You're going to watch her f_ _ k another guy
I can think of other ways to spice things up before going that route. Is it more her than you ?
Did you go at her after the friend left ? Is that " friend " married?

Odd coincidence , another member said she and bf are going to a gang bang to spice up theirs. She says she's a size queen and he's a voyeur less

It sounds like you are not into this, or do not know the power of this...

The week leading to her event was HOT. We were both anticipating it each night, as he his staying over our place until he and wife find their own.

Background: He is her spanking friend (i.e. through Fetlife, q.v.) married, and in an open relationship. They have been spanking and wrestling/fighting friends for the past two years but he and his wife moved away and are moving back to the area. Wife acts like giddy with him, flirty; she is attracted to his size and strength, youth (he is 11 years younger than me). So during the course of the week, I brought up the idea to her while pounding away on her, that he could bang her. This is exciting to me and to her- she's not gonna complain! Wife wanted to start with sucking first, only. We all discussed exploring a threesome recently and he agreed to just oral explorations. I had wife watch videos and had her practice on me. Her BJ skills became AWESOME and I didn't think they could. And I was obsessed for a week with her first time giving a BJ, my heart was pounding during the day, and we had hot sex nightly...

Anyways, she we finally all got together and she sucked him. I joined and she sucked on me too, but I let her focus on him. It was fun, but I think that I was spent from the previous week of being drained and it was late (we are both early birds), and he ended up not able to get hard and we ended just both giving her attention and light touches. Wife and I went upstairs after and rocked the bed. Thinking back, it was not as I imagined (as it never is during the first time of anything I guess), but still fun and now I am turned on again thinking about her pleasuring and being pleasured by another guy. I learned that I was not excited during, as I was in anticipation. Now she wants a re-do, because she did not finish him off, and I do too. Our situation is healthy, or at least not endangering anyone or our relationship as wife and I have a rock solid relationship and this guy is honest and open, non-pressuring (in fact, we asked him to participate)

BTW research Compersion. It looks like with the head scratching that you not understand or disagree. That's fine, but for me I am into sharing. When I was younger, I had to research Zelophilia, Troilism, cuckold, polyamory, etc.

My question posted is an introspective process that helps me see the big picture and not put my sexual impulses too much in front of me. We have come to the conclusion that wife and I will probably stop at occasional BJs when I am around. But of course, there is nothing like the thought of watching her moaning and enjoying his bigger tool while they wrestle- sex ... less

No, it's a common fantasy of many if not most married couples to do it with another man. Esp a man with a much larger tool. We do talk about it while having intercourse. Esp after watching some adult vids where all men are large or as she like to say, "Huge!". Or to do a threesome. Some men like sloppy seconds, some like to see their wife's master the "huge" tool and also poop the guy out.
And some like to talk about the wife doing 2 at the same time. We are no different......when it come to dirty talk and fantasying. less

Wife gets to have stranger fuck her 4 times a year for last 7 ot 8 years.It as never been boring in the least.The week before and cpl after are far trom boring as we discuss during sex and relive her enjoyment at being total slut for some guy we never knew before him fucking her and never see again. Always a different guy. One of our rules. As is distance from home and must have Dr. papers showing Disease free. We enver do condoms as wife loves another man cumming in her,I think because she makes me clean her after I do her after he is done. less

My wife and I have started exploring threesomes and she gave head to her friend. The anticipation was HUGELY exciting! But when she did it, I watched and participated. But it was like 'no big deal' to me at the time and after. She wants to do it again, and I am all for it. But I got to wondering, what happens when if I let him do her and take it to the next level?

Would I get bored after, because that ends up being no big deal as well?

Has anyone done this and get bored? Anything novel is exciting, but I think I woiuld rather save this as a fantasy and never really do it, if it will get ordinary one day... less

My wife and I have started exploring threesomes and she gave head to her friend. The anticipation was HUGELY exciting! But when she did it, I watched and participated. But it was like 'no big deal' to me at the time and after. She wants to do it again, and I am all for it. But I got to wondering, what happens when if I let him do her and take it to the next level?

Would I get bored after, because that ends up being no big deal as well?

Has anyone done this and get bored? Anything novel is exciting, but I think I woiuld rather save this as a fantasy and never really do it, if it will get ordinary one day... less

Honestly my husband begged for years to have one so i finally got the courage to do it and it really was boring. We talked afterwards about trying maybe with someone else so eventually we did and she was very kinky and fun but we were still bored. We decided we enjoyed just having the two of us. less

Boring????? No. We have had threesomes, but we prefer to play with other couples. In a threesome someone is always competing to be in the play. It’s a good fantasy but a lot of work to keep everyone involved. First rule, don’t play with your friends, make new friends that like to play. Second rule have fun. I like knowing my husband is having fun and he like to watch me having fun. Third rule don’t force it. Let it happen naturally and everyone will have a good time. Lastly, communicate. Talk with each other before, during, and after. It’s a challenge to find like minded couples that you can trust, but when you do, wow is it amazing. Good luck. less