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How far are you willing to go for your partner?

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Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
We've all been there - your partner wants to try something new, and for whatever reason it's not appealing to you. Maybe you've tried it and know you don't like it, maybe it's just not your cup of tea.

I'm not talking about things you really don't want, like if you're terrified of being tied up but your partner wants to try out bondage, just things that don't turn you on or provide you pleasure. Maybe they have a foot fetish and you've just never thought about feet that way! Or they want foreplay but you just want to get to the good stuff!

So, what determines if you say yes?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
If it doesn't make me feel good there's no way I'll do it! It's all about the pleasure!
9
I'm willing as long as it doesn't take a lot of extra effort or expensive gear
16
I'll try anything once!
43
There's no fetish I'm not into, so neither of us has to worry about this problem
1
I might try it, it depends what it is
25
Every fetish freaks me out, so I just keep everything vanilla!
1
I would only do it if they were willing to engage in one of me fetishes that they don't care for.
7
I do whatever my partner asks, no matter if I like it or not!
7
As long as it doesn't make me actively uncomfortable, I'll go for it!
62
You've got it all wrong! My partner's the one who won't engage in MY fetish!
8
Other!
Total votes: 179 (111 voters)
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Contributor: JennSenn JennSenn
I'll try most things once. I won't try it if it makes me actively uncomfortable or it takes a lot of money. If it's really expensive and I'm the only one shelling out the cash for their interest? No. If they really want something and are willing to pitch in, sure. They don't have to do something for me. And nothing dangerous of course.
07/24/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
i'll try anything for her - but she's so vanilla - she's never asked me to do anything unusual.
07/24/2012
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by pootpootpoot
We've all been there - your partner wants to try something new, and for whatever reason it's not appealing to you. Maybe you've tried it and know you don't like it, maybe it's just not your cup of tea.

I'm not talking ... more
honestly if he aasks im all for anything new
07/24/2012
Contributor: CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
There isn't too much I wouldn't try once. Only the extreme of the extreme would be a no go
07/24/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
I'll try most things once. I do have limits, but I'm much kinkier than the average person.
07/25/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
We both feel like we'll pretty much try anything once. We both do have our hard limits, but I seriously doubt either of us would be into something that passes one of our hard limits.

Actually, by being open to new experiences for each other we've both discovered some things we enjoy, but never have tried before! So there's a bonus for being G, G & G!
07/25/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I'm up for trying almost anything, really.
07/25/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
I'd probably try it. I'm not exactly vanilla and my partner is really accepting of my own kinks.
07/25/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I have a list of my hard limits that my husband has. Anything else I'm willing to try at least once.
07/25/2012
Contributor: aimtoplease aimtoplease
Quote:
Originally posted by JennSenn
I'll try most things once. I won't try it if it makes me actively uncomfortable or it takes a lot of money. If it's really expensive and I'm the only one shelling out the cash for their interest? No. If they really want something and ... more
totally agree
07/25/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
Really depends what it is for me.
07/25/2012
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
As long as it isn't scat, bestiality, or pedophilia, I am willing to give it a try.
07/25/2012
Contributor: freshbananas freshbananas
Quote:
Originally posted by pootpootpoot
We've all been there - your partner wants to try something new, and for whatever reason it's not appealing to you. Maybe you've tried it and know you don't like it, maybe it's just not your cup of tea.

I'm not talking ... more
interesting question, better answers
07/25/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by pootpootpoot
We've all been there - your partner wants to try something new, and for whatever reason it's not appealing to you. Maybe you've tried it and know you don't like it, maybe it's just not your cup of tea.

I'm not talking ... more
YES is my automatic default answer....because I LOVE HIM. He loves ME (his answer is the same), and thus if it brings HIM happiness, so long as it is not something I find totally unacceptable (like bringing someone else into our bed, or something involving physical pain....none of which HE would ever ask to do), then it is FINE by me. Even if I don't get much out of it, if it pleases HIM...why not? Of course, of everything we have ever tried, we both end up enjoying it, more or less, and so it is always a WIN/WIN to at least try!!!! Funny you mention foot fetish too. Neither of us is a foot fetishist, to speak of, but he had an old GF that "taught him" to suck her toes...SHE was huge into that, and so, as a leg guy, he was happy to oblige. I am NOT into "feet", but since he enjoyed that activity she had taught him, I let him suck my toes when my feet are up by his shoulders and such. NOW....well, when he is deep in my tush and pops my toe in his mouth to suck on, it is SO sexy and intense, I can cum from that feeling alone....so I have LEARNED to love it. Once in a while, while giving him an all over tongue bath and kiss session, I might suck HIS toes too, which makes him squirm!!! (Unlike many guys, mine stays squeeky clean and manicured....head to toes, literally. He has BEAUTIFUL soft, hands and feet for a guy!!!
07/25/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
I have a list of my hard limits that my husband has. Anything else I'm willing to try at least once.
Honest question. Did you actually sit down and think up a "list" of limits?

Did you "discuss" them or "negotiate" them??? Just very curious, as we never, ever actually "discussed" anything like this. We know that it is just HE and I and anything else between the two of us is fair game to at least ask about doing, or trying.
07/25/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
My boyfriend is very vanilla - and he knows he can tell me if there's anything new he wants to try, even if it's embarrassing. I just don't think there's anything unusual. There are a few things I WON'T do, but besides that, I'm extremely open minded.
07/25/2012
Contributor: Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
the only thing I couldn't do would be appeal to her rape fantasy. I'm all for the kidnapping but when it comes down to the matter I'm a weenie and can't do it- I would probably cry and appologise up and down for being rough.
Other than that I'm generally up for anything
07/25/2012
Contributor: Experiment Experiment
If I feel uncomfortable, I won't do it. Because I should feel comfy
07/25/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
My wife is very passive so I'm usually the one trying to convince her!
07/25/2012
Contributor: Dreaus Dreaus
Ill do just about anything for my woman. Twice if i like it
07/25/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
As long as it doesn't disturb me, I'll give it a try and see how it feels
07/25/2012
Contributor: Itsnotabanana Itsnotabanana
I'm pretty much open for anything.
07/25/2012
Contributor: L&P3040 L&P3040
I'll give anything a chance once if my wife wants to do something new. She'd do the same for me.
07/25/2012
Contributor: jfuz jfuz
Not too sure. I guess it really depends on the mood and what it is.
07/27/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
My partner has asked me to do things that I wasn't quite sure about before but I gave it the old college try and, much to my surprise, found out I really liked it.

They've also gone into one of my fetishes prepared to tolerate them and ended up really enjoying themselves.

So we'll try anything once.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Pennylyn Pennylyn
I'll try most things once. I do have limits....
07/27/2012
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
I am very fortunate to have a wife who through the years has been ready, willing and able to try new things with me. She has been willing to test the limits, even stepping outside of her comfort zone on many occasions. In return, there is not anything that I could imagine her realistically asking of me that I would not willfully and eagerly seek to satisfy.
07/27/2012
Contributor: ghent529 ghent529
I'll try anything once and twice if I like it.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Vaginas Vaginas
I'll try almost anything. but I do keep it fairly normal I think. I get super turned on by turning my man on so if he's into it, then I usually am
07/27/2012