Never have, never will.
Have you and your significant other ever been to a sex club?
07/12/2012
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There you have it, folks, much more detailed. Thanks for filling in the blanks. I never researched the subject too deeply, so I'm not surprised I screwed up.
Originally posted by
MGDavicnigirl
The post above isn't exactly accurate.
Please allow me to elaborate.
I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ... more
Please allow me to elaborate.
I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ... more
The post above isn't exactly accurate.
Please allow me to elaborate.
I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.
Most clubs require a screening/interview prior to being granted entry. The interview can be in person or over the phone and they usually require speaking with both partners (assuming it's not a single M or F).
After the interview if you are invited to attend the club, you must pay a membership fee to the club. The fee can be charged annually, semi annually, quarterly, monthly, or lifetime. In addition to the membership fee, a couple would typically also be required to pay a nightly entrance fee - pretty much like a cover charge at any nightclub.
The fees are to offset the cost of running the club. Things like lights, water, rental space, keeping the place clean, laundry, security, DJ, bartender, maintenance like a broken light bulb or a leaky pipe, etc.
Most clubs are BYOB, because most clubs do not possess a liquor license. Most clubs supply mixers (juice, soda, garnishes, etc) and have a paid or volunteer bartender.
Clubs are pretty much like you would expect of any typical nightclub. There are people dancing, people mingling, people sitting, standing at the bar, etc.
Men are dressed in typical night club attire - nice jeans, button down shirts, or nicer shirts. Women are welcome to wear as much or as little as they are comfortable with. Some walk around naked, some only in panties, some in teeny tiny dresses, and some jeans and a t shirt. The majority of women wear mini dresses or dance wear unless there is a theme to the evening (Hawaiian, Polka Dot, School Girl, etc) then the women dress in costume accordingly.
There is a separate section of the club for “play.” Play could be anything from masturbation, oral sex, BDSM, play with toys, voyeurism, to actual sex. It can be with your own partner, someone you just met, someone you meet while you are in the room, several someones, etc. The key take away here is that:
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.
No means no. That means asking before you touch someone, watch someone, etc. If someone says no, it’s not up for discussion “Oh why not?”
I would say that most swingers attend the clubs and do not get laid 100% of the time. We probably full swap (all sexual acts are up for discussion) about 1 out of every three times that we attend, and have soft swapped (everything but penetration) maybe 1 out of every 20. Most swingers go because they like the atmosphere that the clubs provide. It’s a chance to be yourself, not be judged, and have a little fun if the opportunity presents itself.
I want to stress that the money that is being exchanged does not guarantee anything. The money is a donation that you are making towards the maintenance and upkeep of your club.
Prostitutes take money for sex. Swingers just want an even exchange – nobody is paying me to participate, or to accept any offers that come my way.
You can find locations for sex clubs/parties in your area with a simple google search -or by joining one of the many swinger online communities. less
Please allow me to elaborate.
I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.
Most clubs require a screening/interview prior to being granted entry. The interview can be in person or over the phone and they usually require speaking with both partners (assuming it's not a single M or F).
After the interview if you are invited to attend the club, you must pay a membership fee to the club. The fee can be charged annually, semi annually, quarterly, monthly, or lifetime. In addition to the membership fee, a couple would typically also be required to pay a nightly entrance fee - pretty much like a cover charge at any nightclub.
The fees are to offset the cost of running the club. Things like lights, water, rental space, keeping the place clean, laundry, security, DJ, bartender, maintenance like a broken light bulb or a leaky pipe, etc.
Most clubs are BYOB, because most clubs do not possess a liquor license. Most clubs supply mixers (juice, soda, garnishes, etc) and have a paid or volunteer bartender.
Clubs are pretty much like you would expect of any typical nightclub. There are people dancing, people mingling, people sitting, standing at the bar, etc.
Men are dressed in typical night club attire - nice jeans, button down shirts, or nicer shirts. Women are welcome to wear as much or as little as they are comfortable with. Some walk around naked, some only in panties, some in teeny tiny dresses, and some jeans and a t shirt. The majority of women wear mini dresses or dance wear unless there is a theme to the evening (Hawaiian, Polka Dot, School Girl, etc) then the women dress in costume accordingly.
There is a separate section of the club for “play.” Play could be anything from masturbation, oral sex, BDSM, play with toys, voyeurism, to actual sex. It can be with your own partner, someone you just met, someone you meet while you are in the room, several someones, etc. The key take away here is that:
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.
No means no. That means asking before you touch someone, watch someone, etc. If someone says no, it’s not up for discussion “Oh why not?”
I would say that most swingers attend the clubs and do not get laid 100% of the time. We probably full swap (all sexual acts are up for discussion) about 1 out of every three times that we attend, and have soft swapped (everything but penetration) maybe 1 out of every 20. Most swingers go because they like the atmosphere that the clubs provide. It’s a chance to be yourself, not be judged, and have a little fun if the opportunity presents itself.
I want to stress that the money that is being exchanged does not guarantee anything. The money is a donation that you are making towards the maintenance and upkeep of your club.
Prostitutes take money for sex. Swingers just want an even exchange – nobody is paying me to participate, or to accept any offers that come my way.
You can find locations for sex clubs/parties in your area with a simple google search -or by joining one of the many swinger online communities. less
07/14/2012
I live in Arkansas. Pretty sure there's nothing like that here, but I'd be curious if there was.
07/14/2012
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Wow thanks for sharing your experience. I learned something
Originally posted by
MGDavicnigirl
The post above isn't exactly accurate.
Please allow me to elaborate.
I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ... more
Please allow me to elaborate.
I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ... more
The post above isn't exactly accurate.
Please allow me to elaborate.
I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.
Most clubs require a screening/interview prior to being granted entry. The interview can be in person or over the phone and they usually require speaking with both partners (assuming it's not a single M or F).
After the interview if you are invited to attend the club, you must pay a membership fee to the club. The fee can be charged annually, semi annually, quarterly, monthly, or lifetime. In addition to the membership fee, a couple would typically also be required to pay a nightly entrance fee - pretty much like a cover charge at any nightclub.
The fees are to offset the cost of running the club. Things like lights, water, rental space, keeping the place clean, laundry, security, DJ, bartender, maintenance like a broken light bulb or a leaky pipe, etc.
Most clubs are BYOB, because most clubs do not possess a liquor license. Most clubs supply mixers (juice, soda, garnishes, etc) and have a paid or volunteer bartender.
Clubs are pretty much like you would expect of any typical nightclub. There are people dancing, people mingling, people sitting, standing at the bar, etc.
Men are dressed in typical night club attire - nice jeans, button down shirts, or nicer shirts. Women are welcome to wear as much or as little as they are comfortable with. Some walk around naked, some only in panties, some in teeny tiny dresses, and some jeans and a t shirt. The majority of women wear mini dresses or dance wear unless there is a theme to the evening (Hawaiian, Polka Dot, School Girl, etc) then the women dress in costume accordingly.
There is a separate section of the club for “play.” Play could be anything from masturbation, oral sex, BDSM, play with toys, voyeurism, to actual sex. It can be with your own partner, someone you just met, someone you meet while you are in the room, several someones, etc. The key take away here is that:
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.
No means no. That means asking before you touch someone, watch someone, etc. If someone says no, it’s not up for discussion “Oh why not?”
I would say that most swingers attend the clubs and do not get laid 100% of the time. We probably full swap (all sexual acts are up for discussion) about 1 out of every three times that we attend, and have soft swapped (everything but penetration) maybe 1 out of every 20. Most swingers go because they like the atmosphere that the clubs provide. It’s a chance to be yourself, not be judged, and have a little fun if the opportunity presents itself.
I want to stress that the money that is being exchanged does not guarantee anything. The money is a donation that you are making towards the maintenance and upkeep of your club.
Prostitutes take money for sex. Swingers just want an even exchange – nobody is paying me to participate, or to accept any offers that come my way.
You can find locations for sex clubs/parties in your area with a simple google search -or by joining one of the many swinger online communities. less
Please allow me to elaborate.
I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.
Most clubs require a screening/interview prior to being granted entry. The interview can be in person or over the phone and they usually require speaking with both partners (assuming it's not a single M or F).
After the interview if you are invited to attend the club, you must pay a membership fee to the club. The fee can be charged annually, semi annually, quarterly, monthly, or lifetime. In addition to the membership fee, a couple would typically also be required to pay a nightly entrance fee - pretty much like a cover charge at any nightclub.
The fees are to offset the cost of running the club. Things like lights, water, rental space, keeping the place clean, laundry, security, DJ, bartender, maintenance like a broken light bulb or a leaky pipe, etc.
Most clubs are BYOB, because most clubs do not possess a liquor license. Most clubs supply mixers (juice, soda, garnishes, etc) and have a paid or volunteer bartender.
Clubs are pretty much like you would expect of any typical nightclub. There are people dancing, people mingling, people sitting, standing at the bar, etc.
Men are dressed in typical night club attire - nice jeans, button down shirts, or nicer shirts. Women are welcome to wear as much or as little as they are comfortable with. Some walk around naked, some only in panties, some in teeny tiny dresses, and some jeans and a t shirt. The majority of women wear mini dresses or dance wear unless there is a theme to the evening (Hawaiian, Polka Dot, School Girl, etc) then the women dress in costume accordingly.
There is a separate section of the club for “play.” Play could be anything from masturbation, oral sex, BDSM, play with toys, voyeurism, to actual sex. It can be with your own partner, someone you just met, someone you meet while you are in the room, several someones, etc. The key take away here is that:
ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.
No means no. That means asking before you touch someone, watch someone, etc. If someone says no, it’s not up for discussion “Oh why not?”
I would say that most swingers attend the clubs and do not get laid 100% of the time. We probably full swap (all sexual acts are up for discussion) about 1 out of every three times that we attend, and have soft swapped (everything but penetration) maybe 1 out of every 20. Most swingers go because they like the atmosphere that the clubs provide. It’s a chance to be yourself, not be judged, and have a little fun if the opportunity presents itself.
I want to stress that the money that is being exchanged does not guarantee anything. The money is a donation that you are making towards the maintenance and upkeep of your club.
Prostitutes take money for sex. Swingers just want an even exchange – nobody is paying me to participate, or to accept any offers that come my way.
You can find locations for sex clubs/parties in your area with a simple google search -or by joining one of the many swinger online communities. less
07/14/2012
No, and I don't think I'd like to go to one.
07/14/2012
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Originally posted by
Rixiy
I live in Arkansas. Pretty sure there's nothing like that here, but I'd be curious if there was.
Here are two!
07/14/2012
I think we've talked about it a couple times with an open idea.
07/15/2012
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hell yeah wed go to one with no shame but we r very open
Originally posted by
AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
07/15/2012
We've talked casually about it. I think the reality wouldn't be as good as the fantasy of it. Reality or fantasy, both focus more on an exhibitionist bent rather than some desire for interaction with others.
07/28/2012
I didn't know this was legal. Not for me.
07/28/2012
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too much for me
Originally posted by
AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
07/30/2012
There's a BDSM club in NY that I would like to go to.
07/30/2012
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The risk of STDS make me say hell no.
Originally posted by
AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
08/11/2012
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I would love to go and watch but I wouldn't participate because what I have, I don't want to share with anyone..
Originally posted by
AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
08/12/2012
never have but id go
08/12/2012
It is something we have been looking at doing.
08/12/2012
No, that is not for me.
08/12/2012
No, but I'd like to
08/12/2012
No but it is something that I would be interested in doing at some point
08/12/2012
Hell no. Not for us.
08/12/2012
Uh, that's just nasty. HELL no!
08/12/2012
I checked one out. I was surprised how clean and respectable it actually was. The people I met were very friendly and not pushy at all. I'm also a big fan of the movie Shortbus, and it reminded me of that.
08/14/2012
I haven't but my partner has for a fetish night event recently. I would have gone along, but we're on different continents at the moment
08/14/2012
Not for me
08/15/2012
We haven't been, but I wouldn't mind going. Could be a lot of fun.
08/15/2012
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No, and I wouldn't want to.
Originally posted by
AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
08/19/2012
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Nope!
Originally posted by
AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
08/27/2012
I have never heard of this before.
09/01/2012
I did with my former lover and it was fun having sex in a room with others having sex. The social parts are not as much fun and can be cliquy.
09/21/2012
No and I wouldn't want to go
09/28/2012