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Does your husband/male partner like anal penetration?

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Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
For me there are two aspects to anal play for men. Prostate stimulation is the obvious one - but for me the pressure of a dildo - preferable a moderately sized glass one feels quite nice gliding in and out. I started with the small end of the ... more
I will check all those out. Know of any great books that I should be reading, in regards to this subject?
01/05/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
There are a couple of good ones, but you often need to "read between the lines". Morin's Anal Pleasure and Health has a wealth of information, but it is often a bit "dryer". Tristan Taormino's Guide to Anal Sex for Women is a good starter but as the title indicates is targeted towards woman. There are also a number of anal guides targeted at gay men, but these might spook an interested newbie (BUT YOU TOLD ME IT WASN'T GAY!!!).
01/05/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
I will check all those out. Know of any great books that I should be reading, in regards to this subject?
Tristan Taormino is the go to author for all things anal - and she has a web site called pucker-up link. I have her first book also called Pucker Up - but didn't see it on EF. Although most of what Tristen does is for women - she has enough info on men to be useful. For example the last chapter (12) of The Anal Sex Positioning Guide link is dedicated to pegging.

I also have Anal Pleasure & Health by Jack Morin, Ph.D. which is a bit more clinical but very useful link

Chapter 12 of Ride'em Cowgirl talks about the He-spot - for prostate stimulation link

Chapter 9 of Red Hot Touch 'Explore the Back Door' has useful tips for both male and female anal exploration link

There is a little book called Tickle His Pickle link that has some prostate and anal tips in it as well.

Tristan and others have also created a number of quasi-instructional videos on the subject - but I haven't tried any of them.

Happy hunting!
01/05/2011
Contributor: Chevylady37 Chevylady37
my husband wants to try it with me, but he doesn't want anything going in his anal region. I tell my husband that is an exit only. NOTHING is to enter it.
01/09/2011
Contributor: ReesaAndBrandon ReesaAndBrandon
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Originally posted by Sera
I've heard of some men liking it, but mine doesn't, and I'm wondering if yours does. Why does he like it? How does he like it? How was he first introduced to it?
Me and my husband tried the one-two finger option but he said he hurt too much or something. I just think he feels uncomfortable about it like it will make him turn or something. Wish he was more open minded about it. *sigh*
01/11/2011
Contributor: AU AU
I can't really accurately answer the poll? So...

A few years ago I was curious to see if he'd like it. He didn't want to be the guy who said "No, I will never like it!!" without trying, so he tried. He said he wouldn't mind trying it again if I really wanted to, but it's not really his thing. It wasn't really great fun my first few times, either, but I came to like it. I think we both agree almost anyone could come to like it somewhat. I don't know if we'll try again or not.
02/04/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by AU
I can't really accurately answer the poll? So...

A few years ago I was curious to see if he'd like it. He didn't want to be the guy who said "No, I will never like it!!" without trying, so he tried. He said he ... more
Many people do need to try it a couple of times. It's a bit like coffee - it's different at first and you need to keep at it to really like the sensations. Also like coffee there are some people who never do like it.
02/04/2011
Contributor: Fun Lover Fun Lover
I would have liked to an other option or sometimes. I don't love it or hate it sometimes I do enjoy it other times not so much.
02/04/2011
Contributor: KrissyRoro KrissyRoro
No way would he try it ! He doesn't like when I grab his butt even !
02/05/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
My husband loves a little play from me, whether it's my hands or my mouth, but no toys, unless a vibe gets close, but never penetrating with it.
02/07/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Kaltir
My husband loves a little play from me, whether it's my hands or my mouth, but no toys, unless a vibe gets close, but never penetrating with it.
Sounds like he doesn't like the connotations, which he might be able to change eventually.
02/08/2011
Contributor: Harlot O Harlot O
I'm so sad to see so many people with partner's who are unwilling to even try new things!

Makes me extra grateful to have a partner who is super open to new experiences. And he loves it in the butt
02/08/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
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Originally posted by Sera
I've heard of some men liking it, but mine doesn't, and I'm wondering if yours does. Why does he like it? How does he like it? How was he first introduced to it?
I wish my husband would let me... I hope maybe in the future he will : )
02/15/2011
Contributor: Miss Madeline Miss Madeline
My Owner has not tried it and is not particularly interested in trying it but isn't on the "never would try it" side either.
02/15/2011
Contributor: MontereyJak MontereyJak
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Originally posted by Sera
I've heard of some men liking it, but mine doesn't, and I'm wondering if yours does. Why does he like it? How does he like it? How was he first introduced to it?
I'll speak for myself, I love it a lot. The P-spot orgasms are amazing. Love the glass plug from CrystalD toys. My wife is starting to want anal sex more too.
02/16/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
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Originally posted by ScottA
Sounds like he doesn't like the connotations, which he might be able to change eventually.
That may be part of the issue. The idea in general just isn't a turn on for him, regardless of any possible underlying factors. But I'm ok with that
02/16/2011
Contributor: Astia Astia
My husband I think is turned on by the idea of anal penetration, but it doesn't really do much for him outside of prostate stimulation. He enjoys being toyed with gently around the anus, but outside of that it's p-spot or bust.

As far as how he was first introduced to it, one day he just told me that he'd always been curious about how it would feel and even confessed that he'd tried it himself in the shower a couple of times.
02/18/2011
Contributor: sbon sbon
My boyfriend has no interest in trying it.
02/18/2011
Contributor: Blooddragon Blooddragon
Quote:
Originally posted by Sera
I've heard of some men liking it, but mine doesn't, and I'm wondering if yours does. Why does he like it? How does he like it? How was he first introduced to it?
There is not a vote for "tried it...fun occasionally" That's where I fit in. It was more of my wife's suggestion and we tried it. The feeling is good but the idea of it can weird me out. She started with a pinkie during oral. And since had used a slim plug on me. I usually have to have a few drinks. It helps knowing that my wife is extremely hot and sexy and shes cool to all things new.
02/18/2011
Contributor: nicky51679 nicky51679
I dare not bring up this topic with my husband I know it will be a No.
02/21/2011
Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
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Originally posted by Blinker
My guy won't let any part of me or anything else near his butthole. Ever. Ever ever ever. *sigh*

Poor baby doesn't know what he's missing out on

I can't blame him, really. I mean it does hurt at first.
same here.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Britny Britny
He loves it!!!!
03/09/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
That's not really something that would turn either of us on. I don't want to stick anything in his ass and he doesn't want me to, lol. It's just not our cup of tea.
03/09/2011
Contributor: SugarAndSpice SugarAndSpice
He would never try it
03/24/2011
Contributor: Mrs.B Mrs.B
My husband has enjoyed one finger, but we haven't gone further than that. We aren't really sure where to go from there. We are pretty new at toys, but we are very open-minded and interested!
04/05/2011
Contributor: Spilock Spilock
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Originally posted by ScottA
Many people do need to try it a couple of times. It's a bit like coffee - it's different at first and you need to keep at it to really like the sensations. Also like coffee there are some people who never do like it.
This is possibly the greatest analogy ever.
04/06/2011
Contributor: cobiffle cobiffle
I would try it maybe
04/10/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Absolutely not! Neither of us do the booty thing. No booty sex here.
04/19/2011
Contributor: Lady Marmelade Lady Marmelade
He doesn't really LIKE, but... it's all about the BDSM thing and submission.
04/20/2011
Contributor: Willis2011 Willis2011
He would never try it
04/20/2011