Again, it depends on whether it was a hard limit or not, but given that I was the one coming into the relationship with more "weird ideas" I doubt I'd refuse.
Would you leave your partner if you considered one of their major sexual fantasies "weird"?
03/12/2011
I'd try and find a compromise for most anything, so long as it wasn't like, "My fetish involves killing you and cutting your body in to tiny pieces which I will then leave in garbage bags hidden in dumpsters around the city." or anything. =/
03/13/2011
I have more weird fantasies than I can count. I don't think youd even want to hear the list.
03/15/2011
As long as they dont hurt anyone, they are ok
03/15/2011
We'd make it work. That's what it means to be in a relationship.
03/30/2011
no not a big deal
03/30/2011
I'm actually the one with the weird fantasy. It's not weird so much as it makes him uncomfortable, but we're working on it, slowly.
03/30/2011
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This is actually backwards to me because my partner has some requests that were weird to me and we worked it out. One I have actually been okay with easing into and now have no problem with it but others we still make compromises for.
Originally posted by
LavenderSkies
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03/31/2011
To each is own
04/03/2011
I would not leave them because chances are that I have an even stranger request/fantasy I would like to try with them. You have to work these things out, not leave!
04/22/2011
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Some fantasies are intended to be just that, a fantasy, and don't need to be fulfilled. Other fantasies should be fulfilled. My attitude is if my wife has a fantasy that she needs to have fulfilled, as long as it doesn't involve adultery, or cause one of us to be hospitalized or arrested, is okay with me, I will do it with a smile.
Originally posted by
LavenderSkies
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04/22/2011
we would make it work
04/23/2011
We'd find a way to compromise. You never know, I might find something new that I like. There have already been a few times where my husband and I tried things that the other wanted to do and we ended up loving it.
04/24/2011
I'd fulfill it with a smile... I love making him happy.
04/27/2011
If I liked her, I'd try to make it work.
04/27/2011
I know it's difficult to quantify "weird" for a poll like this. Weird doesn't bother me, but I presume you mean a fantasy that involves something I find disagreeable.
I'm pretty sure I'd still give it a try. If it was something that I was totally against, I'd have to be honest about it with her. If she was obsessing over it, then I'm sure it would cause problems.
I'm pretty sure I'd still give it a try. If it was something that I was totally against, I'd have to be honest about it with her. If she was obsessing over it, then I'm sure it would cause problems.
10/05/2011
It would depend on just how "weird" it was. If it was something like "I want you to dress up in latex so I can pretend that you're a life-size doll", I'd consider that odd, but probably indulge them. If it was "I want you to lie in a bathtub full of ice water and then not move so I can pretend you're a corpse. And would you mind binding and shaving so I could pretend you were a child's corpse?", then yes, I would leave in a second.
10/05/2011
Weird is alright for me and I'll do what I can for him. Detrimental, however, is a different story.
01/04/2012
Hasn't happened yet, even though my boy is sooooooooooo vanilla! *lol*
01/04/2012
No, I don't think so. People can change. My boyfriend had trouble being rough with me at first but now he does it on his own and even if he doesn't enjoy it itself, he seems to enjoy me enjoying it. I've introduced him to a couple of my other fetishes and he's warmed up to them, just as I've warmed up to his.
01/04/2012
Other; I'd probably try to get used to and eventually like it, depending.
01/04/2012
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I too agree.
Originally posted by
SexyStuff
I guess whether I would fulfill it or not depends on how weird is weird. But I wouldn't leave him, fantasies are fantasies.
01/04/2012
Only if it were really gross or immoral....for example, necrophilia, pedophilia, or poop/pee eating.
01/05/2012
Really depends on how "weird" it is.
01/05/2012
Weird, no. Fucking crazy, psychotic or illegal (think child stuff) Hell yes!
01/05/2012
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Agreed!! Maybe see what the base of the fantasy is and how we could work with it. There are some that are totally off limits....but we are already aware of each others 'limits'.
Originally posted by
Liz2
I would certainly talk about it, sometimes initially, what seems weird actually isn't.
01/05/2012
bsgs
of course there are some hard limits, but im willing to try anything once, and if i can fulfill a fantasy for my wife, thats a definite win for me. also, you never know what youll like until you try it
02/15/2012
There are only a few things that would induce me to leave my wife; a fantasy she shared with me that I might consider odd isn't one of them.
02/15/2012
I agree with Jankit, I may laugh, can't take sex too seriously either, but I'd appreciate the trust it takes to be open about certain fantasies and do my best to help make them happen, felonies excluded!!
02/15/2012
The only time I would consider leaving them is if it was something I found really disturbing. Like they had a fetish for children, or rape (not consensual rape play but the actual act) then I would probably be worried. If it was something harmless but strange, I wouldn't mind - I might even fulfill it.
02/15/2012