because my mother drugged 2 out of 3 of us kids. In my parents case, it was because my mother never really wanted it to work.
04/19/2013