I'm pretty open, but I'm sure there are things that could push me over the edge.
Have you ever been so freaked out by a partner's fantasy that you felt differently about them after hearing it?
01/06/2011
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Exactly. I'm sure I wouldn't be able to deal with a few things.
Originally posted by
The Awesome Penguin
I'm pretty open, but I'm sure there are things that could push me over the edge.
01/08/2011
Every time my wife tells me about one of her fantasies, I actually feel more proud of her. When we were first married, she was such a prude, by her own admission. After 14 years, she has explored her sexuality enough that she informs me of a fantasy every few months that ends up shocking me. The shock is not just from thinking back and remembering what she was like, but some of the things she comes up with would truly shock the vast majority of people. But like I said, I view it as a positive, not a negative.
01/08/2011
Its never happened and I don't think it ever will. I'm willing to try anything that my love wants.
01/08/2011
This one guy I dated had a weird fetish of wanting to fuck me while under the influence, weak and helpless under the influence. And then he had that eerie one about his five year old cousin and that one... I couldn't deal with. He kept trying to get me pregnant cause he wanted a little girl of his own, but I just told him no go mister and we broke up.
01/09/2011
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Wow, see now that's freaky. That's one example of it being TOO much!
Originally posted by
Illusional
This one guy I dated had a weird fetish of wanting to fuck me while under the influence, weak and helpless under the influence. And then he had that eerie one about his five year old cousin and that one... I couldn't deal with. He kept trying to
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This one guy I dated had a weird fetish of wanting to fuck me while under the influence, weak and helpless under the influence. And then he had that eerie one about his five year old cousin and that one... I couldn't deal with. He kept trying to get me pregnant cause he wanted a little girl of his own, but I just told him no go mister and we broke up.
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01/09/2011
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Ditto. I'm blushy and nervous when it comes to him actually suggesting something, but my fantasies are generally way ahead as far as I know. I think I'm mainly blushy because, even though he's already tried a lot of things I haven't, I still get some of his firsts, or at least seconds (hopefully better than the firsts, he says I'm more enthusiastic than previous girls )
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
Don't place money on that bet....it's the same one Sigel made for many years while he tried to fit me into the 'traditional' box. Sex toys made me blush and stutter but my fantasies, had I told him, would (and still do) blister paint.
But, honestly, I don't think he would ever scare me away with a fantasy. Very few fantasies and turn-ons would scare me that much.
05/09/2011
Havent had a bf to my knowledge with a freaky fantasy. But if one wanted me to act a certain way and i thought it was creepy id end it if there wasnt a compermise
05/09/2011
Ohhhhh yes!! I like a manly, dominant, wild man, and even though he COULD be just that, he still had fantasies about things that were just too strange & "feminine" in my mind for my preferences, to put it lightly. And I'm not even talking about ass play. Just strange, overly-submissive shit I couldn't get down with.
05/09/2011
never
05/09/2011
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No, hasn't happened. Just because we share a fantasy doesn't mean it has to happen. We should all be able to love each other and sometimes even laugh together about "you won't believe this weird thing that is in my head that turns me on to think about".
Originally posted by
celibacysucks
Fantasy Freak Out
05/10/2011
Hasn't happened so far
05/23/2011
I honestly have. It was a silly thing - thigh high stocking/socks. Like a sexy schoolgirl. Idk why, but I automatically got grossed out by my own fiance.
As always, I got over it... and I wear them for him on fridays. lol
As always, I got over it... and I wear them for him on fridays. lol
05/24/2011
i think there are a few that i would be too freaked to get over
05/24/2011
Im a pretty dirty naughty girl so the guy Im with better be on my level. There are some things that would totally freak me out and would be a deal breaker... but it takes a lot!
05/24/2011
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Yes...at first. An ex of mine was really into the idea of face sitting which freaked me out until I tried it. I was won over.
Originally posted by
celibacysucks
Fantasy Freak Out
06/18/2011
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Jesus lady. Just wow. Fuck that fucker. :/
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
I think what really punctured my dysfunctional marriage was finding my ex-husband's self-written mother-son porn about two years into it. It finally made sense of why he wanted me pregnant - he wanted to fantasize about that. Where the low-libido
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I think what really punctured my dysfunctional marriage was finding my ex-husband's self-written mother-son porn about two years into it. It finally made sense of why he wanted me pregnant - he wanted to fantasize about that. Where the low-libido came in and his blaming me for scaring it out of him, I'm not entirely sure. Maybe it's part of having a mother fixation. But after that I was pretty much sexually dead with him, which was fine because we weren't having any.
Clueless me - I took him into marriage counseling and drove the therapist into having to color her rapidly greying hair, start drinking after twenty years of sobriety, and eventually her throwing us out of her office. I felt really bad about that, but I had no clue what was really going on. He refused to believe anything was wrong with him - after all it was 'my fault for getting worked up about a genital sneeze'. And I believed him.
I have a sudden desire to throttle him now. I suppose for his sake he's lucky he's back in Arkansas. Never again. less
Clueless me - I took him into marriage counseling and drove the therapist into having to color her rapidly greying hair, start drinking after twenty years of sobriety, and eventually her throwing us out of her office. I felt really bad about that, but I had no clue what was really going on. He refused to believe anything was wrong with him - after all it was 'my fault for getting worked up about a genital sneeze'. And I believed him.
I have a sudden desire to throttle him now. I suppose for his sake he's lucky he's back in Arkansas. Never again. less
06/18/2011
No. My partner's fantasies kind of seep into my own.... even when I find them gross at first I tend to warm up to them.
06/18/2011
I've never really had a partner who had a fantasy that freaked me out or was against my beliefs, but once I had an partner who had ahem... relations with a dog right in front of me and several others on a couch! The bad part is, it was not his house or his dog! Ha Ha I was highly turned off by it. He also insisted that I use a tooth brush holder in his back door! Those are things that are weird to me, but there were other reasons for us breaking up. I didn't like him and couldn't ever love or care for him. Anyways, yes, I could end a relationship over fantasies that go against my beliefs/morals. My partner and I are strictly monogamous BY CHOICE and we don't prefer being with only each other. We don't invite others (in movies or real life) into our sex lives & I feel very strongly on that matter and I would not have committed to him if he didn't have the same beliefs. There are certain types of beliefs that can cause things to not work. If you hate something so badly and your partner loves that thing, how would it work out? I am glad we are on the same page with it. It really works for us. Now as far as fantasies go, as long as those fantasies only involve me then I don't think I'd leave him, not after 5 years. I wouldn't be OK if his fantasy was beating or degrading, humiliating me though.
06/18/2011
not much would freak me out
06/29/2011
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Dated a girl who wanted S and M, but I was just NOT into it. I tried it (meekly and weakly) a couple times, but we "drifted apart", since we had little in common...that being one of those things we DIDN'T share.
Originally posted by
celibacysucks
Fantasy Freak Out
08/01/2011
Never really had anything crazy asked of me
08/01/2011
bsgs
thats the one thing that makes me kinda hide some of my fantasies from my wife. i still tell her, because she married me, and none of mine are really that far out there. it turns out she shares a lot of the same ones i do, she was just too shy to tell me.
02/14/2012
I've been concerned, but yeah.
02/14/2012
It would really take something intense to freak me out that much.
02/14/2012
I"m usually the one with bizarre fantasies. I've told a couple partners that I'm interested in water play, and I got some funny looks. I was never indulged but it wasn't something that I HAD to do, but it was something that I found interesting.
02/14/2012
My boyfriend's told me some that kind of... turned me off a bit at first. Lucky for me he told them to me slowly so I had time to accept each one on it's own. I'm still not gonna force myself to cry while we have sex, but now I'm more okay with the things he thinks about.
02/14/2012
im fairly unfreakoutable
02/14/2012
He hasn't had one that has freaked me out that much, but there are things I would never consider doing... and certain things that if he wanted I might not stay with him.
02/20/2012
Yes there are two fantasy's I will just not do.
02/20/2012