How many couples fantasize about adding a third, or another couple to the bed room.

Contributor: extrafun extrafun
My wife and I fantasize about adding a third and having same room sex(not swapping)to our sex life. Just wondering how many others do this, and how many have gone through with it. Any comments suggestions or explications would be great.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
We just fantasize about a 3rd
19
We fantasize about a 3rd and/or a couple
15
We have added a 3rd and love it
4
We have added a couple and love it (no swap, just same room)
We have added a couple and love it (full swap)
1
We have added a 3rd and wont again
1
We have added a couple and wont again (just same room)
We have added a couple and wont again (full swap)
We have not fantized/done any of the above
31
Total votes: 71 (65 voters)
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Contributor: spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
Not something I have thought about, and I don't believe she has either.
04/23/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Other - We have talked about a threesome once or twice, but I do not think I could ever do it with him.
04/23/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
Quote:
Originally posted by extrafun
My wife and I fantasize about adding a third and having same room sex(not swapping)to our sex life. Just wondering how many others do this, and how many have gone through with it. Any comments suggestions or explications would be great.
Not us, we wouldn't ever want someone else in our sex life.
04/23/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I fantasize about it - but would never admit it to my wife. Somethings are best left unsaid.
04/24/2012
Contributor: robertk2380 robertk2380
We have talked about it a few times over the years, but never with the intention of acting on it. More speculation and fantasy than anything.
04/26/2012
Contributor: chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
Quote:
Originally posted by extrafun
My wife and I fantasize about adding a third and having same room sex(not swapping)to our sex life. Just wondering how many others do this, and how many have gone through with it. Any comments suggestions or explications would be great.
we have not done it but i would imagine it would be nice
04/27/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
We had a threesome, and honestly I wish that we hadn't done it. He loved it, but I left feeling hurt, insecure, and inadequate. This was after weeks of discussion and negotiation ahead of time. Sometimes a fantasy is best left as just a fantasy and doesn't need to be acted on.
04/27/2012
Contributor: EastCoast36 EastCoast36
We have not fantasized about adding someone or swapping. Closest thing would be my wife or me using a realistic dildo on her that is larger than my penis. Recently I bought a fleshlight and my wife has used it on me once. We watch some porn scenes with multiples, mostly MFM, because my wife doesn't care to watch women together. Bringing someone else into our bedroom is not for us.
04/27/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
We talk about it. We are waiting to meet a decent female to fill the position. If the opportunity comes up we will do it. If not, no big loss.
04/27/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I see this topic float around EF and other places a lot. I suppose it's just human nature. Being older now, I've never been seriously tempted with the chance to have a threesome - nor would I try. A smart man learns from his mistakes, a wise man learns from the smart man's mistakes.
04/27/2012
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
Quote:
Originally posted by extrafun
My wife and I fantasize about adding a third and having same room sex(not swapping)to our sex life. Just wondering how many others do this, and how many have gone through with it. Any comments suggestions or explications would be great.
I don't think I could take it past fantasy.
04/27/2012
Contributor: Cwhitten006 Cwhitten006
Quote:
Originally posted by extrafun
My wife and I fantasize about adding a third and having same room sex(not swapping)to our sex life. Just wondering how many others do this, and how many have gone through with it. Any comments suggestions or explications would be great.
I have thought about it, not sure if my husband has. I wouldn't know were to start with picking another couple (she couldn't be sexier or smaller than me though) I would hate for my husband to be focused on her the whole time..that could cause problems. With so many problems that could arise, I think I will leave it as a fantasy and nothing more.
04/29/2012
Contributor: Cwhitten006 Cwhitten006
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I fantasize about it - but would never admit it to my wife. Somethings are best left unsaid.
Just wondering from a males point of view...if u knew your wife had fantasized on adding another woman into the bedroom with yall, would you try to talk her into moving forward with it, or would you just leave it as that (a fantasy in each of your own heads)??
04/29/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
We are a threesome. Sometimes we fantasize about adding others -- casually, rather than as romantic interests. But I don't think we really would, primarily because we're fluid-bonded and paranoid about pregnancy and STDs.

As for same-room sex without touching? We go to play parties sometimes, and those have lots of people having sex in the same room. We're strictly hands-off though.
04/29/2012
Contributor: extrafun extrafun
Quote:
Originally posted by Cwhitten006
Just wondering from a males point of view...if u knew your wife had fantasized on adding another woman into the bedroom with yall, would you try to talk her into moving forward with it, or would you just leave it as that (a fantasy in each of your ... more
From a this males point of view, if i knew my wife had a fantasy about adding another women I would want to explore it and if she felt comfortable going foward with it it would be alright with me. Have said this, I would feel the same if she had a fantasy about adding a male, either way I would be ok with it because giveing my wife ultimate satisfaction sexually is a real turn on for me.
04/30/2012
Contributor: xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
None of the above.
04/30/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
As a fantasy, we did...but it would never be put into action
05/02/2012
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
I have thought about it fleetingly in the past but don't have any interest in actually trying it.
05/02/2012
Contributor: jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by extrafun
My wife and I fantasize about adding a third and having same room sex(not swapping)to our sex life. Just wondering how many others do this, and how many have gone through with it. Any comments suggestions or explications would be great.
Honestly, my wife and I have no urge to invite anyone else into our bedroom. We have both been cheated on in the past and feel that involving others into our marriage is not the way to go anyhow. Its not so much a comfort thing or a trust thing, more than a respect for our marriage thing. No sense in inviting trouble lol
05/09/2012
Contributor: prettynpink prettynpink
We have discussed it and it ends up rolling into foreplay, but I don't think we could ever do it. I wouldn't feel comfortable with another woman involved and he has stated that another man being involved is not an option
05/12/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
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Originally posted by jmex83
Honestly, my wife and I have no urge to invite anyone else into our bedroom. We have both been cheated on in the past and feel that involving others into our marriage is not the way to go anyhow. Its not so much a comfort thing or a trust thing, more ... more
That's what we say. "Playing with fire...." and we aren't looking to get burned.
05/12/2012
Contributor: mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by extrafun
My wife and I fantasize about adding a third and having same room sex(not swapping)to our sex life. Just wondering how many others do this, and how many have gone through with it. Any comments suggestions or explications would be great.
no way and never will.
05/14/2012
Contributor: hot n spicey hot n spicey
It is something I have thought about more so than him. I think it would be something we would both find would be a turn on and very exciting. I know I would love to.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Llahsram Llahsram
We've talked about a 3rd....probably won't ever do it.
05/15/2012
Contributor: justme23 justme23
We like it being just the two of us, we mix it up enough on our own
05/21/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Just the 2 of us!
06/16/2012
Contributor: lilgrump lilgrump
We would love to add a 3rd (male or female) or a couple (for same room or group sex) but just haven't found the right person/couple yet
06/21/2012
Contributor: MaeGal MaeGal
We had a rushed threesome once, and then a makeout, etc. session with another.
We're just playing a possible 'nother experience by ear.
06/22/2012
Contributor: Mr Dj Mr Dj
I would add extra female, but also depends on some other factors..
07/02/2012