Im Trying to Spice things up a little bit.

Contributor: Juggalette Kila Juggalette Kila
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My Husband and I have tried a handful of toys like cock rings and some vibrators for me but nothing to extreme and that was hard to get him to do. But i was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to get him to try things like handcuffs and sex swings and pillows that sort of stuff even more toys. help me please.
10/19/2012
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Contributor: ChinaraDahl ChinaraDahl
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Originally posted by Juggalette Kila
My Husband and I have tried a handful of toys like cock rings and some vibrators for me but nothing to extreme and that was hard to get him to do. But i was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to get him to try things like handcuffs and sex ... more
Its easier to start small and make the first move on it. Like set up how you would want him/ you tied up with your choice of toys. I.e. ropes, handcuffs, ect. You could turn into something he likes, for example, I was with one who was really into music so I had him tie me up with speaker wire
10/19/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I agree with Chinara - gradual immersion - just like the drug dealers do it - but in a healthy way. I've kept us steadily introducing new things - sometimes I'll write fantasies and give them to her to let her know where my heads at - at first she was not too happy about the letters - but now I see her incorporate some of my ideas - like massaging her breasts while I massage her done below - or use toy on her.

Once in a while you have to stop the new things and let the new things settle in - integrated into your repetoire, then go back to adding the new things your interested in.

Don't forget to include things you know he's like to try - make it rewarding for both of you. My partner's orgasms have always been my top priority - if it can't help her orgasm - we move on and leave it behind.
10/20/2012
Contributor: Juggalette Kila Juggalette Kila
thanks everyone
10/23/2012
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
I would also suggest maybe a "trade"? Ask him if he would love to try something (maybe a costume or something like that?), and you can do it for him. And then....vice versa!
10/24/2012