Fake it til you Make it

Contributor: AriaRN AriaRN
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I've caught myself faking it a few times just because I don't want to make my man feel bad. Sometimes I'm not in it mentally or sometimes I'm just tired. Do you fake it? Do you regret it later?
07/27/2012
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Contributor: Bodhi Bodhi
Nah, I don't fake it. I feel it's best to kind of keep it honest, if I don't cum, I don't cum. I just tell him that it's not about the destination, it's about the journey.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
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Originally posted by AriaRN
I've caught myself faking it a few times just because I don't want to make my man feel bad. Sometimes I'm not in it mentally or sometimes I'm just tired. Do you fake it? Do you regret it later?
Nah I don't fake it, he usually can tell any way.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by AriaRN
I've caught myself faking it a few times just because I don't want to make my man feel bad. Sometimes I'm not in it mentally or sometimes I'm just tired. Do you fake it? Do you regret it later?
I have, thankfully, never had to fake it, and not sure I would. Those times when I just cannot cum, I say "I just cannot right now" and that's cool, since he KNOWS he brings me to the big "O" all the time, and often MULTIPLES, he sure does NOT get his ego bruised.
07/28/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
i have faked it alot
07/28/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
I've done it once, but only with a girl because I didn't want to bother her with how long it would've taken.
07/28/2012
Contributor: AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by CindyH
i have faked it alot
Do you feel bad after you do?
07/28/2012
Contributor: AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I have, thankfully, never had to fake it, and not sure I would. Those times when I just cannot cum, I say "I just cannot right now" and that's cool, since he KNOWS he brings me to the big "O" all the time, and often MULTIPLES, ... more
I wish I had multiples!
07/28/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Nope I have never faked it I usually have multiple squirting orgasms. If I know that I just can't possibly get my orgasm I simply say its right there but its just not cumming we either keep at it til I cum or we stop for a bit then go back at it.
07/28/2012
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
I don't. If I don't have one, I say so. Hubs would much rather me say that I didn't than fake it. He once said that to him, faking it is a crime and he would rather me just be honest. He knows that whether or not I have one may or may not have anything to do with him and tries to give me every opportunity to have one first.
07/28/2012
Contributor: AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by SneakersAndPearls
I don't. If I don't have one, I say so. Hubs would much rather me say that I didn't than fake it. He once said that to him, faking it is a crime and he would rather me just be honest. He knows that whether or not I have one may or may ... more
I guess I have just always assumed it would hurt my husband's feelings. And now I feel like if I wanted to tell him "hey it's just not gonna happen for me right now" he would think something's wrong since I've never done that before.
07/29/2012
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
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Originally posted by AriaRN
I guess I have just always assumed it would hurt my husband's feelings. And now I feel like if I wanted to tell him "hey it's just not gonna happen for me right now" he would think something's wrong since I've never done that before.
I would look into the book "I Love Female Orgasm". There is a lot of really great information in there that I think would help you out. There is an entire section dedicated to faking and feelings.
07/29/2012
Contributor: Rawr4483 Rawr4483
I don't fake it, if I don't come oh well, I know he'll just try harder next time ^.^
07/30/2012
Contributor: AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by SneakersAndPearls
I would look into the book "I Love Female Orgasm". There is a lot of really great information in there that I think would help you out. There is an entire section dedicated to faking and feelings. ... more
Thanks! I took a look at the book and I'm going to order it with my next purchase.
07/30/2012
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
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Originally posted by AriaRN
Thanks! I took a look at the book and I'm going to order it with my next purchase.
I hope you and the hubs enjoy it. There's quite a bit of useful info for both of you on the subject of orgasm.
07/31/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I don't fake it. I did a few times, when I started having trouble with orgasm a few years ago, and I "felt bad" that my husband was working so hard for no return. Then I realized I was promoting actions that were not working for me, and I was being dishonest. I immediately stopped. I had only done it once or twice, but it was enough for me to realize it was damaging to our relationship.

We always try to get me to come. (Unless it's a morning quickie after an evening marathon in which I have orgasmed, then I don't have to get off the next morning.) On the occasion that I don't, we're both disappointed, but we both believe being honest with each other is more important.

My Man is a grown man. He can take it if his efforts didn't work. He works his ass off to make me happy sexually, but is mature enough to understand that "that happens sometimes" if I don't.

As men get older, they don't come every time anymore It took me a while to get used to his saying, after a 2 hour marathon (with plenty for me) and his not coming yet, "Babe, I'm tired. Why don't we continue this in the morning." Then he's fresh and has no problem. It doesn't "hurt my femininity" if he doesn't come, so why would I fake it for him?
07/31/2012
Contributor: ohhhlala! ohhhlala!
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Originally posted by AriaRN
I've caught myself faking it a few times just because I don't want to make my man feel bad. Sometimes I'm not in it mentally or sometimes I'm just tired. Do you fake it? Do you regret it later?
I don't fake it. If I'm not in the mood to then I will be honest with him.
08/02/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm with my partner(s). That's why I have my wonderful collection of toys I use them after I'm with my husband so I can finish.
08/02/2012
Contributor: BG529 BG529
I never fake it.
08/02/2012
Contributor: AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I don't fake it. I did a few times, when I started having trouble with orgasm a few years ago, and I "felt bad" that my husband was working so hard for no return. Then I realized I was promoting actions that were not working for me, and ... more
Thanks for that reply. I never looked at it from that perspective. I need to just sit down with him and talk about it.
08/04/2012
Contributor: AriaRN AriaRN
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm with my partner(s). That's why I have my wonderful collection of toys I use them after I'm with my husband so I can finish.
That's how I feel sometimes!! I mean, I do orgasm with my husband but not all the time. My toys definitely help me finish but I don't use them all the time because I think they hurt his ego.
08/04/2012