If you've had kids, is the sex different afterwards, then it was before?
Is sex just as good after you have kids?
08/26/2010
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It can be just as good if not better because the pressure to concieve is gone. There are added pressures like no sleep but my sex life never stopped after having my kids!
Originally posted by
Sera
If you've had kids, is the sex different afterwards, then it was before?
08/27/2010
I'd have to say yes it is different afterwards. Nothing ruins a moment like a little knock at the door and a little voice calling mommy or daddy. However, once the kids are asleep and if we're not too tired, the sex is even better. Maybe it's because before kids we would have sex at least once a day (sometimes 2 times a day) and now it's more like 3-4 times a week? If you're really into quickies (which I'm not) then you'll enjoy sex more after kids.
09/02/2010
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It's been better lately, and we have a 5 year old.
Originally posted by
Sera
If you've had kids, is the sex different afterwards, then it was before?
09/06/2010
I didn't have a whole lot of sex while my kids were growing up since I was a single mom most of that time period, plus both were special needs. I just didn't have the time or energy to pursue any kind of long lasting relationship.
I would have to say, though, that sex is even better after the kids have moved out. Having had a hysterectomy really ramps it up for me, too.
I would have to say, though, that sex is even better after the kids have moved out. Having had a hysterectomy really ramps it up for me, too.
09/13/2010
I have a 15 month old and I would say yes. I feel that I am in the mood more and I also initiate more too. My hubs does not mind unless he's tired, but I usually win anyways.
09/16/2010
Oh yeah, it is. Different feeling (now I kind of ache when I get wet, which is weird, but I figure it must be what getting a hard on is like for a dude), and way different in how we go about it. No quickie in the middle of the day anymore. And when the kiddo is down for a nap, we have to shut the monitor off because hearing those "hey mommy I'm awake now" noises really kill the mood, especially if he's crying. Also, finding the energy is difficult anymore. But when we do get around to doing it, we make it COUNT!
10/15/2010
Its the same. You might be too tired for a long time after you have a baby, but it feels the same. I asked my husband if I felt different and he said I felt the same. He would have been honest if it were different for him. The only difference is that if its been awhile, my episiotomy scar hurts for the first minute for some reason.
I only have one child, so I don't know if things would have changed if I had more.
I only have one child, so I don't know if things would have changed if I had more.
10/15/2010
I have three children and I'd have to say it definitely changes things. I swear children are born with sexual radar sensors and the second the first piece of clothes comes off they are crying or at the door lol Once you work around their schedules and they give ya enough peace to carry on with a sex life all is well.
Physically I think it does change a bit - at least for me. I'm not the skinniest thing anymore and that bothers me more then the hubby but I'm working on it. Another thing that may be unique to me was that I tore badly with my son and had to be stitched back together all the way from front to back and after healing that made intercourse extremely painful but did manage another child almost immediately so when I had him the doc cut and re-stitched me properly. Thank God.
My sex drive has changed as well. Now that all three of mine are in school (no more barging into Mommy and Daddy's room) I tend to be more horny and less likely to get off without intensity. One day I hope to be able to scream again - being quiet with the kids is mandatory or they would be in the room - kinda puts a damper on me when I really want to cut loose.
But all in all it's just as enjoyable and for me it's probably more so now.
Physically I think it does change a bit - at least for me. I'm not the skinniest thing anymore and that bothers me more then the hubby but I'm working on it. Another thing that may be unique to me was that I tore badly with my son and had to be stitched back together all the way from front to back and after healing that made intercourse extremely painful but did manage another child almost immediately so when I had him the doc cut and re-stitched me properly. Thank God.
My sex drive has changed as well. Now that all three of mine are in school (no more barging into Mommy and Daddy's room) I tend to be more horny and less likely to get off without intensity. One day I hope to be able to scream again - being quiet with the kids is mandatory or they would be in the room - kinda puts a damper on me when I really want to cut loose.
But all in all it's just as enjoyable and for me it's probably more so now.
10/15/2010
I have 2 kids. And I think sex is better now than it ever was.
10/19/2010
For me, it is better now... lol...
11/02/2010
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That's the same for us! We didn't stop after babies... it was more like "Six weeks? Really? ugh." And the first year or 2 after a baby is born is tough. Now I have a 3 year old (well, she will be next month) and a 5 year old. Middle of the night drama is basically done, so we have glorious hours to enjoy each other. We have to be a little more quiet, but you adjust. I'm much more adventurous now.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
It can be just as good if not better because the pressure to concieve is gone. There are added pressures like no sleep but my sex life never stopped after having my kids!
11/03/2010
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I've got to agree about kids having sex radars. You check on them and double-check on them and they're fast asleep. So you start having some fun and just when you get into it, there's a little cry.
Originally posted by
SexyTabby
I have three children and I'd have to say it definitely changes things. I swear children are born with sexual radar sensors and the second the first piece of clothes comes off they are crying or at the door lol Once you work around their
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I have three children and I'd have to say it definitely changes things. I swear children are born with sexual radar sensors and the second the first piece of clothes comes off they are crying or at the door lol Once you work around their schedules and they give ya enough peace to carry on with a sex life all is well.
Physically I think it does change a bit - at least for me. I'm not the skinniest thing anymore and that bothers me more then the hubby but I'm working on it. Another thing that may be unique to me was that I tore badly with my son and had to be stitched back together all the way from front to back and after healing that made intercourse extremely painful but did manage another child almost immediately so when I had him the doc cut and re-stitched me properly. Thank God.
My sex drive has changed as well. Now that all three of mine are in school (no more barging into Mommy and Daddy's room) I tend to be more horny and less likely to get off without intensity. One day I hope to be able to scream again - being quiet with the kids is mandatory or they would be in the room - kinda puts a damper on me when I really want to cut loose.
But all in all it's just as enjoyable and for me it's probably more so now. less
Physically I think it does change a bit - at least for me. I'm not the skinniest thing anymore and that bothers me more then the hubby but I'm working on it. Another thing that may be unique to me was that I tore badly with my son and had to be stitched back together all the way from front to back and after healing that made intercourse extremely painful but did manage another child almost immediately so when I had him the doc cut and re-stitched me properly. Thank God.
My sex drive has changed as well. Now that all three of mine are in school (no more barging into Mommy and Daddy's room) I tend to be more horny and less likely to get off without intensity. One day I hope to be able to scream again - being quiet with the kids is mandatory or they would be in the room - kinda puts a damper on me when I really want to cut loose.
But all in all it's just as enjoyable and for me it's probably more so now. less
Luckily, our 7 year old hasn't walked in on us yet, but he's surprised us a few times by getting out of his bed in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. (Previously, he would call for us even though he was capable of doing it on his own.)
If the risk of getting caught turns you on, though, there's nothing like having 2 kids in the other room capable of entertaining themselves while the two of you quietly have a little fun under the covers.
11/03/2010
I think it is better !!!
03/28/2011
It is just a little less frequent. And you get more creative locations and time-wise. (Let's see, we just started The Backyardigan's, it's 22 minutes long, we took 5 minutes getting up here to the bathroom, can we? Oh, hell yeah!)
But yeah, those radar detectors suck!
But yeah, those radar detectors suck!
03/28/2011
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I agree... for us it has only gotten better since my son was born- also we had to find more creative times and ways to get it on so I think that really spiced it up =)
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
It can be just as good if not better because the pressure to concieve is gone. There are added pressures like no sleep but my sex life never stopped after having my kids!
03/28/2011
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It is different for a while. You also dont have as much time for it.
Originally posted by
Sera
If you've had kids, is the sex different afterwards, then it was before?
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