The New Intimacy

How often do you say "I love you" to your significant other? How long have you been together, and are you a woman or man? I wonder if this answer differs with gender as well?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
We have been married 32 years. I am the wife. I say I love you to him in the morning, when he calls before leaving work, and before bed, also if he leaves to do much of anything...so probably about 4-5 times a day. Of course, he says it at the same time, usually first, so his answer would be the same number.

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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I've been with my husband for four years and I don't say anything to him. He says "I love you" all the time and I hate it. Also, to be clear, I have -never- been a lovey-dovey person and he knew this going into the relationship. It's not like it's a "new thing".
03/07/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
12+ years
Every day, several times a day
Female
03/07/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
We've been together for 13 years. We say it each night when we go to bed. I'm a female.
03/07/2012
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
8 years this past Feb 29th. Many times a day, in many, many ways.
03/07/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Every day, several times a day. I'm not really a romantic, either, but I LOVE him so much.

We went through a really rough patch when we had two small children in the house, we weren't getting along, and not having much sex (this was many years ago) I felt like I was always angry at him during this time. He pulled me aside once and said, "You haven't said "I love you" to me in months. What's the problem?" We sat and talked and worked some things out, and I understood why I was so damn angry, and we both agreed to work on some things. And it really got better. I don't know if we could have survived that Ice Storm, but we worked hard on it and we did.

That was years ago, and I never ever want to be in that place again. If think if we both weren't so stubborn, we may have gotten divorced during that bad time. But, we stuck it out, and HARD WORK kept us together. Now, we both say "I love you" to each other several times a day. He even says it at work, when we talk on the phone, which years ago, he was too embarrassed to do! (He doesn't have much privacy at his bench.)

We've been together more than 20 years.
03/07/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I'm the wife, we've been back together for just over 3 years, and we say it multiple times a day.
03/07/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
Been with my husband about 4 and a half years (over two married) and we both say it frequently. The way I see it, the constant little reminders are always nice (especially if you're not in a great mood), and you never know if it'll be the last chance you get to say it.
03/18/2012
Contributor: robertk2380 robertk2380
We've been together almost 39 years as a couple, nearly 35 married. Usually say it daily, but she is more likely to say it out of the blue. I'm better about saying it regularly than I was earlier in the relationship.
03/19/2012
Contributor: funluvinmama funluvinmama
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
We have been married 32 years. I am the wife. I say I love you to him in the morning, when he calls before leaving work, and before bed, also if he leaves to do much of anything...so probably about 4-5 times a day. Of course, he says it at the same ... more
we have been married 10 years. I'm female. I say I love you when I get off the phone or when my husband says it to me.
03/22/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Been married for a year and a half
We say it to each other all through the day, always make sure to say it before we leave each other, when we get off the phone, and before bed, but most of the time, it's totally random.
I'm female
03/26/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
We've been married nearly two years now, but we've been together as a couple for almost 10. Generally we say it at least a few times throughout the day, like if one of us is heading off to work or before we go to bed, but sometimes just spontaneously. I don't think either one of us really says it more/less than the other.
03/26/2012
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I say it every time I leave the house and before bed everyday. Toss in two or three times a day just because. We have been together for 23 years last December.
03/26/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
We have been married 32 years. I am the wife. I say I love you to him in the morning, when he calls before leaving work, and before bed, also if he leaves to do much of anything...so probably about 4-5 times a day. Of course, he says it at the same ... more
I am the wife/girlfriend and we say "I love you" probably sickeningly often to some people. Whenever we are leaving, saying goodnight or just feeling lovey we will say it. Neither guy is more apt to say it, we are very demonstrative as a unit. Hell at times even the guys will say, "love you man" or something similar.
We also say it as often as we can to the kids...you just never want to think that the last thing a loved one hears from you is anything BUT "I love you!" At least that's how we view it.
I've been with Sigel over 25 years and Arch almost 9 years.
03/26/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
We have married almost 5 years now and we are still telling each other I love you all of the time. Sometimes right before he whips my ass
03/26/2012
Contributor: lustylusty lustylusty
I am a soon to be wife, and we have been together for 3 years now. Getting married in October. I definatly say I love you more then I says it too me. I say it quite a bit. I just asked him to guess how much he thinks I say I love in a day and he said enough. I think he thinks I say it to much, but you know what. I only say it alot just so he will say it to me back. Just the other day we bought a new truck and we were sitting in the dealership office and he looked at me and said I love you. Well I think that was the first time in a long time that he initiated an I love you. and thats because I let him buy his truck, not being he was feeling lovey dovey
03/27/2012
Contributor: blackadeezee blackadeezee
We've been together for 6 years. We say it as often as we can, being military we aren't together as often as we like (husband is currently deployed)and we dont get to talk as often as we would like to. So we say it as often as we can when we have the chance.
04/25/2012